Re: Normalizing versus Legalizing...

[Guest guest]

This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I have

" legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head says is a balanced

diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat dessert-type foods

sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over, afraid that all I'll want is

junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any kind of period where you did want to

eat lots of or mostly desserts that were formerly forbidden?

Sara

>

> Last night I went out to dinner with friends. Dinner was fine, I found myself

distracted by the conversation and eating past full so I stopped. Then it came

time to decide about dessert. I felt a flash of excitement at the thought of

dessert that immediately faded, because dessert is no longer special. There was

a little bit of disappointment followed by, " oh, I guess this is what

normalizing formerly forbidden foods feels like " . I didn't order dessert which

I always would have in the past, even if others didn't.

>

> On the way to the car I thought about the let down because dessert has always

been restricted, if not forbidden. Growing up I could have it - but only

following dinner and only however much mom doled out. Seconds would have been

the end of the world. Then there were all those diets all those years...

>

> But, now because I'm allowing it every time I want it, last night it was just

food. Food that at least didn't feel interesting at all.

>

> Hope this holds. Seems too good to be true. Sandarah

>

[Guest guest]

I'm still trying to eat what my head says is

a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat

dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over,

afraid that all I'll want is junk food.

Sara, eating with your head is what has created the problem in the

first place.

Your body loathes food that poisons it. Why would your body make you

eat only junk food if you let it take over?

When you first legalise food, you may well eat junk, because your

head --not your body, but your head -- doesn't believe you. But once

it realises that you are serious, it will relax and allow your body

to speak. All you have to do is listen.

Give your body a fair vote.

Paddy

[Guest guest]

Hi Sara,The only way I know to reach this point is to give yourself full permission - truly - to eat what you want. I did this awhile back and ate brownies, ice cream, pop tarts, pizza, donuts, you name it. This coming from someone in the nutrition field who is also a raw foods specialist! It was terrifying but I did it anyway. And now, I can honestly say, that for the first time in my life I don't crave foods like I used to (and I struggled with cravings for years), I no longer desire sugar like I used to, and there is more but I'm just about out the door. I'm happy to share more if you'd like to know about my process.Warmly,DaphneThis is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though

I have "legalized" everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat

dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over, afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any

kind of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts that were formerly forbidden?

Sara Tweet me or Facebook mehttp://www.ThePleasureNutritionist.comHelping Busy Women Make Healthy Habits Pleasurable

[Guest guest]

Hi Sara,The only way I know to reach this point is to give yourself full permission - truly - to eat what you want. I did this awhile back and ate brownies, ice cream, pop tarts, pizza, donuts, you name it. This coming from someone in the nutrition field who is also a raw foods specialist! It was terrifying but I did it anyway. And now, I can honestly say, that for the first time in my life I don't crave foods like I used to (and I struggled with cravings for years), I no longer desire sugar like I used to, and there is more but I'm just about out the door. I'm happy to share more if you'd like to know about my process.Warmly,DaphneThis is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though

I have "legalized" everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat

dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over, afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any

kind of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts that were formerly forbidden?

Sara Tweet me or Facebook mehttp://www.ThePleasureNutritionist.comHelping Busy Women Make Healthy Habits Pleasurable

[Guest guest]

Hi Sara,The only way I know to reach this point is to give yourself full permission - truly - to eat what you want. I did this awhile back and ate brownies, ice cream, pop tarts, pizza, donuts, you name it. This coming from someone in the nutrition field who is also a raw foods specialist! It was terrifying but I did it anyway. And now, I can honestly say, that for the first time in my life I don't crave foods like I used to (and I struggled with cravings for years), I no longer desire sugar like I used to, and there is more but I'm just about out the door. I'm happy to share more if you'd like to know about my process.Warmly,DaphneThis is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though

I have "legalized" everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat

dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over, afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any

kind of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts that were formerly forbidden?

Sara Tweet me or Facebook mehttp://www.ThePleasureNutritionist.comHelping Busy Women Make Healthy Habits Pleasurable

[Guest guest]

Daphne,

I would love to know about your process when you have time.

