Reaching out, need help dealing w/QUEEN nada

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She used to treat me much like she is w/my own kids now ( " spoiled rotton " , which

I now see as a form of abuse), I became accustomed to this (never individuated

normally, that's for sure & was actually crippled by her overinvolved

codependent caretaking if that's what you wanna call it), and now that my older

2 kids are in her clutches, she has no need for me (her daughter). Sometimes I

feel like she deliberately tried to steal my life. Worse of all, my kids are

affected by her illness & control tactics, and have been there whole lifes.

This is nearly more than I can bear at times. To see how I did not protect

them, or myself, from this illness or from her abuse (that makes her look

wonderful to most of the world, and me like and ungrateful bitch).

I'm very isolated here. We live in a small town. People know her from her

work. She's very functional in work and makes lots of money (money=power), and

flaunts her social/economic status, and treats me with derision (based upon my

'status'???) privately. Other people just think she is such a " strong " woman.

I really need some support, understanding. Am I the crazy one here, maybe it's

all me? Does anyone else have a QUEEN bpd Mother/nada? If so, please share

what it's like, or if this sounds familiar.

Thanks so much,

Lynn