Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 , don't beat yourself up. You recognized what you did and you learned something from it. Move on! Probably before IE, you would eat that healthy dinner anyway....now you know you aren't hungry for it. That's coming a long way! Barb To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, August 22, 2011 4:29 PMSubject: Bummer! I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. I ate "lunch" before hearing/feeling "the rumble." I didn't even feel close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat it? "Because it was there." It makes no sense and it is very disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. Thanks for listening and understanding. Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 It's a journey - it's great that you realised but beating yourself up is self-defeating and likely to perpetuate the behaviour - the worse you feel the more likely you are to swing back into the old behaviours. So notice it. Be curious about why you did it and then move on. One meal before you were hungry is not a big deal. No need to awfulise it!! Just be kind to yourself and get on with your day. Clare > > I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. [] > I ate " lunch " before hearing/feeling " the rumble. " I didn't even feel > close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food > is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat > it? " Because it was there. " It makes no sense and it is very > disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy > planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. > Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. > Thanks for listening and understanding. > Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 It's a journey - it's great that you realised but beating yourself up is self-defeating and likely to perpetuate the behaviour - the worse you feel the more likely you are to swing back into the old behaviours. So notice it. Be curious about why you did it and then move on. One meal before you were hungry is not a big deal. No need to awfulise it!! Just be kind to yourself and get on with your day. Clare > > I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. [] > I ate " lunch " before hearing/feeling " the rumble. " I didn't even feel > close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food > is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat > it? " Because it was there. " It makes no sense and it is very > disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy > planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. > Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. > Thanks for listening and understanding. > Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 , just an observation, (and I know its' harder to do than to advise!) -- to me it looks like you are going into a diet mentality, " planning " to eat mindfully, and then when a meal did not work out right, you are " planning " to not be hungry for the rest of the day. You can't tell your body it will not be hungry, or dieting would work! Relax a bit. Handle NOW. You don't control the past, the present, or the future. Try to let your body hunger control the now in relation to food. GL Judy T > > I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. [] > I ate " lunch " before hearing/feeling " the rumble. " I didn't even feel > close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food > is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat > it? " Because it was there. " It makes no sense and it is very > disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy > planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. > Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. > Thanks for listening and understanding. > Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 , just an observation, (and I know its' harder to do than to advise!) -- to me it looks like you are going into a diet mentality, " planning " to eat mindfully, and then when a meal did not work out right, you are " planning " to not be hungry for the rest of the day. You can't tell your body it will not be hungry, or dieting would work! Relax a bit. Handle NOW. You don't control the past, the present, or the future. Try to let your body hunger control the now in relation to food. GL Judy T > > I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. [] > I ate " lunch " before hearing/feeling " the rumble. " I didn't even feel > close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food > is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat > it? " Because it was there. " It makes no sense and it is very > disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy > planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. > Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. > Thanks for listening and understanding. > Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 Thanks, Judy. I appreciate your feedback. I am finding that I really do LOVE the process of getting hungry and eating moderately to satisfy the hunger. Unfortunately, I know that I have eaten too much to enjoy my dinner at dinner time, and this is disappointing - not crushing, but very disappointing to me. I am an early-to-bed person, and I prefer not to eat too close to bedtime for fear that my sleep will be interrupted. I am not planning to starve myself - thus slip into the diet binge cycle that began this whole mess decades ago. I am enjoying permission to follow the natural process of hunger and satiety. What a concept, huh? In the past, I heard things like (whether they came from others or were just messages in my own brain), "You HAVE to eat a little something." Well, today, I do not "have" to eat unless I am hungry. Yay! And I am the only one who is the judge of that. It takes some effort to own this, and not let others assume this power. I am grateful to IE for giving me this gift, a gift I had at one time long ago, but lost during many years of looking to others for answers to my issues with food and weight. > >> > I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. []> > I ate "lunch" before hearing/feeling "the rumble." I didn't even feel> > close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food> > is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat> > it? "Because it was there." It makes no sense and it is very> > disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy> > planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy.> > Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons.> > Thanks for listening and understanding.> > Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 I was telling my sister (also a life long dieter who is obese) about IE and she stopped me and said it would never work for her to eat only when hungry. She said she firmly believes it is better for your body and metabolism to eat 5-6 times a day and in fact it's a medically proven fact. Then she said there's no way she'd be hungry 5-6 times a day so that wouldn't work at all. Ok cool whatever. Sunny Re: Bummer! Thanks, Judy. I appreciate your feedback. I am finding that I really do LOVE the process of getting hungry and eating moderately to satisfy the hunger. Unfortunately, I know that I have eaten too much to enjoy my dinner at dinner time, and this is disappointing - not crushing, but very disappointing to me. I am an early-to-bed person, and I prefer not to eat too close to bedtime for fear that my sleep will be interrupted. I am not planning to starve myself - thus slip into the diet binge cycle that began this whole mess decades ago. I am enjoying permission to follow the natural process of hunger and satiety. What a concept, huh? In the past, I heard things like (whether they came from others or were just messages in my own brain), "You HAVE to eat a little something." Well, today, I do not "have" to eat unless I am hungry. Yay! And I am the only one who is the judge of that. It takes some effort to own this, and not let others assu me this power. I am grateful to IE for giving me this gift, a gift I had at one time long ago, but lost during many years of looking to others for answers to my issues with food and weight. > > > > I have once aga in robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. [] > > I ate "lunch" before hearing/feeling "the rumble." I didn't even feel > > close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food > > is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat > > it? "Because it was there." It makes no sense