It sounds like you all are saying that if I feel like I want Butterfingers'

candy bars for lunch, and only Butterfingers' candy bars and nothing else, then

I should just go ahead and have them? Until I am satisfied, that is? That is the

reality of what I want. And if I have that, i know I can eat a lot before that

full feeling begins to set in. I have read the posts about not hungry versus

satisfied. I probably could eat 1 or 2 2inch long bars and not feel the physical

sensation of hunger in my stomach anymore, but I would not be satisfied. I don't

know how to determine satisfied. I was trying for the lack of any sensation in

my stomach, neither hunger nor fullness, but I could eat an entire pack of candy

bars and not feel any fullness in my stomach. I've been through a lifetime of

starving myself and then binging on junk like ths. I so want out of it.

Sara

>

> Hi Sara,

>

> The only way I know to reach this point is to give yourself full permission -

truly - to eat what you want. I did this awhile back and ate brownies, ice

cream, pop tarts, pizza, donuts, you name it. This coming from someone in the

nutrition field who is also a raw foods specialist! It was terrifying but I did

it anyway. And now, I can honestly say, that for the first time in my life I

don't crave foods like I used to (and I struggled with cravings for years), I no

longer desire sugar like I used to, and there is more but I'm just about out the

door. I'm happy to share more if you'd like to know about my process.

>

> Warmly,

> Daphne

>

>

>

> This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I

have " legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head

> says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat

dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over,

> afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any kind

of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts

> that were formerly forbidden?

>

> Sara

>  

> Tweet me or Facebook me

> http://www.ThePleasureNutritionist.com

> Helping Busy Women Make Healthy Habits Pleasurable

>

[Guest guest]

Daphne,

I would love to know about your process when you have time.

It sounds like you all are saying that if I feel like I want Butterfingers'

candy bars for lunch, and only Butterfingers' candy bars and nothing else, then

I should just go ahead and have them? Until I am satisfied, that is? That is the

reality of what I want. And if I have that, i know I can eat a lot before that

full feeling begins to set in. I have read the posts about not hungry versus

satisfied. I probably could eat 1 or 2 2inch long bars and not feel the physical

sensation of hunger in my stomach anymore, but I would not be satisfied. I don't

know how to determine satisfied. I was trying for the lack of any sensation in

my stomach, neither hunger nor fullness, but I could eat an entire pack of candy

bars and not feel any fullness in my stomach. I've been through a lifetime of

starving myself and then binging on junk like ths. I so want out of it.

Sara

>

> Hi Sara,

>

> The only way I know to reach this point is to give yourself full permission -

truly - to eat what you want. I did this awhile back and ate brownies, ice

cream, pop tarts, pizza, donuts, you name it. This coming from someone in the

nutrition field who is also a raw foods specialist! It was terrifying but I did

it anyway. And now, I can honestly say, that for the first time in my life I

don't crave foods like I used to (and I struggled with cravings for years), I no

longer desire sugar like I used to, and there is more but I'm just about out the

door. I'm happy to share more if you'd like to know about my process.

>

> Warmly,

> Daphne

>

>

>

> This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I

have " legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head

> says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat

dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over,

> afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any kind

of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts

> that were formerly forbidden?

>

> Sara

>  

> Tweet me or Facebook me

> http://www.ThePleasureNutritionist.com

> Helping Busy Women Make Healthy Habits Pleasurable

>

[Guest guest]

Daphne,

I would love to know about your process when you have time.

It sounds like you all are saying that if I feel like I want Butterfingers'

candy bars for lunch, and only Butterfingers' candy bars and nothing else, then

I should just go ahead and have them? Until I am satisfied, that is? That is the

reality of what I want. And if I have that, i know I can eat a lot before that

full feeling begins to set in. I have read the posts about not hungry versus

satisfied. I probably could eat 1 or 2 2inch long bars and not feel the physical

sensation of hunger in my stomach anymore, but I would not be satisfied. I don't

know how to determine satisfied. I was trying for the lack of any sensation in

my stomach, neither hunger nor fullness, but I could eat an entire pack of candy

bars and not feel any fullness in my stomach. I've been through a lifetime of

starving myself and then binging on junk like ths. I so want out of it.

