Re: New Here..a little lost

August 4, 2011

Welcome Rish! I think you will quickly find that you are in the right place

here.

My first introduction to not dieting was Geenen Roth's books too. Really

connected with the concept, just could not do like she did, and of course no

support groups (then - 1990s). All that changed when I found this group.

Jump right in! Post questions, comments, whines, rants etc. just sticking to the

IE topic and we all will benefit.

Happy IE journey!

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to

the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple

years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book " Break Free from Emotional

Eating. " It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself!

That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with

food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of

self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined

Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the " food plan " was exactly the opposite

of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I

wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using

blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could

really use some help!

>

> Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some

chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I

know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my

body. I'm scared to go through the " transition phase " that people talk about

because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally

gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds

in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons

at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the

way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating " to be

safe. "

>

> I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better

and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a

loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin.

I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into

unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

>

August 4, 2011

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book " Break Free from Emotional Eating. " It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the " food plan " was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!

Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the " transition phase " that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating " to be safe. "

I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 4, 2011

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book " Break Free from Emotional Eating. " It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the " food plan " was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!

Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the " transition phase " that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating " to be safe. "

I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-)

TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book "Break Free from Emotional Eating." It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the "food plan" was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!

Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the "transition phase" that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating "to be safe."

I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-)

TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book "Break Free from Emotional Eating." It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the "food plan" was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!

Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the "transition phase" that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating "to be safe."

I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-)

TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book "Break Free from Emotional Eating." It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the "food plan" was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!

Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the "transition phase" that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating "to be safe."

I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Tai, glad to hear from you and that you dealt so well with the donut issue. I stopped eating them years ago because they just sat so heavy in my stomach and made me feel awful.. It took a long time though of reminding myself about that before I stopped being tempted. Even yesterday I looked longinly at one but quickly reminded myself of why I don't eat them. I almost took one though. I am under a lot of stress right now thinking about the liver biopsy on Tues and am doing more emotional eating. I know it when I am and sometimes just give myself permission. But then I feel physical awful and regret doing it, and guilty. I know this will ease off after the surgery. I still am pretty sure I will have to make some new choices regarding food and stay away from fat and sugar. Thanks for your post. Sandy

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-)

Tai

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book " Break Free from Emotional Eating. " It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the " food plan " was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!

Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the " transition phase " that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating " to be safe. "

I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Tai, glad to hear from you and that you dealt so well with the donut issue. I stopped eating them years ago because they just sat so heavy in my stomach and made me feel awful.. It took a long time though of reminding myself about that before I stopped being tempted. Even yesterday I looked longinly at one but quickly reminded myself of why I don't eat them. I almost took one though. I am under a lot of stress right now thinking about the liver biopsy on Tues and am doing more emotional eating. I know it when I am and sometimes just give myself permission. But then I feel physical awful and regret doing it, and guilty. I know this will ease off after the surgery. I still am pretty sure I will have to make some new choices regarding food and stay away from fat and sugar. Thanks for your post. Sandy

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-)

Tai

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book " Break Free from Emotional Eating. " It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the " food plan " was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!

Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the " transition phase " that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating " to be safe. "

I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Tai, glad to hear from you and that you dealt so well with the donut issue. I stopped eating them years ago because they just sat so heavy in my stomach and made me feel awful.. It took a long time though of reminding myself about that before I stopped being tempted. Even yesterday I looked longinly at one but quickly reminded myself of why I don't eat them. I almost took one though. I am under a lot of stress right now thinking about the liver biopsy on Tues and am doing more emotional eating. I know it when I am and sometimes just give myself permission. But then I feel physical awful and regret doing it, and guilty. I know this will ease off after the surgery. I still am pretty sure I will have to make some new choices regarding food and stay away from fat and sugar. Thanks for your post. Sandy

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-)

Tai

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book " Break Free from Emotional Eating. " It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the " food plan " was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!

Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the " transition phase " that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating " to be safe. "

I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Sandy I am an emotional eater too and know what you mean whenever I get stressed I want to eat and some days I give in to it and some days I don't that is just how it goes you shouldn't feel guilty about it though just take it a day at a time and be happy about the victories you have each day and not concentrate on the other moments except to learn why you did them so you can try not to do it again all we can do is try our best each day. I had to post to you because you mentioned donuts and they are bringing some to my Sunday school class on Sunday and I am trying t find something to bring to class that I can eat because I feel the same way you do after I eat one and I don't want to feel that way so hopefully I can find something to bring that makes my body feel good. I do have to admit though that every once in a while I eat a doughnut when I am hungry and feel like one but lately when i get the feeling for one I buy those mini choclate covered doughnuts because they don't give me that heavy feeling. Eva

Tai, glad to hear from you and that you dealt so well with the donut issue. I stopped eating them years ago because they just sat so heavy in my stomach and made me feel awful.. It took a long time though of reminding myself about that before I stopped being tempted. Even yesterday I looked longinly at one but quickly reminded myself of why I don't eat them. I almost took one though. I am under a lot of stress right now thinking about the liver biopsy on Tues and am doing more emotional eating. I know it when I am and sometimes just give myself permission. But then I feel physical awful and regret doing it, and guilty. I know this will ease off after the surgery. I still am pretty sure I will have to make some new choices regarding food and stay away from fat and sugar. Thanks for your post. Sandy

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-) Tai

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book "Break Free from Emotional Eating." It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the "food plan" was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the "transition phase" that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating "to be safe."I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Sandy I am an emotional eater too and know what you mean whenever I get stressed I want to eat and some days I give in to it and some days I don't that is just how it goes you shouldn't feel guilty about it though just take it a day at a time and be happy about the victories you have each day and not concentrate on the other moments except to learn why you did them so you can try not to do it again all we can do is try our best each day. I had to post to you because you mentioned donuts and they are bringing some to my Sunday school class on Sunday and I am trying t find something to bring to class that I can eat because I feel the same way you do after I eat one and I don't want to feel that way so hopefully I can find something to bring that makes my body feel good. I do have to admit though that every once in a while I eat a doughnut when I am hungry and feel like one but lately when i get the feeling for one I buy those mini choclate covered doughnuts because they don't give me that heavy feeling. Eva

Tai, glad to hear from you and that you dealt so well with the donut issue. I stopped eating them years ago because they just sat so heavy in my stomach and made me feel awful.. It took a long time though of reminding myself about that before I stopped being tempted. Even yesterday I looked longinly at one but quickly reminded myself of why I don't eat them. I almost took one though. I am under a lot of stress right now thinking about the liver biopsy on Tues and am doing more emotional eating. I know it when I am and sometimes just give myself permission. But then I feel physical awful and regret doing it, and guilty. I know this will ease off after the surgery. I still am pretty sure I will have to make some new choices regarding food and stay away from fat and sugar. Thanks for your post. Sandy

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-) Tai

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book "Break Free from Emotional Eating." It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the "food plan" was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the "transition phase" that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating "to be safe."I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Sandy I am an emotional eater too and know what you mean whenever I get stressed I want to eat and some days I give in to it and some days I don't that is just how it goes you shouldn't feel guilty about it though just take it a day at a time and be happy about the victories you have each day and not concentrate on the other moments except to learn why you did them so you can try not to do it again all we can do is try our best each day. I had to post to you because you mentioned donuts and they are bringing some to my Sunday school class on Sunday and I am trying t find something to bring to class that I can eat because I feel the same way you do after I eat one and I don't want to feel that way so hopefully I can find something to bring that makes my body feel good. I do have to admit though that every once in a while I eat a doughnut when I am hungry and feel like one but lately when i get the feeling for one I buy those mini choclate covered doughnuts because they don't give me that heavy feeling. Eva

Tai, glad to hear from you and that you dealt so well with the donut issue. I stopped eating them years ago because they just sat so heavy in my stomach and made me feel awful.. It took a long time though of reminding myself about that before I stopped being tempted. Even yesterday I looked longinly at one but quickly reminded myself of why I don't eat them. I almost took one though. I am under a lot of stress right now thinking about the liver biopsy on Tues and am doing more emotional eating. I know it when I am and sometimes just give myself permission. But then I feel physical awful and regret doing it, and guilty. I know this will ease off after the surgery. I still am pretty sure I will have to make some new choices regarding food and stay away from fat and sugar. Thanks for your post. Sandy

