Re: Just saw Tangled -- Whoa

[Guest guest]

Its understandable how some movies are triggering, and if Tangled is triggering

for you, then I suggest that you avoid " Coraline " as well.

It is also an animated film from a few years back and is now on DVD (done the

same way as " Nightmare Before Christmas " with small models/puppet animation

instead of CG animation) but the mother in that film is very scary.

The " Other Mother " starts out all sweetness and light, and then gradually

reveals her true self: a hideous spider-like creature who eats children's souls.

The souls of three dead children she ate previously come to the aid of the

heroine, Coraline, and help her defeat the " Other Mother " so the film has a

happy ending, but its still rather too reminiscent of the kind of sociopathic,

controlling, denigrating behaviors my nada would engage in.

It still interests me that in most fairy tales and films that are fairy-tale

like, its the " step mother " or other female who is the evil one, never the

biological mother. Somehow, even the writers of fairy-tales don't want to go

there: to the place where actual bio-moms torture, emotionally cannibalize,

neglect, batter and maim their own bio-kids.

When I was a kid, the Disney animated " Cinderella " would usually trigger some

reaction of anxiety in me when they'd show it on TV, whenever the evil

stepmother was on screen, and the scene in which the two evil step-sisters tore

Cinderella's home-made (mouse-made) dress to shreds would usually upset me too,

mainly because the evil step mother told her girls to do it.

-Annie

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> > I had seen the posts here about the " mother " being BPD and just saw the

movie with my kids.

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> > Those of you who posted about that were spot-on. The fake mother was not

overtly evil, she was always " just teasing " when she would insult and patronize

her daughter, she was always saying how evil the world is, how you can't trust

anyone but her. Just like my hermit mother.

> >

> > The characteristic of the fake mother here that was most like my mother was

how she would tell Rapunzel that she was making her favorite food, hazelnut

soup! My mother would constantly do this, announcing from morning time what

goodies she was making for dinner and then keep talking about it throughout the

day. If we didn't show the proper degree of enthusiasm, she would say, " what's

wrong? you don't like [fill in dish name here]??? "

> >

> > It made me sad watching that part of the movie, because I really do feel

rapunzeled to an extent. I really wasn't allowed out at all unless I was with my

brother, father or another adult. Ever. When I got to college, I went wild with

freedom, but I felt that same back and forth war of feelings the movie depicted

so well, of " mother's going to be furious with me " and " ah screw her, I'm

free! " I didn't know how to gauge people, I was (and still feel at times)

socially inept, I was just wanting to dance with everything and everyone, I was

so dizzy with freedom.

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> > The sad part as well was that Rapunzel got away. Once I was done with

school, I lived with my parents and it was as though I'd never left until I got

married. At which point my mother treated my husband like the mother in

Tangled... " hmmph, we'll see how this marriage thing goes! you got yourself into

it, now enjoy yourself. "

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[Guest guest]

you'll like this one! it was really nicely done. (except for the nutty fake

mom)

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> > I haven't heard of this movie, but I tend to be out of the loop... unless

> > you're talking Harry Potter... perhaps another set of BPD parental units?

> > (His Aunt & Uncle... and especially if you've read the books)

> >

> > I haven't heard of this, but now I am going to look into it. Is it on DVD

> > or in theatres? I'm suspecting DVD... but I'll google it =)

> >

> > Mia

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[Guest guest]

you'll like this one! it was really nicely done. (except for the nutty fake

mom)

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> > I haven't heard of this movie, but I tend to be out of the loop... unless

> > you're talking Harry Potter... perhaps another set of BPD parental units?

> > (His Aunt & Uncle... and especially if you've read the books)

> >

> > I haven't heard of this, but now I am going to look into it. Is it on DVD

> > or in theatres? I'm suspecting DVD... but I'll google it =)

> >

> > Mia

> >

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[Guest guest]

you'll like this one! it was really nicely done. (except for the nutty fake

mom)

>

> > I haven't heard of this movie, but I tend to be out of the loop... unless

> > you're talking Harry Potter... perhaps another set of BPD parental units?

> > (His Aunt & Uncle... and especially if you've read the books)

> >

> > I haven't heard of this, but now I am going to look into it. Is it on DVD

> > or in theatres? I'm suspecting DVD... but I'll google it =)

> >

> > Mia

> >

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