Re: Queen Latifah vs. Sue: The Epic Battle of IE

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the warm welcome, Sandy and Tai and Jaine! It's so interesting to

hear that I'm doing great. Sue thinks the only measure of progress is weight

loss. What a bitch, huh?

I admire that you've stuck with IE even though you gained, so maybe I can

borrower that for myself. I like biking, walking and dancing too. And skating.

And even frisbee with my family. I'm not crazy about weight lifting,

unfortunately. Maybe someday I'll find the fun in that.

Today Sue was wondering why I was hungry mid-morning when I had breakfast

already. She thought that seemed unreasonable. That sure sounds critical. Maybe

posting here about what she says to me will help me get her to put a sock in it.

To restate things, according to Queen L (and now Sandy too): Doing great is

changing it up by not dieting for six months. Doing great is putting a stop to

the nasty comments from Sue. Doing great is letting myself eat sugar until it

lost its power.

I'd like to hear what other people count as progress in IE since we know it

ain't about the weight.

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> > Hello,

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> > I came across an Amazon.com review that mentioned this group, to which I

> > said, " Eureka! " I've been trading with a coach since February who is an IE

> > success story and I'm up 12 pounds trying to get the hang of IE. Is there

> > room for one more overachiever in this group?

> >

> > Not that there hasn't been progress. One of the things I've been working on

> > is paying attention to the voices in my head. I've got one that's harsh,

> > critical and demeaning. I call this voice Sue, after the character on Glee.

> > She's a bitch and the goal is to tell her to shut up. Another voice (one

> > that I have to borrow from outside at times) is nurturing, respectful and

> > tells me I can rock my curves and that my size is just perfect. I call this

> > voice Queen Latifah. Unfortunately, Sue seems to be the default voice at the

> > moment, and I don't always even notice when she's talking because I'm so

> > desensitized. But I know that Queen Latifah is right, and that it is

> > possible to be all things vital and vibrant and beautiful at my current

> > weight--even a Cover Girl model.

> >

> > One thing that seemed impossible for me but has definitely happened over

> > the past month is that I got sick of sugar after letting myself have it all

> > the time. I honestly don't want desserts most days, except that I do crave

> > fruit, especially summer treats like peaches and cherries and mangoes.

> > Sometimes I think of having something sweet and creamy and the next thought

> > is that it sounds too sweet. It's not what I really want. About once a week

> > I end up having a sugar-fat-and-flour delivery system, and that feels fine.

> > I prefer how I feel with less sugar.

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> > I'm also proud to say that I haven't been on a single diet for six months.

> > Even as I grew out of my clothes, I didn't go running back to Dr. Atkins or

> > Craig or any other expert to tell me what my own body needs most.

> > Sometimes I am sorely tempted but I haven't acted on it.

> >

> > Sometimes I worry that I'll never lose weight, which most likely means I'm

> > missing the whole point of IE (Sue? Is that you?), but I must admit that it

> > is my desire to shrink. When I play volleyball I feel like I'm running in

> > slow motion lately. It's tiring carrying 30-40 pounds more than I need. I

> > long to just set it down.

> >

> > I can't afford to buy the new wardrobe that my new size warrants at the

> > moment. I'm ending up in yoga pants a lot, and feeling the physical

> > discomfort and mental anguish (That's enough out of you, Sue!) of wearing

> > clothes that are too-tight some days. I've bought a few new things but it's

> > not enough yet.

> >

> > Also, I don't seem to have a grip on the stopping mechanism concept. (Shut

> > up, Sue!) Thursday I ran into a bottomless basket of chips that may end up

> > on my bottom (Sue, close the pie hole!). They were salty and delicious, but

> > too many of the little devils infiltrated my mouth.

> >

> > One of my favorite comedians says he's really struggled to lose weight. He

> > says he's " tried everything short of diet and exercise. " That cracked me up,

> > and now the joke's on me because that's what I'm doing--trying everything

> > short of diet and exercise to lose weight. I still exercise, but not to lose

> > weight--only because it's fun to play outside and it happens to make me

> > sweat and breath hard.

> >

> > Thanks in advance for letting me into your group. I hope to learn a lot

> > from all of you.

> >

> > If you have any suggestions, I'm all ears.

> >

> > Thanks,

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