RE: Intro post of Fredia (was: Re: Emotionally damaged)

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the Group, Fredia.

Me personally, from what I've read I believe that its not uncommon for the child

of an overly-dramatic bpd mother to shut down emotionally or dissociate around

the bpd mother as a unconscious, automatic psychological survival mechanism.

The inappropriate and intense anger of bpd, the paranoid thinking, the wild mood

swings (super happy to suicidally depressed to ballistic rage within minutes)

are overwhelming, bewildering and downright terrifying to a child, particularly

when its coming from her own mother. (And particularly in cases like mine,

where my borderline pd/narcissistic pd mother would often turn her rage on me,

blame me for/ accuse me of *whatever*, scream at me and even work herself up

into beating me and/or my little Sister with a belt.)

Knowledge is power, and empowering. My suggestion is that you read up as much

as possible about borderline pd, and about how to set up and maintain personal

boundaries with the bpd in your life. There are many good books on these topics

now.

There is a recommended reading list at the website for this support Group.

Here's the link:

http://www.bpdcentral.com/index.php

Two books that I highly recommend are " Understanding The Borderline Mother " and

" Surviving A Borderline Parent. "

-Annie

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> Hi, I am new here. My first post has not been approved and posted yet but I am

> reading this thread with interest.

>

> Forgive my lack of knowledge of this whole thing, but I notice many of you

> mention dissociating with your parents. Would that explain why I have always

> been unable to have any sympathy for my mom in any situation? She can burst

into

> tears in a dramatic retelling of an event and I find myself staring blankly at

> her and forcing myself to utter some sort of sympathetic words " I'm sorry to

> hear that " while in the back of my mind, I am fighting the impulse to leave

the

> room?

> Does that make sense?

>

> She recently went on some mission trips to a foreign country with her church

and

> I was completely unable to be excited, happy, or interested in anything about

> her trip. (Partly because she is now saying she wants to move there, but that

is

> another drama).

>

> I'm an RN, not a psych doctor. So some of this is new terminology to me. The

> good news is, I am 31 years old and discovering that I am not, after all, a

> cold, hearted witch just the product of a mom (and dad) who truly have a

mental

> illness.

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