Sara

>

> Hi Sara,

>

> The only way I know to reach this point is to give yourself full permission -

truly - to eat what you want. I did this awhile back and ate brownies, ice

cream, pop tarts, pizza, donuts, you name it. This coming from someone in the

nutrition field who is also a raw foods specialist! It was terrifying but I did

it anyway. And now, I can honestly say, that for the first time in my life I

don't crave foods like I used to (and I struggled with cravings for years), I no

longer desire sugar like I used to, and there is more but I'm just about out the

door. I'm happy to share more if you'd like to know about my process.

>

> Warmly,

> Daphne

>

>

>

> This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I

have " legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head

> says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat

dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over,

> afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any kind

of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts

> that were formerly forbidden?

>

> Sara

>  

> Tweet me or Facebook me

> http://www.ThePleasureNutritionist.com

> Helping Busy Women Make Healthy Habits Pleasurable

>

[Guest guest]

I'm still in the process of legalizing. I thought I'd done it earlier, but

realized that I was actually in my head and had obliquely forbidden

candy/dessert, etc. It is very scary - and I did go to another site that talked

about legalizing very negatively which took me back into my power struggle and

confusion about whether or not I could learn to trust the body.

Even so, I feel this is very important as desserts, et al have always been

either severely restricted or forbidden and therefore almost hypnotic in their

power over me.

When I do eat ice cream (my focus of legalization) I do it as consciously as

possible, allowing myself to experience and really take in the taste, listen and

respond to the various " voices " in my head, the emotions playing through, etc.

Taking the shame and moralization off of food choices and weight seems very

important right now to get me out of the power struggles and self recrimination.

I too would like to hear from others whose legalizing worked out, how long it

took, whether they went through various relapses into forbidding/restricting,

etc. I had gone through one phase and thought I was on the other side, but

discovered that I had never legalized ice cream because I'd been struggling with

wanting it during my healing from foot surgery.

I haven't graduated to the place of choosing; it's still one side or the other

wins as I can't imagine the kind of neutrality about ice cream that would feel

like a choice to eat it or not... So I guess my head is still fighting my body

and my body is caught in the middle, so to speak.

Thanks.

Sandarah

> >

> > Last night I went out to dinner with friends. Dinner was fine, I found

myself distracted by the conversation and eating past full so I stopped. Then

it came time to decide about dessert. I felt a flash of excitement at the

thought of dessert that immediately faded, because dessert is no longer special.

There was a little bit of disappointment followed by, " oh, I guess this is what

normalizing formerly forbidden foods feels like " . I didn't order dessert which

I always would have in the past, even if others didn't.

> >

> > On the way to the car I thought about the let down because dessert has

always been restricted, if not forbidden. Growing up I could have it - but only

following dinner and only however much mom doled out. Seconds would have been

the end of the world. Then there were all those diets all those years...

> >

> > But, now because I'm allowing it every time I want it, last night it was

just food. Food that at least didn't feel interesting at all.

> >

> > Hope this holds. Seems too good to be true. Sandarah

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Trusting yourself is the hardest part. I have tried to completely legalize, too, but I can tell that I'm not really there yet. I still feel a little guilty if I have day where I feel I didn't really get the nutrients I should. Saturday was such a day. We had pizza for dinner and my husband remarked that we had had a "bad eating day." I tried to banish guilt and was fairly successful. Yesterday I found that I was craving vegetables and salad, which I ate. So I guess is really does all balance out in the end. I am trying to really believe that and trust my body....

Mimi

Subject: Re: Normalizing versus Legalizing...To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Sunday, September 25, 2011, 7:51 AM

This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I have "legalized" everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over, afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any kind of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts that were formerly forbidden?Sara

[Guest guest]

Trusting yourself is the hardest part. I have tried to completely legalize, too, but I can tell that I'm not really there yet. I still feel a little guilty if I have day where I feel I didn't really get the nutrients I should. Saturday was such a day. We had pizza for dinner and my husband remarked that we had had a "bad eating day." I tried to banish guilt and was fairly successful. Yesterday I found that I was craving vegetables and salad, which I ate. So I guess is really does all balance out in the end. I am trying to really believe that and trust my body....

