Re: Re: squishing a mega flea - my individualitry

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thta's excatly why i've changed my thinking. i do not let my mom get to me

anymore. no matter what she says, i don't take it personally anymore.

it was never personal, but that was too hard to see.

now, i know who i am, and i don't have to listen to her garbage about me

anymore.

i'm not free in my feelings...still working on those...but i am free in that she

can't hurt me anymore.

amy

Re: squishing a mega flea - my individualitry

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> I'm reading a book by a woman who overcame addition by controlling her

> thinking. When she has a thought that bothers her, the first thing she does

> is to try to determine if the thought is totally TRUE.

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That's the basic premise of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy...learn to challenge

negative thoughts, and replace them with TRUE and gentle thoughts.

> as a KO, I was raised to believe that I am nothing but a reflection and

> extension of my parents. Anything good belongs to them. Any acheivement

> belongs to them. Anything and everything about me that makes me good, fun,

> interesting, effective or human is a direct result of them.

I've been thinking about this lately, too. It's like they want to take credit

for all of our good, while making us take the blame for all of their bad.

Really makes you feel used when you think of it that way.

kt