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-) Tai

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book "Break Free from Emotional Eating." It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the "food plan" was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the "transition phase" that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating "to be safe."I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Sandy, I have given some thought to this (and I hope, of course, that your diagnosis comes out well), but I am somewhat aware of my thought process when I eat things maybe against myself (?). And I think, "aw, who cares if I live or die? Who cares how I look? I don't care how others perceive me or how I perceive myself. I don't care if I eat this and get higher cholesterol," etc. and so forth. It's not a good thing. In the meantime, however, it is a nice thing to know when you're full and can stop eating, and that you don't HAVE TO kill yourself with eating when you're not hungry. That's how I see it, dear heart. But today I got really full from the donuts and thought that I do not need them anymore. Normally, as I said, they are not available to me, and when I went to

Walmart's recently I thought I would like more donuts but honestly, nothing can beat these donuts this motel gets from a local bakery. So why settle for less, LOL? I did not buy the Walmart donuts. Tai

August 5, 2011

Sandy, I have given some thought to this (and I hope, of course, that your diagnosis comes out well), but I am somewhat aware of my thought process when I eat things maybe against myself (?). And I think, "aw, who cares if I live or die? Who cares how I look? I don't care how others perceive me or how I perceive myself. I don't care if I eat this and get higher cholesterol," etc. and so forth. It's not a good thing. In the meantime, however, it is a nice thing to know when you're full and can stop eating, and that you don't HAVE TO kill yourself with eating when you're not hungry. That's how I see it, dear heart. But today I got really full from the donuts and thought that I do not need them anymore. Normally, as I said, they are not available to me, and when I went to

Walmart's recently I thought I would like more donuts but honestly, nothing can beat these donuts this motel gets from a local bakery. So why settle for less, LOL? I did not buy the Walmart donuts. Tai

August 5, 2011

Sandy, I have given some thought to this (and I hope, of course, that your diagnosis comes out well), but I am somewhat aware of my thought process when I eat things maybe against myself (?). And I think, "aw, who cares if I live or die? Who cares how I look? I don't care how others perceive me or how I perceive myself. I don't care if I eat this and get higher cholesterol," etc. and so forth. It's not a good thing. In the meantime, however, it is a nice thing to know when you're full and can stop eating, and that you don't HAVE TO kill yourself with eating when you're not hungry. That's how I see it, dear heart. But today I got really full from the donuts and thought that I do not need them anymore. Normally, as I said, they are not available to me, and when I went to

Walmart's recently I thought I would like more donuts but honestly, nothing can beat these donuts this motel gets from a local bakery. So why settle for less, LOL? I did not buy the Walmart donuts. Tai

August 5, 2011

Eva, thanks. I ate most of a package of chocolate goldfish grahams and realized later I felt worse. Instead of calming me it made me more anxious. Probably because I forgot to have some protein with it. But I am not hungry now and most likely won't be until later. When I am going to be away from the food choices I want, I often bring cheese, an apple, nuts, or a granola bar/protein bar. Yesterday I forgot to pack anything but luckily I had a granola bar in my purse. I go to coffee and donuts each Wednesday morning here at my park. I used to eat before I went, but they changed the time from 9 to 8am. Too early for me to eat. But I almost never want a donut. I often get asked but most of my friends know I don't eat them or drink coffee. I just go for the friendship. Good luck with you donuts. Sandy

Sandy I am an emotional eater too and know what you mean whenever I get stressed I want to eat and some days I give in to it and some days I don't that is just how it goes you shouldn't feel guilty about it though just take it a day at a time and be happy about the victories you have each day and not concentrate on the other moments except to learn why you did them so you can try not to do it again all we can do is try our best each day. I had to post to you because you mentioned donuts and they are bringing some to my Sunday school class on Sunday and I am trying t find something to bring to class that I can eat because I feel the same way you do after I eat one and I don't want to feel that way so hopefully I can find something to bring that makes my body feel good. I do have to admit though that every once in a while I eat a doughnut when I am hungry and feel like one but lately when i get the feeling for one I buy those mini choclate covered doughnuts because they don't give me that heavy feeling. Eva

