Re: Re: New Here..a little lost

[Guest guest]

Welcome, Rish. Glad to have you with us.Your post is very brave and honest. These qualities will serve you well on your IE journey. I promise: it DOES get easier! trusting yourself is so hard in the beginning! 

best,abbyIE since 11/08

 

Welcome Rish! I think you will quickly find that you are in the right place here.

My first introduction to not dieting was Geenen Roth's books too. Really connected with the concept, just could not do like she did, and of course no support groups (then - 1990s). All that changed when I found this group.

Jump right in! Post questions, comments, whines, rants etc. just sticking to the IE topic and we all will benefit.

Happy IE journey!

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book " Break Free from Emotional Eating. " It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the " food plan " was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!

>

> Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the " transition phase " that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating " to be safe. "

>

> I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

>

[Guest guest]

yes, Katcha, mindfulness is certainly better. I had a friend who had childhood diabetes and she told me that she would sneak down to the pantry at night to have a few cookies. Her mother knew about this and never stopped her. Turns out that later on a doctor told her if she had not done that, she might not have been able to have children, and she had two beautiful children, now adults. So many people are having gluten problems these days and the supermarkets and even restaurants have sections of gluten free products. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Friday, August 5, 2011 3:28 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Tai I so know what you mean about doughnuts. I love a maple bar now and then, 'just because'. And now that I am trying to avoid gluten these are a touch in the 'forbidden' category which I have to remind myself they are NOT. I can choose to eat one, but not only keeping mindFULLness up front, also that doing so will more than likely produce unpleasant effects digestive wise. Oh well, some times I just have to HAVE whatever and let that run its course. That's so much better than nibble nagging until I eat IT anyway.

Oh and as far as nutrition goes, I remember what one of the IE authors told her son when he made a comment about s'junk food'. She said that she does eat some now and then, preferring to refer to it as 'play food' (as in for the fun of it?!?) . Love that attitude!

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

-s-- In IntuitiveEating_Support , Tailyn Grey wrote:

>

> He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-) Tai

[Guest guest]

yes, Katcha, mindfulness is certainly better. I had a friend who had childhood diabetes and she told me that she would sneak down to the pantry at night to have a few cookies. Her mother knew about this and never stopped her. Turns out that later on a doctor told her if she had not done that, she might not have been able to have children, and she had two beautiful children, now adults. So many people are having gluten problems these days and the supermarkets and even restaurants have sections of gluten free products. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Friday, August 5, 2011 3:28 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Tai I so know what you mean about doughnuts. I love a maple bar now and then, 'just because'. And now that I am trying to avoid gluten these are a touch in the 'forbidden' category which I have to remind myself they are NOT. I can choose to eat one, but not only keeping mindFULLness up front, also that doing so will more than likely produce unpleasant effects digestive wise. Oh well, some times I just have to HAVE whatever and let that run its course. That's so much better than nibble nagging until I eat IT anyway.

Oh and as far as nutrition goes, I remember what one of the IE authors told her son when he made a comment about s'junk food'. She said that she does eat some now and then, preferring to refer to it as 'play food' (as in for the fun of it?!?) . Love that attitude!

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

-s-- In IntuitiveEating_Support , Tailyn Grey wrote:

>

> He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-) Tai

[Guest guest]

yes, Katcha, mindfulness is certainly better. I had a friend who had childhood diabetes and she told me that she would sneak down to the pantry at night to have a few cookies. Her mother knew about this and never stopped her. Turns out that later on a doctor told her if she had not done that, she might not have been able to have children, and she had two beautiful children, now adults. So many people are having gluten problems these days and the supermarkets and even restaurants have sections of gluten free products. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Friday, August 5, 2011 3:28 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Tai I so know what you mean about doughnuts. I love a maple bar now and then, 'just because'. And now that I am trying to avoid gluten these are a touch in the 'forbidden' category which I have to remind myself they are NOT. I can choose to eat one, but not only keeping mindFULLness up front, also that doing so will more than likely produce unpleasant effects digestive wise. Oh well, some times I just have to HAVE whatever and let that run its course. That's so much better than nibble nagging until I eat IT anyway.

Oh and as far as nutrition goes, I remember what one of the IE authors told her son when he made a comment about s'junk food'. She said that she does eat some now and then, preferring to refer to it as 'play food' (as in for the fun of it?!?) . Love that attitude!

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

-s-- In IntuitiveEating_Support , Tailyn Grey wrote:

>

> He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-) Tai