Guest guest Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 Hi Sara Welcome. I'm new too. Another long term dieter. It is hard to trust the process and that this will work but really I got to the point where there was no other useful choice. I do already feel calmer than when I was dieting but I do know how you feel. Sometimes I feel very daunted by the freedom of IE! x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 Hi Sara Welcome. I'm new too. Another long term dieter. It is hard to trust the process and that this will work but really I got to the point where there was no other useful choice. I do already feel calmer than when I was dieting but I do know how you feel. Sometimes I feel very daunted by the freedom of IE! x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 Hi Sara Welcome. I'm new too. Another long term dieter. It is hard to trust the process and that this will work but really I got to the point where there was no other useful choice. I do already feel calmer than when I was dieting but I do know how you feel. Sometimes I feel very daunted by the freedom of IE! x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 Sara, Welcome. You will get a lot out of this group and will have a lot to offer as you embark on your journey. Your story sounds like most of the ones here. Hitting rock bottom on diets was usually the starting point. There are no rules really and that does make it hard. I found it harder than dieting where you knew exactly what you could eat and when. Here it might help to eat when you are hungry and stop when you are full. Many of us have a hard time with knowing when we are hungry or full. Sara, this can be confusing for a lot of us. It's all so new and contrary to what we learned when dieting. This takes time and is a journey. Try to notice yourself and eating habits without judging. It's just one more piece of information you can use. Don't try to be perfect, no one is and it was /is scarey. Sandy Hi my name is Sara and a friend suggested Intuitive Eating as I was about to start another " diet " (this one was eating super healthy, but still..) I did try it for a few days like usual, though I did this one for way less time than the others.. my heart is no longer in diets apparently.. Looking back, I've been dieting on and off for at least 10 years, though I am 41 now and was chubby as a 9 year old.. so I think the pressure has always been there.. and I remember gorging on french bread and butter at restaurants as a child and knowing it was " bad " .. But then as a 21 year old having a baby, I didn't think at all about my weight, and looking at pictures I was beautiful and thin.. with no obsessing about it!!! So I know/ at least hope I can get back there.. I did read Geneen Roth's books many years ago and tried to do what she suggested.. It did really strike me as true and for me, but I couldn't manage to stick with it.. I didn't really understand or have the courage or something.. I'm not sure.. Now that I have read IE I think that the same information presented in different ways may help to just have a better outline/steps or something.. I find that the IE book is still hard for me to figure out in terms of what to really do in what order.. I just feel like I need some guidance, so I sought out and found this group, which I am excited to be part of..! Someone mentioned the Eat What You Love book so I downloaded that in hopes that the steps might be more clear.. I know it just might be me wanting rules to follow, but I think in part I need a format that speaks to what I'm going through.. I got the IE book a few weeks ago, and am trying to give myself unconditional permission to eat whatever I want, and am eating a lot of sweets.. I have occasional breakthrough feelings and understandings about myself, but am also eating unconsciously a lot and that is where I got stuck last time, just eating a lot of cookie dough and moving on to other sweets but feeling like no progress being made.. I didn't put that perfectly, cause the whole thing is surprisingly foggy for me.. even now.. I am a smart person, and it is so frustrating that this is such a struggle and I am so frightened.. But I am truly determined to do it this time.. I have a lot of faith in myself and am so done with diets.. Anyways.. thanks for being here!!!! Sara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 Hello Sara I'm new too, but I decided to free myself totally from everything that I tried, read, and managed to get right in the past with dieting. I embraced IE as if I know nothing about dieting whatsoever, and for that matter, 'good food' and 'bad food'. You don't need to trust the process, you just need to trust your body. It WILL tell you when to eat and when to stop. You just need to listen to your body, not your intellingent mind! Trust your body. Something wonderful in EWYL, is what May says about being in control. You don't need to be in control. You are in charge! Its wonderful to have people supporting each other. Enjoy the journey, and let it be one that you continue on for the rest of your life. Helen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 Hello Sara I'm new too, but I decided to free myself totally from everything that I tried, read, and managed to get right in the past with dieting. I embraced IE as if I know nothing about dieting whatsoever, and for that matter, 'good food' and 'bad food'. You don't need to trust the process, you just need to trust your body. It WILL tell you when to eat and when to stop. You just need to listen to your body, not your intellingent mind! Trust your body. Something wonderful in EWYL, is what May says about being in control. You don't need to be in control. You are in charge! Its wonderful to have people supporting each other. Enjoy the journey, and let it be one that you continue on for the rest of your life. Helen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 Hello Sara I'm new too, but I decided to free myself totally