Re: I'm going to see a counselor

[Guest guest]

Dear CLM,

Congratulations! It's true that our culture typically sees asking for help,

espcially from a counselor, as a negative thing, a sign of weakness. But as you

said, and as you can see, it is really a sign of strength. It takes a great deal

of strength to overcome the fear of stigma and the fear of opening up about the

things that hurt us most in order to ask for help. Many people can't do

that...But I say if you can find a counselor whom you trust, whom you relate to,

and who has similar ideas to yours, then counseling/therapy can be SUCH A HUGE

HELP! I know my life would not be the same now, if I would even be alive, if it

weren't for my therapist.

So, reading this entry, I'm really happy for you! This is great news. I hope you

can find someone who feels like a good match for you, though I encourage anyone

to keep trying different ones until they feel comfortable (from my personal

experience). I once had a doctor who tried to tell me that my GAD and MDD were

all in my head and that I should pray to the Virgin to heal myself...when

of course, though I didn't know it at the time, in reality the issue was my BP

nada. I had to find a therapist instead who realized this for me, had the

insight and professional skills to assess the situation, and the will and

ability to genuinely help me. I'm sure you can find that, too.

Good luck, CMD! You've taken a HUGE step!!

~Elle

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

Dear CLM,

Congratulations! It's true that our culture typically sees asking for help,

espcially from a counselor, as a negative thing, a sign of weakness. But as you

said, and as you can see, it is really a sign of strength. It takes a great deal

of strength to overcome the fear of stigma and the fear of opening up about the

things that hurt us most in order to ask for help. Many people can't do

that...But I say if you can find a counselor whom you trust, whom you relate to,

and who has similar ideas to yours, then counseling/therapy can be SUCH A HUGE

HELP! I know my life would not be the same now, if I would even be alive, if it

weren't for my therapist.

So, reading this entry, I'm really happy for you! This is great news. I hope you

can find someone who feels like a good match for you, though I encourage anyone

to keep trying different ones until they feel comfortable (from my personal

experience). I once had a doctor who tried to tell me that my GAD and MDD were

all in my head and that I should pray to the Virgin to heal myself...when

of course, though I didn't know it at the time, in reality the issue was my BP

nada. I had to find a therapist instead who realized this for me, had the

insight and professional skills to assess the situation, and the will and

ability to genuinely help me. I'm sure you can find that, too.

Good luck, CMD! You've taken a HUGE step!!

~Elle

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

Dear CLM,

Congratulations! It's true that our culture typically sees asking for help,

espcially from a counselor, as a negative thing, a sign of weakness. But as you

said, and as you can see, it is really a sign of strength. It takes a great deal

of strength to overcome the fear of stigma and the fear of opening up about the

things that hurt us most in order to ask for help. Many people can't do

that...But I say if you can find a counselor whom you trust, whom you relate to,

and who has similar ideas to yours, then counseling/therapy can be SUCH A HUGE

HELP! I know my life would not be the same now, if I would even be alive, if it

weren't for my therapist.

So, reading this entry, I'm really happy for you! This is great news. I hope you

can find someone who feels like a good match for you, though I encourage anyone

to keep trying different ones until they feel comfortable (from my personal

experience). I once had a doctor who tried to tell me that my GAD and MDD were

all in my head and that I should pray to the Virgin to heal myself...when

of course, though I didn't know it at the time, in reality the issue was my BP

nada. I had to find a therapist instead who realized this for me, had the

insight and professional skills to assess the situation, and the will and

ability to genuinely help me. I'm sure you can find that, too.

Good luck, CMD! You've taken a HUGE step!!

~Elle

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

Bravo Coalminersdotter! I congratulate you for your courage. You are such a

wonderfull person you deserve to be happy.You allready have managed to heal so

many things and for sure you will manage kick out this KO staff out of your

sistem. I'm with you :-))

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

Bravo Coalminersdotter! I congratulate you for your courage. You are such a

wonderfull person you deserve to be happy.You allready have managed to heal so

many things and for sure you will manage kick out this KO staff out of your

sistem. I'm with you :-))

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

Bravo Coalminersdotter! I congratulate you for your courage. You are such a

wonderfull person you deserve to be happy.You allready have managed to heal so

many things and for sure you will manage kick out this KO staff out of your

sistem. I'm with you :-))

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

I'm new here but saw your post and I just wanted to give you kuddos for your

very brave and excellent decision. Counseling brought me back from the brink of

a near nervous breakdown. My NADA was living in my home at the same time my

suspected BPSO and I were together. Two of them at once, OMG! Were it not for

counseling, I wouldn't have made it. My counselor thinking they might both be

BP suggested I get one out of my home and then wait, heal a bit and then deal

with the other. For a short time they both went into vindictive strike out

mode. Each feeding off the other's hatred and blaming me. My counselor kept me

going, helped me deal with the past, the then, present and got me back on my

feet in a healthy way without having to be totally drugged up and succumbing to

panic attacks. After they were both out of my daily life, the panic attacks

miraculously disappeared and I learned that there had to be NC with either of

them ever again if I wanted emotional stability for me.