Tai, glad to hear from you and that you dealt so well with the donut issue. I stopped eating them years ago because they just sat so heavy in my stomach and made me feel awful.. It took a long time though of reminding myself about that before I stopped being tempted. Even yesterday I looked longinly at one but quickly reminded myself of why I don't eat them. I almost took one though. I am under a lot of stress right now thinking about the liver biopsy on Tues and am doing more emotional eating. I know it when I am and sometimes just give myself permission. But then I feel physical awful and regret doing it, and guilty. I know this will ease off after the surgery. I still am pretty sure I will have to make some new choices regarding food and stay away from fat and sugar. Thanks for your post. Sandy

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-) Tai

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book " Break Free from Emotional Eating. " It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the " food plan " was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the " transition phase " that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating " to be safe. " I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Eva, thanks. I ate most of a package of chocolate goldfish grahams and realized later I felt worse. Instead of calming me it made me more anxious. Probably because I forgot to have some protein with it. But I am not hungry now and most likely won't be until later. When I am going to be away from the food choices I want, I often bring cheese, an apple, nuts, or a granola bar/protein bar. Yesterday I forgot to pack anything but luckily I had a granola bar in my purse. I go to coffee and donuts each Wednesday morning here at my park. I used to eat before I went, but they changed the time from 9 to 8am. Too early for me to eat. But I almost never want a donut. I often get asked but most of my friends know I don't eat them or drink coffee. I just go for the friendship. Good luck with you donuts. Sandy

Sandy I am an emotional eater too and know what you mean whenever I get stressed I want to eat and some days I give in to it and some days I don't that is just how it goes you shouldn't feel guilty about it though just take it a day at a time and be happy about the victories you have each day and not concentrate on the other moments except to learn why you did them so you can try not to do it again all we can do is try our best each day. I had to post to you because you mentioned donuts and they are bringing some to my Sunday school class on Sunday and I am trying t find something to bring to class that I can eat because I feel the same way you do after I eat one and I don't want to feel that way so hopefully I can find something to bring that makes my body feel good. I do have to admit though that every once in a while I eat a doughnut when I am hungry and feel like one but lately when i get the feeling for one I buy those mini choclate covered doughnuts because they don't give me that heavy feeling. Eva

Tai, glad to hear from you and that you dealt so well with the donut issue. I stopped eating them years ago because they just sat so heavy in my stomach and made me feel awful.. It took a long time though of reminding myself about that before I stopped being tempted. Even yesterday I looked longinly at one but quickly reminded myself of why I don't eat them. I almost took one though. I am under a lot of stress right now thinking about the liver biopsy on Tues and am doing more emotional eating. I know it when I am and sometimes just give myself permission. But then I feel physical awful and regret doing it, and guilty. I know this will ease off after the surgery. I still am pretty sure I will have to make some new choices regarding food and stay away from fat and sugar. Thanks for your post. Sandy

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-) Tai

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book " Break Free from Emotional Eating. " It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the " food plan " was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the " transition phase " that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating " to be safe. " I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011

Thanks Sandy and I hope things are gooing well for you I am glad that you are noticing why you want certain foods and how they effect you that is the key to discovering what foods our body really wants and that is different for everyone Eva

Eva, thanks. I ate most of a package of chocolate goldfish grahams and realized later I felt worse. Instead of calming me it made me more anxious. Probably because I forgot to have some protein with it. But I am not hungry now and most likely won't be until later. When I am going to be away from the food choices I want, I often bring cheese, an apple, nuts, or a granola bar/protein bar. Yesterday I forgot to pack anything but luckily I had a granola bar in my purse. I go to coffee and donuts each Wednesday morning here at my park. I used to eat before I went, but they changed the time from 9 to 8am. Too early for me to eat. But I almost never want a donut. I often get asked but most of my friends know I don't eat them or drink coffee. I just go for the friendship. Good luck with you donuts. Sandy

