Re: Merry Xmas from Nada to me - NOT

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Well, I think its interesting the level of math she applies to her heart.

1/2 plus 1/2 plus 1/3 equals what? I'm sorry, your mom is very sick. Sounds

very familiar. I had to go NC because I didn't want to hear it anymore.

Merry Christmas. Do something you enjoy!

On Wed, Dec 22, 2010 at 10:45 AM, Romantic Libra wrote:

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> I call my nada every day just to keep her in waif mode or she turns into

> witch/bitch of the Northeast if I don't. I suffer through her velcro to the

> head woe is me routine as she distorts, exaggerates and just plain LIES

> about many of her ailments and extorts about my delusional childhood where

> she was the heroine and the ONLY parent who loved me and my father was an

> abusive, cheating alcoholic who was never home for either of us. The truth

> was, nada, YOU cheated on my father and he wound up throwing you out - my

> father was always working to give you more and more material things to

> satisfy you except that nothing could EVER satisfy you except the arms of an

> abusive, controlling, pedophile who you now see as St. . I lived with

> both of you separately after my father threw you out until I graduated from

> high school and then with you two through two years of business college so I

> KNOW the truth, nada and YOU were the one who was the cheating, abusive

> bitch and not my poor father. My father didn't drink but her father did so

> she has it all screwed up. No matter about that though. It gets worse.

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> My nada called me back a little while ago crying hysterically. She said her

> DAUGHTER died. I said in reply, " who?! " She replied, " Joanie, my DAUGHTER

> died! Marie called me to tell me she died five minutes after we hung up this

> morning. " First of all I am an only child and I didn't obviously die. Joanie

> was her neighbor until she and her family moved to North Carolina a few

> years ago. Yes they were good friends but come on! Joanie was 52 years old

> but had breast cancer which had spread throughout her body nada had told me

> a few months ago crying hysterically as she told me that. She went on to say

> that now the other half of her heart was dead - the other half was my

> stepfather's and he's dead too so now she has 'no one left'. What am I?

> Chopped liver???!!! She then said I 'used to have' 1/3rd of her heart but

> when I chose to get married to and put HIM first, then I was no longer

> IN her heart but now that I divorced 10 1/2 years ago I might still be

> in her heart but she 'wasn't sure'. She said she wanted to die and be with

> them and didn't want to last another day. She ended the call with 'I love

> you'.

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> I shouldn't be upset by those nasty things she said but I am. It IS

> Christmas week after all and yes I will be all alone just as nada will. Last

> week nada asked me if I was going to one of my friend's homes for a party

> and jealously said, " I bet you are, you partygirl! " but when I told her they

> were all going to be out of town and no I would be alone, she relished it

> and said, " Good! I will be alone too! "

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> So what is your spin on what nada said? I fully expect that nada will have

> another mini-stroke from this latest death. Every time someone in her circle

> of friends or family dies or anything nada sees as really negative happens,

> her blood pressure goes sky high apparently and she has another mini-stroke.

> She is living at home on her own which is what she wants and wants to die

> there so there is no talking to her about going into assisted living

> (although she has the $ to live in a nice one).

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> I can't help but feel awful about what she said. I know I shouldn't let it

> bother me, but it does. My heart is not made of steel.

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