Mimi

Subject: Re: Normalizing versus Legalizing...To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Sunday, September 25, 2011, 7:51 AM

This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I have "legalized" everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over, afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any kind of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts that were formerly forbidden?Sara

[Guest guest]

Yesterday was not a wonderful 'eating day' for me either. Dear hubby and I

worked all day long preparing our kitchen for painting and I just couldn't face

moving all the drop clothes to cook. So we decided to eat out which ended up bad

since there is very little choice and the food was lousy too. But being over

hungry I ate it (all!) anyway. Happily the only anger that I felt was directed

towards eating establishments rather than myself. I had joked that we could have

picked up some TV dinners at the grocery store and in hind sight that would have

probably been a better choice!

Each 'feeding' is an experience and potential lesson. Practice gets me there ;-)

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Trusting yourself is the hardest part. I have tried to completely legalize,

too, but I can tell that I'm not really there yet. I still feel a little guilty

if I have day where I feel I didn't really get the nutrients I should. Saturday

was such a day. We had pizza for dinner and my husband remarked that we had had

a " bad eating day. " I tried to banish guilt and was fairly successful. Yesterday

I found that I was craving vegetables and salad, which I ate. So I guess is

really does all balance out in the end. I am trying to really believe that and

trust my body....

>

> Mimi

>

[Guest guest]

Yesterday was not a wonderful 'eating day' for me either. Dear hubby and I

worked all day long preparing our kitchen for painting and I just couldn't face

moving all the drop clothes to cook. So we decided to eat out which ended up bad

since there is very little choice and the food was lousy too. But being over

hungry I ate it (all!) anyway. Happily the only anger that I felt was directed

towards eating establishments rather than myself. I had joked that we could have

picked up some TV dinners at the grocery store and in hind sight that would have

probably been a better choice!

Each 'feeding' is an experience and potential lesson. Practice gets me there ;-)

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Trusting yourself is the hardest part. I have tried to completely legalize,

too, but I can tell that I'm not really there yet. I still feel a little guilty

if I have day where I feel I didn't really get the nutrients I should. Saturday

was such a day. We had pizza for dinner and my husband remarked that we had had

a " bad eating day. " I tried to banish guilt and was fairly successful. Yesterday

I found that I was craving vegetables and salad, which I ate. So I guess is

really does all balance out in the end. I am trying to really believe that and

trust my body....

>

> Mimi

>

[Guest guest]

Yesterday was not a wonderful 'eating day' for me either. Dear hubby and I

worked all day long preparing our kitchen for painting and I just couldn't face

moving all the drop clothes to cook. So we decided to eat out which ended up bad

since there is very little choice and the food was lousy too. But being over

hungry I ate it (all!) anyway. Happily the only anger that I felt was directed

towards eating establishments rather than myself. I had joked that we could have

picked up some TV dinners at the grocery store and in hind sight that would have

probably been a better choice!

Each 'feeding' is an experience and potential lesson. Practice gets me there ;-)

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Trusting yourself is the hardest part. I have tried to completely legalize,

too, but I can tell that I'm not really there yet. I still feel a little guilty

if I have day where I feel I didn't really get the nutrients I should. Saturday

was such a day. We had pizza for dinner and my husband remarked that we had had

a " bad eating day. " I tried to banish guilt and was fairly successful. Yesterday

I found that I was craving vegetables and salad, which I ate. So I guess is

really does all balance out in the end. I am trying to really believe that and

trust my body....

>

> Mimi

>

[Guest guest]

Ooh, I like this. I'm feeling a bit this way too!

>

>

>

> Subject: Re: Normalizing versus Legalizing...

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Date: Sunday, September 25, 2011, 7:51 AM

>

>

>

>

>

>

> This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I

have " legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head says is a

balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat dessert-type

foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over, afraid that all I'll want

is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any kind of period where you did want

to eat lots of or mostly desserts that were formerly forbidden?

>

> Sara

>

[Guest guest]

Ooh, I like this. I'm feeling a bit this way too!

>

>

>

> Subject: Re: Normalizing versus Legalizing...

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Date: Sunday, September 25, 2011, 7:51 AM

>

>

>

>

>

>

> This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I

have " legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head says is a

balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat dessert-type

foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over, afraid that all I'll want

is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any kind of period where you did want

to eat lots of or mostly desserts that were formerly forbidden?

