I am so sorry!

[Guest guest]

I replied to a message that I thought was private to the wrong group...so sorry

guys! LOL I'm a dork.

Re: Bleeding Heart BPD

Received two more emails from her yesterday, one was just a forwarded thing, the

other a request for me to call and talk to her. Not going to happen and she

needs to move along. The more she persists the more convinced I am that this is

one unhealthy person whom I never want in my life again.

K

> > >

> > > Hi,

> > > A while back I posted about an annoying " friend " and her husband who kept

looking to my husband and I to help meet their personal and business needs.

Several of you identified her as a BPD.

> > >

> > > We've set boundaries and have kept our distance from them, but she keeps

testing. After no contact for weeks, she sent a nice Happy Thanksgiving text to

my phone, to which I replied. But the very next day I got emails and voice

messages once again asking me to have my husband call her husband to help him

with a vehicle problem, which we ignored. Last week her husband called to

" chat " with mine and to get a feel if they'd be invited to our home for

Christmas again this year. They joined us last year because they had no where

else to go. Now I see why! My husband said I was handling all the Christmas

plans and left it at that. The next day I got an email from her, and I told my

husband that he went and fed them some attention and now they're back for more.

Just like feeding a stray.

> > >

> > > Today we received a Christmas card with no return address....it was from

her of course. Inside was a lengthy note expressing her desire to " reconcile "

our relationship, and she just can't fathom what she said to me that caused such

distance and begging won't I please find it in my heart and mind to give her a

call, after all we were such a blessing in their lives and she thought it was

mutual.

> > >

> > > I know from experience with other BPDs, I can't really be frank about her

being a " black hole of need " because she'll never see it or admit to it and will

only set myself up to be the target of vengeful behavior.

> > >

> > > Wondered if anyone out there knows of a way to send her on her way or is

continuing to ignore her the best approach?

> > >

> > >

> > > Thanks all,

> > > K

> > >

> > >

> > > Is there an alternative I may be missing?

> > >

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