Nada is so cruel

[Guest guest]

I called her today to tell her my best friend gave birth to her second son and

that they were both doing good. I thought this is good news, but my nada had to

go on and on about how awful my friend is and how awful it is that I idolize her

(I have no idea where she got that idea) and how the kids were bastards and why

couldn't my friend keep her legs together (what year are we in? it's pretty easy

to have sex and not have kids, and why is my friends sex life even up for

discussion??) and how they're welfare children (they aren't on welfare but the

kids are on medicaid) and how she doesn't believe in people having illegitimate

children without marriage. (I don't really care what she believes in, it's

really irrelevant to my friend having a kid.) I asked if money would fall into

my friends lap if she got married and suddenly they would have health insurance,

but Nada wouldn't answer, she just kept ranting. My friend's partner is in

medical school, and Nada was saying " He'll never ever be a doctor, she'll pop

out kids and get fat and support him through school and then he'll find someone

better looking " . My friend is not " popping out kids " she has 2 that are 3 years

apart and she's turning 30. They both work to support their kids, the kids are

wanted. This doesn't seem that abnormal to me.

Then she goes into a rant that I'M not married and having kids, even though I

have even less money than my friend. (I'd have " welfare children " if I had

kids.) She went on about how all my cousins are getting married and have kids.

Well, my cousins are Mormons! They all had kids by 20. I'm not a Morman, and

frankly my Nada would freak out if I was (she is kind of bigoted against them.)

I've told her I have no reason to get married and she hates that. (I'm very

pragmatic and don't care about tradition. Plus I see HER marriage and don't even

want anything with the same name frankly.)

I don't know why she cares so much about whether or not my friend, who lives on

the other side of the country, is not married. She's so cruel. I just wanted to

tell her GOOD news and she turned it into some crazy rant about how bad my best

friends life is going to turn out.

Casey