Re: Weekend with a restricter... I'm back...

[Guest guest]

Well... this is going to be an interesting ride; sharing my world with dieters

and restricters.

I did all right with my food. Because of my gluten allergy, I took a lot of my

own food along and found it helpful to have; though I didn't need, want or eat

it all.

I did allow my friend to pick a several restaurants that weren't great for me

out of pure passivity; what can I say? One of my issues is that I hate to make

waves with what I need. Guess I'll get to that challenge down the road.

I did observe that her restrictive/controlling attitude crosses over into nearly

everything she does - and I guess that makes sense. She's not bad, it wasn't

bad - but it wasn't great either for lots of reasons, food issues being only

part. I wonder if all chronic dieters/restricters are controlling about nearly

everything in their lives? She seemed very rigid to me and there was little

time to savor anything.

I had a wonderful success last night that was a real paradigm shift for me. We

stopped in a small city on the way back and were looking for somewhere to eat.

She spotted a restaurant and wanted to stop there. It was a pizza house that

had a sign Gluten Free Pizza and she exclaimed, " Oh I haven't had pizza in a

long time! " and asked if we could eat there. I said fine, though truthfully I

wasn't hungry for pizza, but I was hungry. Pizza was the only GF thing on the

menu so I didn't big deal it.

The smallest size pizza they had was 11 inches. When hers arrived she

practically inhaled it. The whole thing was gone while I was still finishing my

one piece. I had already decided that I wanted a scoop of their gelato and had

made up my mind to save room for it.

I'm learning to think about how I want to feel after eating, which is an amazing

notion. " How would I like to feel after this meal " rather than, " how fast can I

eat everything I might possibly want before the diet police stop me " ... Talk

about an old dog learning new tricks.

So, I had my gelato and my one piece of pizza and I felt fine afterwards. A

totally new experience for me in self-negotiation around eating. I can

negotiate with my out of control, rebellious, defiant, addicted self! Who

knew!?

Three or so hours later while we were stuck in traffic, I ate one more piece.

This morning I didn't wake up with my usual dairy reaction - maybe because I

didn't overeat. And now that dairy is totally allowed (along with everything

else) I don't have to gorge myself on it. Beyond allowable, I am working on

choosing not only what to eat - but I can negotiate with myself about not having

to eat foods that don't work for my body.

Not eating foods that don't work for my body (or that my body doesn't want at

the time) is still a little sticky as the diet rebel is hooked on rebellion.

It's been such a way of life. So, calming that feels like like slaying a

dragon. I never thought I could intercept the raging bull of eating. Woo hoo!

Best to all; now I need to catch up with reading posts. Wanted to start here

though.

Sandarah

IE since 8/11

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> > Well I'm off for a weekend jaunt with a friend who's also a chronic

dieter/restricter. I keep thinking of all the food I want to pack and I know

it's in resistance to her picky eating and my fear of not being able to have

enough.

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> > I will be strong though - strong in my IE medicine.

> >

> > Sigh.

> >

> > Well, my little stray kitty is in the garage in a box having kittens; I

haven't packed anything, my house is a mess, spent the entire day with my

brother at the hospital getting a " routine procedure " and I ate an ice cream bar

on the way home out of shear frustration. Observed mostly that though it tasted

good, it did not help my situation at all. I don't think I would have noticed

that in the past because I would have been too busy condemning myself for eating

it. Progress not restriction...

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> > Have a great weekend everyone. Sandarah

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[Guest guest]

Thank you thank you thank you for your post. It's so wonderful to hear how

people are making REAL progress. I'm still having a little bit of a hard time

imagining myself in your shoes making such healthy choices, but it all sounds

possible.

Good for You!!!

YEAH!

TIlley

> > >

> > > Well I'm off for a weekend jaunt with a friend who's also a chronic

dieter/restricter. I keep thinking of all the food I want to pack and I know

it's in resistance to her picky eating and my fear of not being able to have

enough.

> > >

> > > I will be strong though - strong in my IE medicine.

> > >

> > > Sigh.

> > >

> > > Well, my little stray kitty is in the garage in a box having kittens; I

haven't packed anything, my house is a mess, spent the entire day with my

brother at the hospital getting a " routine procedure " and I ate an ice cream bar

on the way home out of shear frustration. Observed mostly that though it tasted

good, it did not help my situation at all. I don't think I would have noticed

that in the past because I would have been too busy condemning myself for eating

it. Progress not restriction...

> > >

> > > Have a great weekend everyone. Sandarah

> > >

> >

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[Guest guest]

Thank you thank you thank you for your post. It's so wonderful to hear how

people are making REAL progress. I'm still having a little bit of a hard time

imagining myself in your shoes making such healthy choices, but it all sounds

possible.

Good for You!!!

YEAH!

TIlley

> > >

> > > Well I'm off for a weekend jaunt with a friend who's also a chronic

dieter/restricter. I keep thinking of all the food I want to pack and I know

it's in resistance to her picky eating and my fear of not being able to have

enough.

> > >

> > > I will be strong though - strong in my IE medicine.

> > >

> > > Sigh.

> > >

> > > Well, my little stray kitty is in the garage in a box having kittens; I

haven't packed anything, my house is a mess, spent the entire day with my

brother at the hospital getting a " routine procedure " and I ate an ice cream bar

on the way home out of shear frustration. Observed mostly that though it tasted

good, it did not help my situation at all. I don't think I would have noticed

that in the past because I would have been too busy condemning myself for eating

it. Progress not restriction...

> > >

> > > Have a great weekend everyone. Sandarah

> > >

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