Re: Re: This year I m going to change

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I'm going to keep up with my therapy. It's getting me unstuck and allowing

me to have positive feelings about myself for the first time in my life.

Wow. Thats goal numero uno. And I've gotta get rid of santa's little elf

extra weight. Too many cookies makes girlscout about 8 lbs chubbier. That

one will be easy.

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> I like your #3. A therapist once told me that when we remember trauma from

> our youth, we revert back to that little 8 year old or 4 year old from when

> it happened. We're all emotion, hurt and pain. There is no logic or reason.

> Knowing that helped me deal with that inner child better.

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> 1) I'm going to live my life without wondering if my parents would approve

> of what I'm doing.

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> 2) I'm going to hold my cards closer to my chest. If they want to know what

> is going on, they will have to ASK. Even then, I may be a little limited

> about what I divuldge.

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> 3) I'm going to continue getting fit. Lifting weights and training to run a

> 5K.

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> > Goals. We need goals. We need reasonable, achievable goals. If we

> > shoot at nothing, what will we hit?

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> > How much difference would it make in our healing, if we simply said, ok,

> > starting on the day after Christmas, I m going to do 3 things to make a

> > difference in my life, despite nada. I deserve to heal. I can t change

> > it all, but this I can change.

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> > So, starting the day after Christmas, and for the next year

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> > 1. I m going to make a choice to be happy every day. Nada or anyone

> > else who wants to pull me back down into the pit of depression and self

> > pity will just have to talk to the hand, cause the face isnt listening.

> > I will choose to be happy this year.

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> > 2. I m going to spend at least 30 minutes every day writing on my book.

> > Without fail. I know a book is in me. I have good ideas for it. I have

> > a knack with words. I m not going to let grief, depression, and FOG

> > steal that. The book is coming out.

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> > 3. I m going to tell that hurt little kid inside me, every day, hey

> > kid? I got it. There s a grown up here now. It s ok. You re not

> > responsible. You can be a kid, and let go and grow up. You don t have

> > to be in control anymore. It s safe now. I got it. I don t believe that

> > yet, but I m gonna tell him, every day.

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> > I may do more. But I ll never do less. These 3 things, I will do.

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> > What will you commit to do for your healing ? Not the whole world, just

> > 3 little things.

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> > Doug

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