from everything that I tried, read, and managed to get right in the past with dieting. I embraced IE as if I know nothing about dieting whatsoever, and for that matter, 'good food' and 'bad food'. You don't need to trust the process, you just need to trust your body. It WILL tell you when to eat and when to stop. You just need to listen to your body, not your intellingent mind! Trust your body. Something wonderful in EWYL, is what May says about being in control. You don't need to be in control. You are in charge! Its wonderful to have people supporting each other. Enjoy the journey, and let it be one that you continue on for the rest of your life. Helen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 Welcome! I'm pretty new too (a couple weeks), but this forum has been really helpful to me. I echo the bit about feeling " calm " about food. > > Hi my name is Sara and a friend suggested Intuitive Eating as I was about to > start another " diet " (this one was eating super healthy, but still..) I did > try it for a few days like usual, though I did this one for way less time > than the others.. my heart is no longer in diets apparently.. Looking back, > I've been dieting on and off for at least 10 years, though I am 41 now and > was chubby as a 9 year old.. so I think the pressure has always been there.. > and I remember gorging on french bread and butter at restaurants as a child > and knowing it was " bad " .. But then as a 21 year old having a baby, I didn't > think at all about my weight, and looking at pictures I was beautiful and > thin.. with no obsessing about it!!! So I know/ at least hope I can get back > there.. I did read Geneen Roth's books many years ago and tried to do what > she suggested.. It did really strike me as true and for me, but I couldn't > manage to stick with it.. I didn't really understand or have the courage or > something.. I'm not sure.. Now that I have read IE I think that the same > information presented in different ways may help to just have a better > outline/steps or something.. I find that the IE book is still hard for me to > figure out in terms of what to really do in what order.. I just feel like I > need some guidance, so I sought out and found this group, which I am excited > to be part of..! Someone mentioned the Eat What You Love book so I > downloaded that in hopes that the steps might be more clear.. I know it just > might be me wanting rules to follow, but I think in part I need a format > that speaks to what I'm going through.. I got the IE book a few weeks ago, > and am trying to give myself unconditional permission to eat whatever I > want, and am eating a lot of sweets.. I have occasional breakthrough > feelings and understandings about myself, but am also eating unconsciously a > lot and that is where I got stuck last time, just eating a lot of cookie > dough and moving on to other sweets but feeling like no progress being > made.. I didn't put that perfectly, cause the whole thing is surprisingly > foggy for me.. even now.. I am a smart person, and it is so frustrating that > this is such a struggle and I am so frightened.. But I am truly determined > to do it this time.. I have a lot of faith in myself and am so done with > diets.. Anyways.. thanks for being here!!!! > Sara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 Welcome! I'm pretty new too (a couple weeks), but this forum has been really helpful to me. I echo the bit about feeling " calm " about food. > > Hi my name is Sara and a friend suggested Intuitive Eating as I was about to > start another " diet " (this one was eating super healthy, but still..) I did > try it for a few days like usual, though I did this one for way less time > than the others.. my heart is no longer in diets apparently.. Looking back, > I've been dieting on and off for at least 10 years, though I am 41 now and > was chubby as a 9 year old.. so I think the pressure has always been there.. > and I remember gorging on french bread and butter at restaurants as a child > and knowing it was " bad " .. But then as a 21 year old having a baby, I didn't > think at all about my weight, and looking at pictures I was beautiful and > thin.. with no obsessing about it!!! So I know/ at least hope I can get back > there.. I did read Geneen Roth's books many years ago and tried to do what > she suggested.. It did really strike me as true and for me, but I couldn't > manage to stick with it.. I didn't really understand or have the courage or > something.. I'm not sure.. Now that I have read IE I think that the same > information presented in different ways may help to just have a better > outline/steps or something.. I find that the IE book is still hard for me to > figure out in terms of what to really do in what order.. I just feel like I > need some guidance, so I sought out and found this group, which I am excited > to be part of..! Someone mentioned the Eat What You Love book so I > downloaded that in hopes that the steps might be more clear.. I know it just > might be me wanting rules to follow, but I think in part I need a format > that speaks to what I'm going through.. I got the IE book a few weeks ago, > and am trying to give myself unconditional permission to eat whatever I > want, and am eating a lot of sweets.. I have occasional breakthrough > feelings and understandings about myself, but am also eating unconsciously a > lot and that is where I got stuck last time, just eating a lot of cookie > dough and moving on to other sweets but feeling like no progress being > made.. I didn't put that perfectly, cause the whole thing is surprisingly > foggy for me.. even now.. I am a smart person, and it is so frustrating that > this is such a struggle and I am so frightened.. But I am truly determined > to do it this time.. I have a lot of faith in myself and am so done with > diets.. Anyways.. thanks for being here!!!! > Sara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 Welcome! I'm pretty new too (a couple