Re: Has Growing Up with BPB Ruined Your Romantic Relationships?

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Agreed- big time screwed up! I married a version of my nada.

It is so very painful!

Excellent topic!

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> Yes, yes, yes and yes! Wow, I could have written your post. My experience was

so similar, and I also felt like giving up. I attracted alcoholics like my fada,

emotional blackmailers, abusers, and losers throughout my twenties. I finally

took a hiatus, sound familiar?

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> I created a very, very discriminating 'criteria' list for my 'potential man.

For starters, it included items such as: Must have a job, must not be on

psychological meds, must not be divorced, must have a car, must be groomed, must

have no addictions, must be intelligent, must have sense of humour, etc. NO

EXCEPTIONS. The list was very extensive. After much time alone, I then went onto

internet dating and dated my ass off. I screened guys mercilessly online before

chatting whatsoever. I then met only the ones who met all the criteria. Then, I

mercilessly screened those guys, until guess what?

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> No more frogs, my prince appeared! It took me 31 years but he was worth it.

The key is to screen, screen, and screen these guys mercilessly with zero guilt.

Always polite and nice, but DISCRIMINATE always!!! Don't deviate from your list.

ok? (It helps to have a critical list with MUST/MUST NOT haves that you cannot

compromise on, and then a sublist of things you could compromise on later such

as: blue eyes, likes hummus, etc.) make sense?

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> He will show up eventually, I promise.

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