My child fell in a trashcan under nada's supervision

[Guest guest]

I just found out in casual conversation with my first-grader that his little

brother (2 years old) fell in the city sanitation trash can while under nada's

care. We were holding the rabbit and cleaning out her cage in the yard. He

said, " Be careful with this trash can, Mom, Sam can climb up it. " I said, do

you mean he could or he has?

He said, " Oh, the last time Grandma watched us, he climbed it and fell in. But

I helped get him out, " he said proudly. I said, " Where was Grandma? " - trying

to sound calm and conversational and avoiding direct eye contact. He said, " She

was going number 2 in my bathroom; I was supposed to watch him. "

My 2 year-old was left unsupervised 15 feet from the road long enough to get to

the garage, climb a trash can, fall in, and get rescued by his brother. Suffice

it to say - - -

My children will NEVER be left unsupervised with her for 1 minute as long as I'm

alive.

[Guest guest]

Wow, I agree. Good choice. Your two year old is lucky that he didn't get hurt

falling into a city garbage dumpster, thank God. Some bpds just lack even basic

parenting skills, and it seems your nada is one of them. Kudos to you for

deciding " no unsupervised visits " from now on.

-Annie

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> I just found out in casual conversation with my first-grader that his little

brother (2 years old) fell in the city sanitation trash can while under nada's

care. We were holding the rabbit and cleaning out her cage in the yard. He

said, " Be careful with this trash can, Mom, Sam can climb up it. " I said, do

you mean he could or he has?

>

> He said, " Oh, the last time Grandma watched us, he climbed it and fell in.

But I helped get him out, " he said proudly. I said, " Where was Grandma? " -

trying to sound calm and conversational and avoiding direct eye contact. He

said, " She was going number 2 in my bathroom; I was supposed to watch him. "

>

> My 2 year-old was left unsupervised 15 feet from the road long enough to get

to the garage, climb a trash can, fall in, and get rescued by his brother.

Suffice it to say - - -

>

> My children will NEVER be left unsupervised with her for 1 minute as long as

I'm alive.

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks Annie,

I appreciate your encouragement whether directly to my posts or reading your

replies to others. I notice that you had severe abuse in your past but choose

to see the best in others. Kudos.

p.s. The trash can incident was a relief in a weird sort of way because I don't

feel guilty about the decision now. It's like a little talisman I can wear

around my neck mentally to remind me of how freaking crazy this whole thing

really is - in case I forget and go walking down the yellow brick road again...

[Guest guest]

You're welcome, cmd. And mozz is right, that's why keeping a diary or journal

every day noting the bizarre, covert, weird incidents RE nada helps a lot.

After a while you can really start to see some repeating patterns in the abusive

behaviors; its not just you being " too sensitive " , this stuff is real.

-Annie

> >

> > Thanks Annie,

> > I appreciate your encouragement whether directly to my posts or reading your

replies to others. I notice that you had severe abuse in your past but choose

to see the best in others. Kudos.

> >

> > p.s. The trash can incident was a relief in a weird sort of way because I

don't feel guilty about the decision now. It's like a little talisman I can

wear around my neck mentally to remind me of how freaking crazy this whole thing

really is - in case I forget and go walking down the yellow brick road again...

> >

>

[Guest guest]

You're welcome, cmd. And mozz is right, that's why keeping a diary or journal

every day noting the bizarre, covert, weird incidents RE nada helps a lot.

After a while you can really start to see some repeating patterns in the abusive

behaviors; its not just you being " too sensitive " , this stuff is real.

-Annie

> >

> > Thanks Annie,

> > I appreciate your encouragement whether directly to my posts or reading your

replies to others. I notice that you had severe abuse in your past but choose

to see the best in others. Kudos.

> >

> > p.s. The trash can incident was a relief in a weird sort of way because I

don't feel guilty about the decision now. It's like a little talisman I can

wear around my neck mentally to remind me of how freaking crazy this whole thing

really is - in case I forget and go walking down the yellow brick road again...

> >

>

[Guest guest]

You're welcome, cmd. And mozz is right, that's why keeping a diary or journal

every day noting the bizarre, covert, weird incidents RE nada helps a lot.

After a while you can really start to see some repeating patterns in the abusive

behaviors; its not just you being " too sensitive " , this stuff is real.

-Annie

> >

> > Thanks Annie,

> > I appreciate your encouragement whether directly to my posts or reading your

replies to others. I notice that you had severe abuse in your past but choose

to see the best in others. Kudos.

> >

> > p.s. The trash can incident was a relief in a weird sort of way because I

don't feel guilty about the decision now. It's like a little talisman I can

wear around my neck mentally to remind me of how freaking crazy this whole thing

really is - in case I forget and go walking down the yellow brick road again...

> >

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