weeks), but this forum has been really helpful to me. I echo the bit about feeling " calm " about food. > > Hi my name is Sara and a friend suggested Intuitive Eating as I was about to > start another " diet " (this one was eating super healthy, but still..) I did > try it for a few days like usual, though I did this one for way less time > than the others.. my heart is no longer in diets apparently.. Looking back, > I've been dieting on and off for at least 10 years, though I am 41 now and > was chubby as a 9 year old.. so I think the pressure has always been there.. > and I remember gorging on french bread and butter at restaurants as a child > and knowing it was " bad " .. But then as a 21 year old having a baby, I didn't > think at all about my weight, and looking at pictures I was beautiful and > thin.. with no obsessing about it!!! So I know/ at least hope I can get back > there.. I did read Geneen Roth's books many years ago and tried to do what > she suggested.. It did really strike me as true and for me, but I couldn't > manage to stick with it.. I didn't really understand or have the courage or > something.. I'm not sure.. Now that I have read IE I think that the same > information presented in different ways may help to just have a better > outline/steps or something.. I find that the IE book is still hard for me to > figure out in terms of what to really do in what order.. I just feel like I > need some guidance, so I sought out and found this group, which I am excited > to be part of..! Someone mentioned the Eat What You Love book so I > downloaded that in hopes that the steps might be more clear.. I know it just > might be me wanting rules to follow, but I think in part I need a format > that speaks to what I'm going through.. I got the IE book a few weeks ago, > and am trying to give myself unconditional permission to eat whatever I > want, and am eating a lot of sweets.. I have occasional breakthrough > feelings and understandings about myself, but am also eating unconsciously a > lot and that is where I got stuck last time, just eating a lot of cookie > dough and moving on to other sweets but feeling like no progress being > made.. I didn't put that perfectly, cause the whole thing is surprisingly > foggy for me.. even now.. I am a smart person, and it is so frustrating that > this is such a struggle and I am so frightened.. But I am truly determined > to do it this time.. I have a lot of faith in myself and am so done with > diets.. Anyways.. thanks for being here!!!! > Sara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2011 Report Share Posted September 6, 2011 Hi , welcome. I must confess I was chuckling at your post because I was just telling a friend yesterday about the initial stages of IE. I felt totally like a fish out of water and was grasping for some concept, some framework to hang my hat on. It was unsettling to suddenly have no rules and no sense of, now what? I think I my process went something like this: Legalize; start to recognize the diet rebel whose only eating M & M's; recognize the diet police hiding in the closet ready to illegalize at any moment; relax the diet police; diet rebel starts to relax; begin slowly the negotiate with both around choosing based on body hunger/need. It was a weird process initially, seems very counter-intuitive and then a framework begins to form in the mind and then you're off and running with IE. Hope this helps. Sandarah IE since 8/11 > > Hi my name is Sara and a friend suggested Intuitive Eating as I was about to > start another " diet " (this one was eating super healthy, but still..) I did > try it for a few days like usual, though I did this one for way less time > than the others.. my heart is no longer in diets apparently.. Looking back, > I've been dieting on and off for at least 10 years, though I am 41 now and > was chubby as a 9 year old.. so I think the pressure has always been there.. > and I remember gorging on french bread and butter at restaurants as a child > and knowing it was " bad " .. But then as a 21 year old having a baby, I didn't > think at all about my weight, and looking at pictures I was beautiful and > thin.. with no obsessing about it!!! So I know/ at least hope I can get back > there.. I did read Geneen Roth's books many years ago and tried to do what > she suggested.. It did really strike me as true and for me, but I couldn't > manage to stick with it.. I didn't really understand or have the courage or > something.. I'm not sure.. Now that I have read IE I think that the same > information presented in different ways may help to just have a better > outline/steps or something.. I find that the IE book is still hard for me to > figure out in terms of what to really do in what order.. I just feel like I > need some guidance, so I sought out and found this group, which I am excited > to be part of..! Someone mentioned the Eat What You Love book so I > downloaded that in hopes that the steps might be more clear.. I know it just > might be me wanting rules to follow, but I think in part I need a format > that speaks to what I'm going through.. I got the IE book a few weeks ago, > and am trying to give myself unconditional permission to eat whatever I > want, and am eating a lot of sweets.. I have occasional breakthrough > feelings and understandings about myself, but am also eating unconsciously a > lot and that is where I got stuck last time, just eating a lot of cookie > dough and moving on to other sweets but feeling like no progress being > made.. I didn't put that perfectly, cause the whole thing is surprisingly > foggy for me.. even now.. I am a smart person, and it is so frustrating that > this is such a struggle and I am so frightened.. But I am truly determined > to do it this time.. I have a lot of faith in myself and am so done with > diets.. Anyways.. thanks for being here!!!! > Sara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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