I'm so, so glad that you are making a good and loving choice for you. There is

so much hope ahead of you and I'm so happy for you. This journey may not be

easy but its worth it. You deserve to heal and be happy.

Many blessings to you.

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

I'm new here but saw your post and I just wanted to give you kuddos for your

very brave and excellent decision. Counseling brought me back from the brink of

a near nervous breakdown. My NADA was living in my home at the same time my

suspected BPSO and I were together. Two of them at once, OMG! Were it not for

counseling, I wouldn't have made it. My counselor thinking they might both be

BP suggested I get one out of my home and then wait, heal a bit and then deal

with the other. For a short time they both went into vindictive strike out

mode. Each feeding off the other's hatred and blaming me. My counselor kept me

going, helped me deal with the past, the then, present and got me back on my

feet in a healthy way without having to be totally drugged up and succumbing to

panic attacks. After they were both out of my daily life, the panic attacks

miraculously disappeared and I learned that there had to be NC with either of

them ever again if I wanted emotional stability for me.

I'm so, so glad that you are making a good and loving choice for you. There is

so much hope ahead of you and I'm so happy for you. This journey may not be

easy but its worth it. You deserve to heal and be happy.

Many blessings to you.

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

CMD, that's awesome. I truly know the feeling of, " Oh, I can't sit and talk

about this AGAIN, " but as the therapist who finally helped me heal said back to

me, " But this is the last time you'll ever have to talk through this kind of

pain, because this time, things are going to change. " She was right.

There has been previous discussion here on helpful hints for getting a

BPD-informed counselor. What you want to avoid like the plague is one of those

" kiss and makeup let's look on the bright side forgive and forget " types. If you

" shop around " stating clearly that mother is a BP and asking what their

experience is in dealing with the the disorder, you'll get a clearer picture if

you've got the right person.

Up, up and away!

AFB

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

congrats, making that call and finding the right therapist for you is not always

easy and can take a lot of courage.. good luck!ann

Subject: Re: I'm going to see a counselor

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 9:03 AM

 

CMD, that's awesome. I truly know the feeling of, " Oh, I can't sit and

talk about this AGAIN, " but as the therapist who finally helped me heal said

back to me, " But this is the last time you'll ever have to talk through this

kind of pain, because this time, things are going to change. " She was right.

There has been previous discussion here on helpful hints for getting a

BPD-informed counselor. What you want to avoid like the plague is one of those

" kiss and makeup let's look on the bright side forgive and forget " types. If you

" shop around " stating clearly that mother is a BP and asking what their

experience is in dealing with the the disorder, you'll get a clearer picture if

you've got the right person.

Up, up and away!

AFB

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

congrats, making that call and finding the right therapist for you is not always

easy and can take a lot of courage.. good luck!ann

Subject: Re: I'm going to see a counselor

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 9:03 AM

 

CMD, that's awesome. I truly know the feeling of, " Oh, I can't sit and

talk about this AGAIN, " but as the therapist who finally helped me heal said

back to me, " But this is the last time you'll ever have to talk through this

kind of pain, because this time, things are going to change. " She was right.

There has been previous discussion here on helpful hints for getting a

BPD-informed counselor. What you want to avoid like the plague is one of those

" kiss and makeup let's look on the bright side forgive and forget " types. If you

" shop around " stating clearly that mother is a BP and asking what their

experience is in dealing with the the disorder, you'll get a clearer picture if

you've got the right person.

Up, up and away!

AFB

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

congrats, making that call and finding the right therapist for you is not always

easy and can take a lot of courage.. good luck!ann

Subject: Re: I'm going to see a counselor

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 9:03 AM

 

CMD, that's awesome. I truly know the feeling of, " Oh, I can't sit and

talk about this AGAIN, " but as the therapist who finally helped me heal said

back to me, " But this is the last time you'll ever have to talk through this

kind of pain, because this time, things are going to change. " She was right.

There has been previous discussion here on helpful hints for getting a

BPD-informed counselor. What you want to avoid like the plague is one of those

" kiss and makeup let's look on the bright side forgive and forget " types. If you

" shop around " stating clearly that mother is a BP and asking what their

experience is in dealing with the the disorder, you'll get a clearer picture if

you've got the right person.

Up, up and away!

AFB

>

> Dear WTO Group,

>

> I have decided that I will start counseling in January. I used to think that

I would " have " to go to counseling if I got really bad off or dangerously

depressed again. Now I think I will choose to go - in order to be better than I

am now.

>

> I would like to thank so many of you for mentioning your therapists and the

help they have given. I can see that going to counseling is a strength, not a

weakness. I can see this because of how strong you all are.