and it is very > > disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy > > planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. > > Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. > > Thanks for listening and understanding. > > Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 I was telling my sister (also a life long dieter who is obese) about IE and she stopped me and said it would never work for her to eat only when hungry. She said she firmly believes it is better for your body and metabolism to eat 5-6 times a day and in fact it's a medically proven fact. Then she said there's no way she'd be hungry 5-6 times a day so that wouldn't work at all. Ok cool whatever. Sunny Re: Bummer! Thanks, Judy. I appreciate your feedback. I am finding that I really do LOVE the process of getting hungry and eating moderately to satisfy the hunger. Unfortunately, I know that I have eaten too much to enjoy my dinner at dinner time, and this is disappointing - not crushing, but very disappointing to me. I am an early-to-bed person, and I prefer not to eat too close to bedtime for fear that my sleep will be interrupted. I am not planning to starve myself - thus slip into the diet binge cycle that began this whole mess decades ago. I am enjoying permission to follow the natural process of hunger and satiety. What a concept, huh? In the past, I heard things like (whether they came from others or were just messages in my own brain), "You HAVE to eat a little something." Well, today, I do not "have" to eat unless I am hungry. Yay! And I am the only one who is the judge of that. It takes some effort to own this, and not let others assu me this power. I am grateful to IE for giving me this gift, a gift I had at one time long ago, but lost during many years of looking to others for answers to my issues with food and weight. > > > > I have once aga in robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. [] > > I ate "lunch" before hearing/feeling "the rumble." I didn't even feel > > close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food > > is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat > > it? "Because it was there." It makes no sense and it is very > > disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy > > planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. > > Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. > > Thanks for listening and understanding. > > Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 , Got it. Similar lunch for me today. I WAS hungry, but somehow just ate too much too fast and then suddenly I was overfull, drat it. I was stressed at the time and eating in that " driven " way and even though I wasn't doing anything else EXCEPT think about the stressful stuff which I'm worried about, it was enough to take the mindfulness away and I entirely missed my body's signal. I got frustrated with myself (probably because I was already stressed-out) and then remembered that all I have to do is wait until the next time I'm hungry before I eat and focus THEN. Jane > > I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. [] > I ate " lunch " before hearing/feeling " the rumble. " I didn't even feel > close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food > is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat > it? " Because it was there. " It makes no sense and it is very > disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy > planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. > Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. > Thanks for listening and understanding. > Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 , Got it. Similar lunch for me today. I WAS hungry, but somehow just ate too much too fast and then suddenly I was overfull, drat it. I was stressed at the time and eating in that " driven " way and even though I wasn't doing anything else EXCEPT think about the stressful stuff which I'm worried about, it was enough to take the mindfulness away and I entirely missed my body's signal. I got frustrated with myself (probably because I was already stressed-out) and then remembered that all I have to do is wait until the next time I'm hungry before I eat and focus THEN. Jane > > I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. [] > I ate " lunch " before hearing/feeling " the rumble. " I didn't even feel > close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food > is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat > it? " Because it was there. " It makes no sense and it is very > disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy > planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. > Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. > Thanks for listening and understanding. > Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 , Got it. Similar lunch for me today. I WAS hungry, but somehow just ate too much too fast and then suddenly I was overfull, drat it. I was stressed at the time and eating in that " driven " way and even though I wasn't doing anything else EXCEPT think about the stressful stuff which I'm worried about, it was enough to take the mindfulness away and I entirely missed my body's signal. I got frustrated with myself (probably because I was already stressed-out) and then remembered that all I have to do is wait until the next time I'm hungry before I eat and focus THEN. Jane > > I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. [] > I ate " lunch " before hearing/feeling " the rumble. " I didn't even feel > close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food > is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat > it? " Because it was there. " It makes no sense and it is very > disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy > planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. > Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. > Thanks for listening and understanding. > Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 Well, , it is refreshing to know that I"m not the ONLY one...TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, August 22, 2011 4:29 PMSubject: Bummer! I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. I ate "lunch" before hearing/feeling "the rumble." I didn't even feel close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat it? "Because it was there." It makes no sense and it is very disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. Thanks for listening and understanding. Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 Well, , it is refreshing to know that I"m not the ONLY one...TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, August 22, 2011 4:29 PMSubject: Bummer! I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. I ate "lunch" before hearing/feeling "the rumble." I didn't even feel close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat it? "Because it was there." It makes no sense and it is very disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. Thanks for listening and understanding. Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 Agreed, Barb. To not eat because you thought you WERE going to eat but then find you're not hungry is really a major accomplishment! I used to eat because that's what I thought I had to do, and I would become so sick afterwards. That has not happened for a long time because I'm learning to stop more when I'm no longer hungry. TaiTo: "IntuitiveEating_Support " <IntuitiveEating_Support >Sent: Monday, August 22, 2011 5:21 PMSubject: Re: Bummer! , don't beat yourself up. You recognized what you did and you learned something from it. Move on! Probably before IE, you would eat that healthy dinner anyway....now you know you aren't hungry for it. That's coming a long way! Barb To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, August 22, 2011 4:29 PMSubject: Bummer! I have once again robbed myself of the gift of intuitive eating. I ate "lunch" before hearing/feeling "the rumble." I didn't even feel close to hungry. It was one of those too familiar situations when food is presented - and I just eat. It's like Mount Everest. Why did I eat it? "Because it was there." It makes no sense and it is very disappointing - for several reasons. I will not be hungry for my healthy planned dinner. I am over full now. The foods I ate were not healthy. Blah. Blah. Blah. As if I have to tell you the reasons. Thanks for listening and understanding. Waiting for the next rumble, , IE since 7/2011 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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