>

> Sara

>

[Guest guest]

Ooh, I like this. I'm feeling a bit this way too!

>

>

>

> Subject: Re: Normalizing versus Legalizing...

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Date: Sunday, September 25, 2011, 7:51 AM

>

>

>

>

>

>

> This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I

have " legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head says is a

balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat dessert-type

foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over, afraid that all I'll want

is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any kind of period where you did want

to eat lots of or mostly desserts that were formerly forbidden?

>

> Sara

>

[Guest guest]

I am not sure I will ever be 100% of the way there!I've been trying to give myself permission to eat tortilla chips, after a friend left the remnants of a bag here and they were surprisingly good.

i bought a big bag and even managed to eat them as a meal with other things, on a plate! major progress. and then today i found myself feeling like i had gained weight, and blaming the tortilla chips. 

the good news is that i don't do this very often anymore! but it's tough in our culture. so keep working at it... and also keep forgiving yourself...

best,abbyIE since 11/08

 

Ooh, I like this. I'm feeling a bit this way too!

---v In IntuitiveEating_Support , Incigul Sayman wrote:

>

> Trusting yourself is the hardest part. I have tried to completely legalize, too, but I can tell that I'm not really there yet. I still feel a little guilty if I have day where I feel I didn't really get the nutrients I should. Saturday was such a day. We had pizza for dinner and my husband remarked that we had had a " bad eating day. " I tried to banish guilt and was fairly successful. Yesterday I found that I was craving vegetables and salad, which I ate. So I guess is really does all balance out in the end. I am trying to really believe that and trust my body....

>  

> Mimi

>  

>

>

>

>

>

> Subject: Re: Normalizing versus Legalizing...

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Date: Sunday, September 25, 2011, 7:51 AM

>

>

>  

>

>

>

> This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I have " legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over, afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any kind of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts that were formerly forbidden?

>

> Sara

>

[Guest guest]

Speaking for myself, I can say that when I went through legalizing, I did eat all I wanted of anything I wanted, so long as I could afford it. I did not worry about the hunger-fullness portion of relearning until after I had legalized, because there would have been no point in legalizing for me if it had been 'it's legal IF AND ONLY IF you are physically hungry.' Legalizing for me also meant legalizing amounts as well as types of food.

Through this process, I learned what did and did not actually taste good (many things that I thought I liked, it turns out I despise), how hunger and satisfied and over full felt, and eventually what my body was demanding.

This was not a short process. I ate cheesecake for breakfast maybe 3 days a week for about six months before my stomach and brain decided that cheesecake isn't a miracle food or forbidden fruit I ate cheap chocolate until I realized I hate it and that Snickers are far too sweet and that I really love expensive chocolate. Now I am to the point that if I complain of being sad and a friend suggests chocolate, I frequently respond that it doesn't sound good.

The process can be scary. The idea of allowing yourself to eat as many candy bars as you want probably seems insane to many of the voices in our heads, but that is how we re-learn our relationship with food-allowing our bodies to function without external restrictions.

~

[Guest guest]

Speaking for myself, I can say that when I went through legalizing, I did eat all I wanted of anything I wanted, so long as I could afford it. I did not worry about the hunger-fullness portion of relearning until after I had legalized, because there would have been no point in legalizing for me if it had been 'it's legal IF AND ONLY IF you are physically hungry.' Legalizing for me also meant legalizing amounts as well as types of food.

Through this process, I learned what did and did not actually taste good (many things that I thought I liked, it turns out I despise), how hunger and satisfied and over full felt, and eventually what my body was demanding.

This was not a short process. I ate cheesecake for breakfast maybe 3 days a week for about six months before my stomach and brain decided that cheesecake isn't a miracle food or forbidden fruit I ate cheap chocolate until I realized I hate it and that Snickers are far too sweet and that I really love expensive chocolate. Now I am to the point that if I complain of being sad and a friend suggests chocolate, I frequently respond that it doesn't sound good.

The process can be scary. The idea of allowing yourself to eat as many candy bars as you want probably seems insane to many of the voices in our heads, but that is how we re-learn our relationship with food-allowing our bodies to function without external restrictions.

