Who's got a BPD'er from hell.

[Guest guest]

Hello,

I'm in the midst of a financial nuclear winter. Have been for 10 years. Last 5

five have been hard. Last two have been a Church of Satan advertisement

campaign.

Um, I'd like to know who's life has been eviscerated financially to totally be

the only person trapped like a rat in a BPD'er hell house.

He's my Dad, and holy canoli, is he a control freak. I'm bankrupt have no job,

car, friends, girlfriend, family members, neighbors(he's convinced them I'm

violent), boss, totally freaking nothing. I get up and watch tv and surf the

net all day, every day. I've begged him to go to a coney island for a year now

and he get's mad even when I ask. The weird thing is he doesn't want me here.

He tells me to get out like a 100 times a day but can't pay me any money I lent

him years ago..WTF?

Is anybody else this pathetically controlled?

Anybody else? I'm 33 and now insane. My only friend will not talk to me

because I was mad at her when I begged for a ride to the hospital when he had a

stroke. I didn't know if he was dying or not. Nevertheless she hung up on me

and that was that. He blamed the stroke on me while he was having it. How

f-up'd is that? That was my only outside connection.

Jesus, now I feel like the freak.

[Guest guest]

I'm not in that position now but quite a few years ago I was. My future falling

apart, in debt, and only one place to turn - back to my mother. And you better

believe my family used the occasion to control and dominate and judge. The idea

of helping heal a returned child in trouble, helping them up when life's knocked

them down but good, is just not something that a BPD parent is capable of.

, I'd encourage you as KT has to do what it takes to get out of your

father's house. If you are anything like me, the more contact you have with

your family of origin the more your own mental troubles or " fleas " get stronger.

This just makes it even harder to climb your way out of that hole. To me

there's natural problems and unnatural problems. A natural problem is you need

to find work. An unnatural problem is a person close to you is tearing you

down and discouraging you from even trying to find work. I think all of us

KO's got a lifetime to ticket to too many *unnatural* problems and that

interferes with the ability to deal with the natural ones. It does show where

the priorities belong though.

Good luck,

>

> Hello,

>

> I'm in the midst of a financial nuclear winter. Have been for 10 years. Last

5 five have been hard. Last two have been a Church of Satan advertisement

campaign.

>

> Um, I'd like to know who's life has been eviscerated financially to totally be

the only person trapped like a rat in a BPD'er hell house.

>

> He's my Dad, and holy canoli, is he a control freak. I'm bankrupt have no

job, car, friends, girlfriend, family members, neighbors(he's convinced them I'm

violent), boss, totally freaking nothing. I get up and watch tv and surf the

net all day, every day. I've begged him to go to a coney island for a year now

and he get's mad even when I ask. The weird thing is he doesn't want me here.

He tells me to get out like a 100 times a day but can't pay me any money I lent

him years ago..WTF?

>

> Is anybody else this pathetically controlled?

>

> Anybody else? I'm 33 and now insane. My only friend will not talk to me

because I was mad at her when I begged for a ride to the hospital when he had a

stroke. I didn't know if he was dying or not. Nevertheless she hung up on me

and that was that. He blamed the stroke on me while he was having it. How

f-up'd is that? That was my only outside connection.

>

> Jesus, now I feel like the freak.

>

[Guest guest]

I'm not in that position now but quite a few years ago I was. My future falling

apart, in debt, and only one place to turn - back to my mother. And you better

believe my family used the occasion to control and dominate and judge. The idea

of helping heal a returned child in trouble, helping them up when life's knocked

them down but good, is just not something that a BPD parent is capable of.

, I'd encourage you as KT has to do what it takes to get out of your

father's house. If you are anything like me, the more contact you have with

your family of origin the more your own mental troubles or " fleas " get stronger.

This just makes it even harder to climb your way out of that hole. To me

there's natural problems and unnatural problems. A natural problem is you need

to find work. An unnatural problem is a person close to you is tearing you

down and discouraging you from even trying to find work. I think all of us

KO's got a lifetime to ticket to too many *unnatural* problems and that

interferes with the ability to deal with the natural ones. It does show where

the priorities belong though.

Good luck,

>

> Hello,

>

> I'm in the midst of a financial nuclear winter. Have been for 10 years. Last

5 five have been hard. Last two have been a Church of Satan advertisement

campaign.

>

> Um, I'd like to know who's life has been eviscerated financially to totally be

the only person trapped like a rat in a BPD'er hell house.

>

> He's my Dad, and holy canoli, is he a control freak. I'm bankrupt have no

job, car, friends, girlfriend, family members, neighbors(he's convinced them I'm

violent), boss, totally freaking nothing. I get up and watch tv and surf the

net all day, every day. I've begged him to go to a coney island for a year now

and he get's mad even when I ask. The weird thing is he doesn't want me here.

He tells me to get out like a 100 times a day but can't pay me any money I lent

him years ago..WTF?

>

> Is anybody else this pathetically controlled?

>

> Anybody else? I'm 33 and now insane. My only friend will not talk to me

because I was mad at her when I begged for a ride to the hospital when he had a

stroke. I didn't know if he was dying or not. Nevertheless she hung up on me

and that was that. He blamed the stroke on me while he was having it. How

f-up'd is that? That was my only outside connection.

>

> Jesus, now I feel like the freak.

>

[Guest guest]

I'm not in that position now but quite a few years ago I was. My future falling

apart, in debt, and only one place to turn - back to my mother. And you better

believe my family used the occasion to control and dominate and judge. The idea

of helping heal a returned child in trouble, helping them up when life's knocked

them down but good, is just not something that a BPD parent is capable of.

, I'd encourage you as KT has to do what it takes to get out of your

father's house. If you are anything like me, the more contact you have with

your family of origin the more your own mental troubles or " fleas " get stronger.

This just makes it even harder to climb your way out of that hole. To me

there's natural problems and unnatural problems. A natural problem is you need

to find work. An unnatural problem is a person close to you is tearing you

down and discouraging you from even trying to find work. I think all of us

KO's got a lifetime to ticket to too many *unnatural* problems and that

interferes with the ability to deal with the natural ones. It does show where

the priorities belong though.

Good luck,

>

> Hello,

>

> I'm in the midst of a financial nuclear winter. Have been for 10 years. Last

5 five have been hard. Last two have been a Church of Satan advertisement

campaign.

>

> Um, I'd like to know who's life has been eviscerated financially to totally be

the only person trapped like a rat in a BPD'er hell house.

>

> He's my Dad, and holy canoli, is he a control freak. I'm bankrupt have no

job, car, friends, girlfriend, family members, neighbors(he's convinced them I'm

violent), boss, totally freaking nothing. I get up and watch tv and surf the

net all day, every day. I've begged him to go to a coney island for a year now

and he get's mad even when I ask. The weird thing is he doesn't want me here.

He tells me to get out like a 100 times a day but can't pay me any money I lent

him years ago..WTF?

>

> Is anybody else this pathetically controlled?

>

> Anybody else? I'm 33 and now insane. My only friend will not talk to me

because I was mad at her when I begged for a ride to the hospital when he had a

stroke. I didn't know if he was dying or not. Nevertheless she hung up on me

and that was that. He blamed the stroke on me while he was having it. How

f-up'd is that? That was my only outside connection.

>

> Jesus, now I feel like the freak.

>