>

> I saw counselors as a teenager when suicidal and hospitalized. And I went a

couple of years ago for behavioral sessions in marriage counseling. I'm

convinced that saved our marriage. But I have not gone to work through this KO

stuff, since I have been avoiding the whole issue like the plague my whole life

pretending like it doesn't exist. I can think of nothing more horrible than

sitting in an office talking for hours about the person I hate most in this

life. Just the fact that I feel actual hatred is a warning signal. Someone

mentioned this about anger being a flashing red light to tell us something is

wrong.

>

> I think it's time to bite the bullet on this one, though. So I am going to

call for an appointment and start after the new year. Thank you all.

>

> +Coal Miner's Daughter

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks! That perspective is truly liberating. I might not have to keep

rehashing this bullsh** forever then? That would be good, real good. In that

case, I am even more willing to give it a go.

Advice on this one anyone?... Weird thing, but so typically enmeshed and

KO/BPDish:

I briefly saw a counselor before the marriage counseling stint (it was a handful

of joint sessions with behavioral/solution-oriented focus). The intake

counselor started with me individually and then we moved on to the other one for

our joint sessions due to appointment time availability and the fact that we

both just liked the guy.

Anyway, this intake counselor is the supervisor/advisor for the counselors in

the practice and offered to continue with me individually as well. She said I

needed to work on issues with my mother. I told her that she might be right,

but I could not possibly deal with that at the time. I felt I had worked

through this stuff years ago with journaling and letter writing, etc. BUT, of

course, she was right.

Funny thing is, I recommended her to MY NADA! Duh! So KO. Step-dad was

terminal, nada caretaking and depressed with the whole thing. Anyway, I'm not

sure what their policy is on working with me now and should I try to see her

again? Would her knowing nada help or hurt my counseling?

Another weird aspect is that I had some trouble with her emotionally, not sure

why. I think she reminded me of my sister or something? Could that actually be

helpful or should I look for someone I actually like better and/or feel more

comfortable around? I think I might have been nervous because of counseling

more than the counselor?

Either way, I'm gonna give her a call to let her know I'm facing it now.

+Coal Miner's Daughter

>

> CMD, that's awesome. I truly know the feeling of, " Oh, I can't sit and talk

about this AGAIN, " but as the therapist who finally helped me heal said back to

me, " But this is the last time you'll ever have to talk through this kind of

pain, because this time, things are going to change. " She was right.

>

> There has been previous discussion here on helpful hints for getting a

BPD-informed counselor. What you want to avoid like the plague is one of those

" kiss and makeup let's look on the bright side forgive and forget " types. If you

" shop around " stating clearly that mother is a BP and asking what their

experience is in dealing with the the disorder, you'll get a clearer picture if

you've got the right person.

> Up, up and away!

> AFB

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks! That perspective is truly liberating. I might not have to keep

rehashing this bullsh** forever then? That would be good, real good. In that

case, I am even more willing to give it a go.

Advice on this one anyone?... Weird thing, but so typically enmeshed and

KO/BPDish:

I briefly saw a counselor before the marriage counseling stint (it was a handful

of joint sessions with behavioral/solution-oriented focus). The intake

counselor started with me individually and then we moved on to the other one for

our joint sessions due to appointment time availability and the fact that we

both just liked the guy.

Anyway, this intake counselor is the supervisor/advisor for the counselors in

the practice and offered to continue with me individually as well. She said I

needed to work on issues with my mother. I told her that she might be right,

but I could not possibly deal with that at the time. I felt I had worked

through this stuff years ago with journaling and letter writing, etc. BUT, of

course, she was right.

Funny thing is, I recommended her to MY NADA! Duh! So KO. Step-dad was

terminal, nada caretaking and depressed with the whole thing. Anyway, I'm not

sure what their policy is on working with me now and should I try to see her

again? Would her knowing nada help or hurt my counseling?

Another weird aspect is that I had some trouble with her emotionally, not sure

why. I think she reminded me of my sister or something? Could that actually be

helpful or should I look for someone I actually like better and/or feel more

comfortable around? I think I might have been nervous because of counseling

more than the counselor?

Either way, I'm gonna give her a call to let her know I'm facing it now.

+Coal Miner's Daughter

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> CMD, that's awesome. I truly know the feeling of, " Oh, I can't sit and talk

about this AGAIN, " but as the therapist who finally helped me heal said back to

me, " But this is the last time you'll ever have to talk through this kind of

pain, because this time, things are going to change. " She was right.

>

> There has been previous discussion here on helpful hints for getting a

BPD-informed counselor. What you want to avoid like the plague is one of those

" kiss and makeup let's look on the bright side forgive and forget " types. If you

" shop around " stating clearly that mother is a BP and asking what their

experience is in dealing with the the disorder, you'll get a clearer picture if

you've got the right person.

> Up, up and away!

> AFB

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