Sandy I am an emotional eater too and know what you mean whenever I get stressed I want to eat and some days I give in to it and some days I don't that is just how it goes you shouldn't feel guilty about it though just take it a day at a time and be happy about the victories you have each day and not concentrate on the other moments except to learn why you did them so you can try not to do it again all we can do is try our best each day. I had to post to you because you mentioned donuts and they are bringing some to my Sunday school class on Sunday and I am trying t find something to bring to class that I can eat because I feel the same way you do after I eat one and I don't want to feel that way so hopefully I can find something to bring that makes my body feel good. I do have to admit though that every once in a while I eat a doughnut when I am hungry and feel like one but lately when i get the feeling for one I buy those mini choclate covered doughnuts because they don't give me that heavy feeling. Eva

Tai, glad to hear from you and that you dealt so well with the donut issue. I stopped eating them years ago because they just sat so heavy in my stomach and made me feel awful.. It took a long time though of reminding myself about that before I stopped being tempted. Even yesterday I looked longinly at one but quickly reminded myself of why I don't eat them. I almost took one though. I am under a lot of stress right now thinking about the liver biopsy on Tues and am doing more emotional eating. I know it when I am and sometimes just give myself permission. But then I feel physical awful and regret doing it, and guilty. I know this will ease off after the surgery. I still am pretty sure I will have to make some new choices regarding food and stay away from fat and sugar. Thanks for your post. Sandy

Hi, Sandy. We are still on vacation (me and my husband) and I like to sleep late so I often miss the breakfast time at the motel. He brings me two donuts and coffee in the morning. (He did this at my behest.) Their donuts are simply delicious (a local bakery), and I like them very much. But today -- FINALLY -- I told him not to bring them up any more. :-) Whew! Was I glad I got to that point, but I still respected myself when I ate those donuts because I knew when I was full. sometimes aware I was a little too full when eating them thaings. OK OK, I know nutritionists say they are not nutritionally sound -- and I never EVER have donuts for breakfast (or -- generally speaking -- any other time) at home, LOL, but I really did enjoy those donuts and am also glad I told him not to bring up any more donuts. :-) Tai

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, August 4, 2011 9:34 PMSubject: Re: New Here..a little lost

Rish, welcome, Glad to have you along. This is a great group and you will get a lot of support and learn a lot too. As we all say it's a journey and taking little steps is the best way for most. Maybe like starting with eat whenever you are hungry and stop when you are full. It takes a while to learn those signals even. Keep writing in. Sandy

Hi everyone, my name is Rish and I'm new to this support group. I'm not new to the idea of intuitive eating. When I was struggling with binge eating a couple years ago in college, I picked up Geneen Roth's book "Break Free from Emotional Eating." It was so eerie to read because I felt like I was reading about myself! That's when something in my head started to tell me that I have a problem with food. It wasn't until a year after that--and many pounds and a lot of self-hate--that I finally admitted to myself the extent of my problem. I joined Overeaters Anonymous but deep down knew the "food plan" was exactly the opposite of what I needed. I've done more than a lifetime's worth of food plans and I wanted to be free. I've been trying to work at intuitive eating on my own, using blogs and other resources for help. But some days I'm just confused, and could really use some help!Yesterday for example, I ate a sandwich and some orange juice, then some chicken nuggets at night. I was undereating in fear of gaining weight, and I know that's not intuitive eating at all. I'm still scared about trusting my body. I'm scared to go through the "transition phase" that people talk about because I'm afraid of how much weight I will gain. A few months ago I finally gave up dieting and ate whatever I wanted, and ended up gaining about 15 pounds in a short amount of time. I know that I was eating mostly for emotional reasons at the time and that scares me. I don't want my emotional eating to get in the way of my intuitive eating, so I think that's why I've been undereating "to be safe."I'm sorry about how long this is, I'm just trying to understand this better and get over my fears. I read somewhere that intuitive eating is about wanting a loving relationship with yourself more than you want to be comfortable and thin. I'm praying that I can hold on to that desire even as I take risks and move into unfamiliar territory with my eating. Thanks for listening!

August 5, 2011