Guest guest Posted December 13, 2010 Report Share Posted December 13, 2010 I see a lot of people here describe their mothers growing up as cold and unloving. Mine was quite the opposite. Nurturing, loving, doting most of the time. Now I see that most of that behavior was because I was a young child dependent on her. As I began to grow into a teenager and want to be more independent is when she started having more blow ups at me and her manipulation started becoming more evident. As soon as I left for college, she dropped me like a hot potato. It took me years to figure out that it was because I didn't " need " her in the young-child sense of the word anymore. All of a sudden, she wasn't interested in me or much about my life. Once she divorced my dad, she quickly went to become a foster parent and focused all her time and attention on whichever foster child she had at the time, completely ignoring most of her biological children. I just wanted to present another aspect of mothering- the codependent mother - and see if anyone else here can identify with a BPD that is only nurturing and loving if you " need " them?? (Her latest thing is she wants to be a missionary to a Latin American country....also to feed the codependency in my opinion) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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