This year I m going to change

[Guest guest]

Goals. We need goals. We need reasonable, achievable goals. If we

shoot at nothing, what will we hit?

How much difference would it make in our healing, if we simply said, ok,

starting on the day after Christmas, I m going to do 3 things to make a

difference in my life, despite nada. I deserve to heal. I can t change

it all, but this I can change.

So, starting the day after Christmas, and for the next year

1. I m going to make a choice to be happy every day. Nada or anyone

else who wants to pull me back down into the pit of depression and self

pity will just have to talk to the hand, cause the face isnt listening.

I will choose to be happy this year.

2. I m going to spend at least 30 minutes every day writing on my book.

Without fail. I know a book is in me. I have good ideas for it. I have

a knack with words. I m not going to let grief, depression, and FOG

steal that. The book is coming out.

3. I m going to tell that hurt little kid inside me, every day, hey

kid? I got it. There s a grown up here now. It s ok. You re not

responsible. You can be a kid, and let go and grow up. You don t have

to be in control anymore. It s safe now. I got it. I don t believe that

yet, but I m gonna tell him, every day.

I may do more. But I ll never do less. These 3 things, I will do.

What will you commit to do for your healing ? Not the whole world, just

3 little things.

Doug

[Guest guest]

I like your #3. A therapist once told me that when we remember trauma from our

youth, we revert back to that little 8 year old or 4 year old from when it

happened. We're all emotion, hurt and pain. There is no logic or reason. Knowing

that helped me deal with that inner child better.

1) I'm going to live my life without wondering if my parents would approve of

what I'm doing.

2) I'm going to hold my cards closer to my chest. If they want to know what is

going on, they will have to ASK. Even then, I may be a little limited about what

I divuldge.

3) I'm going to continue getting fit. Lifting weights and training to run a 5K.

>

> Goals. We need goals. We need reasonable, achievable goals. If we

> shoot at nothing, what will we hit?

>

> How much difference would it make in our healing, if we simply said, ok,

> starting on the day after Christmas, I m going to do 3 things to make a

> difference in my life, despite nada. I deserve to heal. I can t change

> it all, but this I can change.

>

> So, starting the day after Christmas, and for the next year

>

> 1. I m going to make a choice to be happy every day. Nada or anyone

> else who wants to pull me back down into the pit of depression and self

> pity will just have to talk to the hand, cause the face isnt listening.

> I will choose to be happy this year.

>

> 2. I m going to spend at least 30 minutes every day writing on my book.

> Without fail. I know a book is in me. I have good ideas for it. I have

> a knack with words. I m not going to let grief, depression, and FOG

> steal that. The book is coming out.

>

> 3. I m going to tell that hurt little kid inside me, every day, hey

> kid? I got it. There s a grown up here now. It s ok. You re not

> responsible. You can be a kid, and let go and grow up. You don t have

> to be in control anymore. It s safe now. I got it. I don t believe that

> yet, but I m gonna tell him, every day.

>

> I may do more. But I ll never do less. These 3 things, I will do.

>

> What will you commit to do for your healing ? Not the whole world, just

> 3 little things.

>

> Doug

>

[Guest guest]

I like your #3. A therapist once told me that when we remember trauma from our

youth, we revert back to that little 8 year old or 4 year old from when it

happened. We're all emotion, hurt and pain. There is no logic or reason. Knowing

that helped me deal with that inner child better.

1) I'm going to live my life without wondering if my parents would approve of

what I'm doing.

2) I'm going to hold my cards closer to my chest. If they want to know what is

going on, they will have to ASK. Even then, I may be a little limited about what

I divuldge.

3) I'm going to continue getting fit. Lifting weights and training to run a 5K.

>

> Goals. We need goals. We need reasonable, achievable goals. If we

> shoot at nothing, what will we hit?

>

> How much difference would it make in our healing, if we simply said, ok,

> starting on the day after Christmas, I m going to do 3 things to make a

> difference in my life, despite nada. I deserve to heal. I can t change

> it all, but this I can change.

>

> So, starting the day after Christmas, and for the next year

>

> 1. I m going to make a choice to be happy every day. Nada or anyone

> else who wants to pull me back down into the pit of depression and self

> pity will just have to talk to the hand, cause the face isnt listening.

> I will choose to be happy this year.

>

> 2. I m going to spend at least 30 minutes every day writing on my book.

> Without fail. I know a book is in me. I have good ideas for it. I have

> a knack with words. I m not going to let grief, depression, and FOG

> steal that. The book is coming out.

>

> 3. I m going to tell that hurt little kid inside me, every day, hey

> kid? I got it. There s a grown up here now. It s ok. You re not

> responsible. You can be a kid, and let go and grow up. You don t have

> to be in control anymore. It s safe now. I got it. I don t believe that

> yet, but I m gonna tell him, every day.

>

> I may do more. But I ll never do less. These 3 things, I will do.

>

> What will you commit to do for your healing ? Not the whole world, just

> 3 little things.

>

> Doug

>

[Guest guest]

yes goals are good.. not always achieved every day, but good to shoot for

anyways i agree:

i will try each day to live that one day to the best of my ability and to be

happy..

i will try each day to do one thing i don't particularly want to do but which

needs to be done..

i will try to do a good turn for my fellow human beings.. not letting it be

known that it was i who did it..

these are loosely adapted from the 'just for today's' of emotions anonymous and

the have been my goals for many years now.. and i think they are good ones even

now.

blessings and healing for all,ann

Subject: This year I m going to change

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Wednesday, December 22, 2010, 11:11 PM

 

Goals. We need goals. We need reasonable, achievable goals. If we

shoot at nothing, what will we hit?

How much difference would it make in our healing, if we simply said, ok,

starting on the day after Christmas, I m going to do 3 things to make a

difference in my life, despite nada. I deserve to heal. I can t change

it all, but this I can change.

So, starting the day after Christmas, and for the next year

1. I m going to make a choice to be happy every day. Nada or anyone

else who wants to pull me back down into the pit of depression and self

pity will just have to talk to the hand, cause the face isnt listening.

I will choose to be happy this year.

2. I m going to spend at least 30 minutes every day writing on my book.

Without fail. I know a book is in me. I have good ideas for it. I have

a knack with words. I m not going to let grief, depression, and FOG

steal that. The book is coming out.

3. I m going to tell that hurt little kid inside me, every day, hey

kid? I got it. There s a grown up here now. It s ok. You re not

responsible. You can be a kid, and let go and grow up. You don t have

to be in control anymore. It s safe now. I got it. I don t believe that

yet, but I m gonna tell him, every day.

I may do more. But I ll never do less. These 3 things, I will do.

What will you commit to do for your healing ? Not the whole world, just

3 little things.

Doug