Who's got a BPD'er from hell.

[Guest guest]

Hello,

I'm in the midst of a financial nuclear winter. Have been for 10 years. Last 5

five have been hard. Last two have been a Church of Satan advertisement

campaign.

Um, I'd like to know who's life has been eviscerated financially to totally be

the only person trapped like a rat in a BPD'er hell house.

He's my Dad, and holy canoli, is he a control freak. I'm bankrupt have no job,

car, friends, girlfriend, family members, neighbors(he's convinced them I'm

violent), boss, totally freaking nothing. I get up and watch tv and surf the

net all day, every day. I've begged him to go to a coney island for a year now

and he get's mad even when I ask. The weird thing is he doesn't want me here.

He tells me to get out like a 100 times a day but can't pay me any money I lent

him years ago..WTF?

Is anybody else this pathetically controlled?

Anybody else? I'm 33 and now insane. My only friend will not talk to me

because I was mad at her when I begged for a ride to the hospital when he had a

stroke. I didn't know if he was dying or not. Nevertheless she hung up on me

and that was that. He blamed the stroke on me while he was having it. How

f-up'd is that? That was my only outside connection.

Jesus, now I feel like the freak.

[Guest guest]

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> He's my Dad, and holy canoli, is he a control freak. I'm bankrupt have no

job, car, friends, girlfriend, family members, neighbors(he's convinced them I'm

violent), boss, totally freaking nothing. I get up and watch tv and surf the

net all day, every day. I've begged him to go to a coney island for a year now

and he get's mad even when I ask. The weird thing is he doesn't want me here.

He tells me to get out like a 100 times a day but can't pay me any money I lent

him years ago..WTF?

>

> Is anybody else this pathetically controlled?

>

> Anybody else? I'm 33 and now insane. My only friend will not talk to me

because I was mad at her when I begged for a ride to the hospital when he had a

stroke. I didn't know if he was dying or not. Nevertheless she hung up on me

and that was that. He blamed the stroke on me while he was having it. How

f-up'd is that? That was my only outside connection.

>

>

,

Wow, it definitely sounds like you have some challenges and struggles.

If I am reading this (and your other recent posts) correctly, it sounds like you

are having trouble finding a job and supporting yourself, so you expect your

parents to give you money and take you to Coney Island, and that you feel your

father is responsible for problems with your social life, and that psychologists

have their own agendas and do not really want to help you. Did I get all of

that right?

It certainly sounds like living with your father is not necessarily the

healthiest arrangement. What steps can you take to find alternate living

arrangements? Do you have an established relationship with a social worker in

your area (or can you establish one), to determine what resources might be

available to you? Your local homeless shelters or Salvation Army might have

some good ideas for you as well.

I hope you will find a way to establish your independence, and I wish you

success.

KT