Am I being selfish? - Need advice

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I'm new to the group, and I guess i sought it out because of my most recent

decision to cut contact with my father who has BPD/NPD. The last straw was when

after several months of not speaking he decided that if I didn't turn over my

license plates he would call the police and report my car stolen (I just

graduated college, he was helping me pay my car insurance, i paid for my own car

in full, but evidently he was sick of paying $40 a month for me). Needless to

say, I watched him physically rip off my license plates leaving me with no car

for over a week to get to my two jobs. Not one ounce of him seemed to care, all

his concern was how I am a " disrespectful little bitch " and I got what I

deserved. Over the past 22 years, this has been no where near the worst he's

done, but it was my last straw.

Being the oldest of three, and successfully avoiding Thanksgiving's drama, I'm

worried about Christmas and up-coming birthdays. How selfish is it of me to put

my family in the position where they have to choose to either see me or him and

miss out on one of us? I know it's unfair, but my mental status depends upon it.

Any suggestions???