~

[Guest guest]

Speaking for myself, I can say that when I went through legalizing, I did eat all I wanted of anything I wanted, so long as I could afford it. I did not worry about the hunger-fullness portion of relearning until after I had legalized, because there would have been no point in legalizing for me if it had been 'it's legal IF AND ONLY IF you are physically hungry.' Legalizing for me also meant legalizing amounts as well as types of food.

Through this process, I learned what did and did not actually taste good (many things that I thought I liked, it turns out I despise), how hunger and satisfied and over full felt, and eventually what my body was demanding.

This was not a short process. I ate cheesecake for breakfast maybe 3 days a week for about six months before my stomach and brain decided that cheesecake isn't a miracle food or forbidden fruit I ate cheap chocolate until I realized I hate it and that Snickers are far too sweet and that I really love expensive chocolate. Now I am to the point that if I complain of being sad and a friend suggests chocolate, I frequently respond that it doesn't sound good.

The process can be scary. The idea of allowing yourself to eat as many candy bars as you want probably seems insane to many of the voices in our heads, but that is how we re-learn our relationship with food-allowing our bodies to function without external restrictions.

~

[Guest guest]

's response (not sure if it will show up above or below mine) was great.

trying to figure out how full or hungry you are can definitely get in the way of

just allowing yourself to eat whatever it is you want. Any judgment, rules or

parameters that you place on the experience can easily hinder it.

Because I'm in the field of nutrition and had already spent years cleaning out

my body and learning to listen to it, the process of " legalizing " food was not

as long for me as it might be for another.

It was however, terrifying. During the initial phase I had to banish from my

head all of my nutrition education and just eat whatever I wanted.

I had all the typical thoughts, " will I ever stop? " " what am I doing to my

body? " " will it get out of control? " and more. Sometimes I didn't even know why

I was so terrified, I just was.

But I kept going.

And I continue to keep going because it's challenging to banish a lifetime of

rules in just a few short months, or even years!

When we do give ourselves true permission our body can't help to start speaking

up, eventually.

So now, it's rare that I even want something sweet - because it no longer gives

me the " forbidden " gratification that it used to. There is some grieving there

as I miss the feeling feeding my cravings gave me at times but my relationship

to my body is the healthiest (and most loving) it has ever been.

Hope that helps?

> >

> > Hi Sara,

> >

> > The only way I know to reach this point is to give yourself full permission

- truly - to eat what you want. I did this awhile back and ate brownies, ice

cream, pop tarts, pizza, donuts, you name it. This coming from someone in the

nutrition field who is also a raw foods specialist! It was terrifying but I did

it anyway. And now, I can honestly say, that for the first time in my life I

don't crave foods like I used to (and I struggled with cravings for years), I no

longer desire sugar like I used to, and there is more but I'm just about out the

door. I'm happy to share more if you'd like to know about my process.

> >

> > Warmly,

> > Daphne

> >

> >

> >

> > This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I

have " legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head

> > says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat

dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over,

> > afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any

kind of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts

> > that were formerly forbidden?

> >

> > Sara

> >

> > Tweet me or Facebook me

> > http://www.ThePleasureNutritionist.com

> > Helping Busy Women Make Healthy Habits Pleasurable

> >

>

[Guest guest]

's response (not sure if it will show up above or below mine) was great.

trying to figure out how full or hungry you are can definitely get in the way of

just allowing yourself to eat whatever it is you want. Any judgment, rules or

parameters that you place on the experience can easily hinder it.

Because I'm in the field of nutrition and had already spent years cleaning out

my body and learning to listen to it, the process of " legalizing " food was not

as long for me as it might be for another.

It was however, terrifying. During the initial phase I had to banish from my

head all of my nutrition education and just eat whatever I wanted.

I had all the typical thoughts, " will I ever stop? " " what am I doing to my

body? " " will it get out of control? " and more. Sometimes I didn't even know why

I was so terrified, I just was.

But I kept going.

And I continue to keep going because it's challenging to banish a lifetime of

rules in just a few short months, or even years!

When we do give ourselves true permission our body can't help to start speaking

up, eventually.

