Re: How do you share good news

[Guest guest]

Maybe if you just make a general announcement to everyone at the same time via

FaceBook or one of the social networking sites, or, send a general e-mail and

copy nada along with all the other family members you want to share your news

with, nada will simply get the news at the same time at everyone else. Then

perhaps it won't seem like you're breaking your low-contact with her.

-Annie

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> For the first time in my life I have finally succeeded at something. And YES I

truly believe it is because I have been on little to no contact with my Nada for

nine months now. The best nine months of my life. I want to share my news with

my family and friends, but if my Nada finds out through anyone else but me it

will be a serious issue. So how do I tell her with out breaking my low contact

boundary. Can I e-mail something like this? Or does anyone have any better

advice?

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> Thanks everyone. I love that I can come to you with this stuff.

> Em

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[Guest guest]

Hi , and congratulations on your success and may you have many, many more.

I think the " general announcement " suggestion on Facebook or group e-mail with a

cc to Nada somewhere in the middle of the list (do not put her first or last

IMO) is a good way to go. It seems like you have gotten your first taste of life

without the withering hand of Nada and look what you can achieve!

Somewhere else in this WTO posting, Doug mentioned a book called Safe People by

Cloud Townsend. I immediately searched for it on Amazon, and was able to read

excerpts from the chapters. Finding " safe people " to build an alternative

support family and friends is crucial to surviving a BPD-centered family. I just

ordered the book online, and there are used copies available from as cheap as

$2.50. Pretty good value for life-saving advice. The book is Christian-oriented,

but to my eyes, it's didn't seem necessary to belong to the religion in order to

gain wise and practical advice from the pages.

Keep going, keep climbing, and get as much distance between you and Nada, and as

much closeness with " safe people " as possible.

Sincerely, offered,

AFB

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> For the first time in my life I have finally succeeded at something. And YES I

truly believe it is because I have been on little to no contact with my Nada for

nine months now. The best nine months of my life. I want to share my news with

my family and friends, but if my Nada finds out through anyone else but me it

will be a serious issue. So how do I tell her with out breaking my low contact

boundary. Can I e-mail something like this? Or does anyone have any better

advice?

>

> Thanks everyone. I love that I can come to you with this stuff.

> Em

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[Guest guest]

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No advice here.

Just this: WOO HOO!!! Good girl!! Way to go!!!

Totally cool, Ms. Successful. You deserve to be celebrated!!!

Blessings,

Karla

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> For the first time in my life I have finally succeeded at something. And YES I

truly believe it is because I have been on little to no contact with my Nada for

nine months now. The best nine months of my life. I want to share my news with

my family and friends, but if my Nada finds out through anyone else but me it

will be a serious issue. So how do I tell her with out breaking my low contact

boundary. Can I e-mail something like this? Or does anyone have any better

advice?

>

> Thanks everyone. I love that I can come to you with this stuff.

> Em

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, thank you guys, this is so great to have you all here for everything.

Thank you so much.

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> > For the first time in my life I have finally succeeded at something. And YES

I truly believe it is because I have been on little to no contact with my Nada

for nine months now. The best nine months of my life. I want to share my news

with my family and friends, but if my Nada finds out through anyone else but me

it will be a serious issue. So how do I tell her with out breaking my low

contact boundary. Can I e-mail something like this? Or does anyone have any

better advice?

> >

> > Thanks everyone. I love that I can come to you with this stuff.

> > Em

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