Re: My cat died

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry . It's like a knife straight into the heart when you lose

a dear furry baby, isn't it? I'd say this little guy did pretty good to land

such a caring owner, considering he started out as an abandoned kitten. Not too

bad Bunny!!

You did the right thing, you loved him, cared for him, gave him the best life a

cat could possibly have, and saw him through to a humane ending with you by his

side every step of the way. It's still heartbreaking, he sounded absolutely

delightful as a pet. I consider my cat and dog my best friends, they have such a

magical way of endearing themselves to us don't they? , you gave him as

much joy as he brought you, I promise you. So please don't feel as though you

let him down because that's impossible.

I prayed for little Bunny after reading your post and I imagine him to be happy,

warm, and safe. I honestly believe we meet our beloved pets in the after life,

just as we do our human family. I feel for you in that your invasive thoughts

and confusion around your nada's lack of motherly instinct/love for you has made

this even more painful. The tragic moments in our life seem to reopen those

wounds and get us thinking about it all over again. It's perfectly

understandable that you would juxtapose your motherly grief against your

mother's lack of mothering instincts.... this is just so impossible by nature's

standards yet this is a BPD. Even a cottontail rabbit would fight to protect

it's young, yet our mothers cannot/would not. There's something seriously wrong

there.

The blessing is that you are not your nada. You can/will care for creatures that

need you and depend on you. You have kind loving words and gestures for everyone

in your life (human and feline alike). Please find a way to honor Bunny's life,

as I think this would be healing for you right now. He's earned it, and you

definitely earned credibility in my book. Anybody who is kind to animals has a

special devine grace that is simply beautiful and moving. How kind God was to

give us animals. You are doing God's work by caring for them.

Hugs from HF.

P.S. I'd love to see a picture of your dear Bunny if it's not too painful for

you to send one.