So now, it's rare that I even want something sweet - because it no longer gives

me the " forbidden " gratification that it used to. There is some grieving there

as I miss the feeling feeding my cravings gave me at times but my relationship

to my body is the healthiest (and most loving) it has ever been.

Hope that helps?

> >

> > Hi Sara,

> >

> > The only way I know to reach this point is to give yourself full permission

- truly - to eat what you want. I did this awhile back and ate brownies, ice

cream, pop tarts, pizza, donuts, you name it. This coming from someone in the

nutrition field who is also a raw foods specialist! It was terrifying but I did

it anyway. And now, I can honestly say, that for the first time in my life I

don't crave foods like I used to (and I struggled with cravings for years), I no

longer desire sugar like I used to, and there is more but I'm just about out the

door. I'm happy to share more if you'd like to know about my process.

> >

> > Warmly,

> > Daphne

> >

> >

> >

> > This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I

have " legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head

> > says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat

dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over,

> > afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any

kind of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts

> > that were formerly forbidden?

> >

> > Sara

> >

> > Tweet me or Facebook me

> > http://www.ThePleasureNutritionist.com

> > Helping Busy Women Make Healthy Habits Pleasurable

> >

>

[Guest guest]

's response (not sure if it will show up above or below mine) was great.

trying to figure out how full or hungry you are can definitely get in the way of

just allowing yourself to eat whatever it is you want. Any judgment, rules or

parameters that you place on the experience can easily hinder it.

Because I'm in the field of nutrition and had already spent years cleaning out

my body and learning to listen to it, the process of " legalizing " food was not

as long for me as it might be for another.

It was however, terrifying. During the initial phase I had to banish from my

head all of my nutrition education and just eat whatever I wanted.

I had all the typical thoughts, " will I ever stop? " " what am I doing to my

body? " " will it get out of control? " and more. Sometimes I didn't even know why

I was so terrified, I just was.

But I kept going.

And I continue to keep going because it's challenging to banish a lifetime of

rules in just a few short months, or even years!

When we do give ourselves true permission our body can't help to start speaking

up, eventually.

So now, it's rare that I even want something sweet - because it no longer gives

me the " forbidden " gratification that it used to. There is some grieving there

as I miss the feeling feeding my cravings gave me at times but my relationship

to my body is the healthiest (and most loving) it has ever been.

Hope that helps?

> >

> > Hi Sara,

> >

> > The only way I know to reach this point is to give yourself full permission

- truly - to eat what you want. I did this awhile back and ate brownies, ice

cream, pop tarts, pizza, donuts, you name it. This coming from someone in the

nutrition field who is also a raw foods specialist! It was terrifying but I did

it anyway. And now, I can honestly say, that for the first time in my life I

don't crave foods like I used to (and I struggled with cravings for years), I no

longer desire sugar like I used to, and there is more but I'm just about out the

door. I'm happy to share more if you'd like to know about my process.

> >

> > Warmly,

> > Daphne

> >

> >

> >

> > This is very interesting and I hope I will reach this point. Even though I

have " legalized " everything, I'm still trying to eat what my head

> > says is a balanced diet but eat what I want within certain foods and eat

dessert-type foods sparingly. I'm afraid to let my body take over,

> > afraid that all I'll want is junk food. Sandarah, did you go through any

kind of period where you did want to eat lots of or mostly desserts

> > that were formerly forbidden?

> >

> > Sara

> >

> > Tweet me or Facebook me

> > http://www.ThePleasureNutritionist.com

> > Helping Busy Women Make Healthy Habits Pleasurable

> >

>

[Guest guest]

EXCELLENT and so right ! I also found Daphne's reply to be a perfect

addition to these wonderful insights. Yes the process takes time as well as a

willingness to 'let go' of many of the so-called rules that we had adopted up to

IE. But the reward of peace with eating and food is SO WORTH it. Thanks for

these posts - I am inspired by both.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Speaking for myself, I can say that when I went through legalizing, I did eat

all I wanted of anything I wanted, so long as I could afford it. I did not

worry about the hunger-fullness portion of relearning until after I had

legalized, because there would have been no point in legalizing for me if it had

been 'it's legal IF AND ONLY IF you are physically hungry.' Legalizing for me

also meant legalizing amounts as well as types of food.

> ~

>