Apparently, I need help

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I just have to vent. I am trying really hard to not let all this get to me but

its starting to.

Since this last blow up of my mom's her " psychologist " is really got her hook

line and sinker into the victim mentality. She is making dramatic phone calls

just to talk to my preschool-aged daughter with very dramatic " I-love-you's " on

the other end (no i love you's to me) and calling to thank me for " letting " her

speak with her granddaughter. As if that weren't enough, she is being icy cold

with no emotion or feeling and giving me the impression she can't stand me

without saying so. She went from calling 1-2 times daily several weeks ago to

not calling at all.

I'm trying not to let it get to me that I feel really unloved by her right now.

I thought I had detached myself from the hurt but times like this it comes back.

I have heard through the grapevine that all her siblings as well as all her

children have told my mom that she needs to stop seeing her current " therapist "

and get another one, that it seems to be making her worse.

My brother overheard my mom's phone conversation this morning...she was telling

someone that her therapist said " All your siblings as well as your children have

been in traumatic homes growing up. They have never gotten help for themselves

so they can't say that your therapist is not good for you. Until they get help,

they have no authority to say things like that " .

That BURNED ME UP. I'm just so sick of this psychologist supposedly pitting my

mom against her family. She has all but shut all family out of her life

emotionally except for the handful of " new " friends she has that are listening

to her sob story about how terrible she is being treated by her family.

I have a suspicion that this psychologist is also encouraging LC with us.

There is nothing I can do.

At one time when I told my mom I would agree to meet with her jointly for a

mediated session but I refused to meet with her therapist, I looked up to see if

anyone in my area specialized in BPD...there is one and her credentials are

this: M.Ed., Ed.S., CSAT - S, NCC - whatever that means. She is a licensed

professional counselor. She has extensive experience in BPD.

Is it " fleas " or wrong in any way for me to do a joint session with my mom with

someone who sees BPD every day to see if she can gather a repoire with my mom

and possibly convince her to temporarily switch therapy there while we go

together? Just a thought in my head. I know that's trying to fix the situation.

Maybe that is being too involved.

I'm just SO tired of the drama. Two weeks ago she was semi-functioning. The

shutting me out and acting like I'm nothing to her and that I am the ENEMY is

what hurts the most.

I'm not ready to give up on my relationship with her yet.