Guest guest Posted January 3, 2011 Report Share Posted January 3, 2011 Had a bad dream last night which shows I still fear my mom's reactions. In my dream, she had asked me to fill out some very important papers for her by a certain date. But, in my dream state, I didn't pay attention to her request...probably because I tune out most of what she says in real life...and my brother came to get the signed papers. When I told him I hadn't signed them yet, he flashed me a very disapproving look, very hateful and went to tell my mom. She stopped talking to me in my dream... I woke up sweating and scared. Amy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2011 Report Share Posted January 3, 2011 Had a bad dream last night which shows I still fear my mom's reactions. In my dream, she had asked me to fill out some very important papers for her by a certain date. But, in my dream state, I didn't pay attention to her request...probably because I tune out most of what she says in real life...and my brother came to get the signed papers. When I told him I hadn't signed them yet, he flashed me a very disapproving look, very hateful and went to tell my mom. She stopped talking to me in my dream... I woke up sweating and scared. Amy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2011 Report Share Posted January 3, 2011 Had a bad dream last night which shows I still fear my mom's reactions. In my dream, she had asked me to fill out some very important papers for her by a certain date. But, in my dream state, I didn't pay attention to her request...probably because I tune out most of what she says in real life...and my brother came to get the signed papers. When I told him I hadn't signed them yet, he flashed me a very disapproving look, very hateful and went to tell my mom. She stopped talking to me in my dream... I woke up sweating and scared. Amy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2011 Report Share Posted January 3, 2011 Amy, I sometimes have nightmares featuring my nada too. Saturday was my birthday. My sister came up to visit for a few days and we made plans to go to Longwood Gardens that day. My sister has not had any contact with our nada since she finished college and joined the army several years ago. Nada doesn't know how to reach her and keeps asking me why my sister won't talk to her. A few days before I dreamed that nada found out about our plans and showed up at the gardens looking for us so that she could talk to my sister. We kept trying to hide from her by going to a different part of the gardens and people kept coming up to me and telling me that my mother was looking for me, not understanding why I wouldn't want to immediately go find her. Needless to say, I did not get a good night's rest that night. At 11:27 AM 01/03/2011 barrycove@... wrote: >Had a bad dream last night which shows I still fear my mom's >reactions. > > >In my dream, she had asked me to fill out some very important >papers for her by a certain date. >But, in my dream state, I didn't pay attention to her >request...probably because I tune out most of what she says in >real life...and my brother came to get the signed papers. > > >When I told him I hadn't signed them yet, he flashed me a very >disapproving look, very hateful and went to tell my mom. She >stopped talking to me in my dream... > > >I woke up sweating and scared. > > >Amy -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2011 Report Share Posted January 3, 2011 Amy & Katrina - I have nada dreams too. But what's odd, is usually in my dream she's nice... and it always creeps me out (even in my dream!!) I find myself thinking " who is this lady? This is not my mother. " I think it's coming from that part of me who still wants a normal mother, or, comes from the times she would " fake " being nice to put on a front for outsiders. But usually she was very cold when she was being fake. I hate having dreams about her, especially when she's nice! Because she is just NOT nice. Makes me wonder if I'm crazy. lol. Mia > > > Amy, > > I sometimes have nightmares featuring my nada too. Saturday was > my birthday. My sister came up to visit for a few days and we > made plans to go to Longwood Gardens that day. My sister has not > had any contact with our nada since she finished college and > joined the army several years ago. Nada doesn't know how to > reach her and keeps asking me why my sister won't talk to her. A > few days before I dreamed that nada found out about our plans > and showed up at the gardens looking for us so that she could > talk to my sister. We kept trying to hide from her by going to a > different part of the gardens and people kept coming up to me > and telling me that my mother was looking for me, not > understanding why I wouldn't want to immediately go find her. > Needless to say, I did not get a good night's rest that night. > > > At 11:27 AM 01/03/2011 barrycove@... <barrycove%40aol.com> wrote: > >Had a bad dream last night which shows I still fear my mom's > >reactions. > > > > > >In my dream, she had asked me to fill out some very important > >papers for her by a certain date. > >But, in my dream state, I didn't pay attention to her > >request...probably because I tune out most of what she says in > >real life...and my brother came to get the signed papers. > > > > > >When I told him I hadn't signed them yet, he flashed me a very > >disapproving look, very hateful and went to tell my mom. She > >stopped talking to me in my dream... > > > > > >I woke up sweating and scared. > > > > > >Amy > > -- > Katrina > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2011 Report Share Posted January 3, 2011 Amy & Katrina - I have nada dreams too. But what's odd, is usually in my dream she's nice... and it always creeps me out (even in my dream!!) I find myself thinking " who is this lady? This is not my mother. " I think it's coming from that part of me who still wants a normal mother, or, comes from the times she would " fake " being nice to put on a front for outsiders. But usually she was very cold when she was being fake. I hate having dreams about her, especially when she's nice! Because she is just NOT nice. Makes me wonder if I'm crazy. lol. Mia > > > Amy, > > I sometimes have nightmares featuring my nada too. Saturday was > my birthday. My sister came up to visit for a few days and we > made plans to go to Longwood Gardens that day. My sister has not > had any contact with our nada since she finished college and > joined the army several years ago. Nada doesn't know how to > reach her and keeps asking me why my sister won't talk to her. A > few days before I dreamed that nada found out about our plans > and showed up at the gardens looking for us so that she could > talk to my sister. We kept trying to hide from her by going to a > different part of the gardens and people kept coming up to me > and telling me that my mother was looking for me, not > understanding why I wouldn't want to immediately go find her. > Needless to say, I did not get a good night's rest that night. > > > At 11:27 AM 01/03/2011 barrycove@... <barrycove%40aol.com> wrote: > >Had a bad dream last night which shows I still fear my mom's > >reactions. > > > > > >In my dream, she had asked me to fill out some very important > >papers for her by a certain date. > >But, in my dream state, I didn't pay attention to her > >request...probably because I tune out most of what she says in > >real life...and my brother came to get the signed papers. > > > > > >When I told him I hadn't signed them yet, he flashed me a very > >disapproving look, very hateful and went to tell my mom. She > >stopped talking to me in my dream... > > > > > >I woke up sweating and scared. > > > > > >Amy > > -- > Katrina > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2011 Report Share Posted January 3, 2011 Strangely I had a bad dream last night, too. Most of it faded away, but the vague feelings associated with it still linger. I don't remember what fada was doing, or what my mom was doing (which is the way it is in real life--selective amnesia, blocking out all the bad things until something triggers the memories) but I know that what fada was doing was really unfair to my mom, and he was being all weird (ie, all of us on eggshells). I got really frustrated in the dream and started yelling at them, about how " if this is what marriage is, and what a husband is, I never want to get married! " Which was exactly what I would think in real life, only I never said it out loud. Maybe I'm finally giving voice to my frustrations in my dreams? Sadly, I've been having a fair number of these dreams, though I forget most of them by the time I wake up. And in those dreams, I'm always finally standing up for myself, and voicing what I always kept quiet, and it always shocks them that I'm standing up for myself. It's still distressing, though. Thank God my husband doesn't have the same qualities my dad has. He and his parents have shown me that real marriages involve give and take, and healthy communication skills, ie, no feeling afraid of sharing your feelings because the other won't blow up or anything. Which is easier said than done, but we're still practicing and getting better Holly > > > Had a bad dream last night which shows I still fear my mom's reactions. > > In my dream, she had asked me to fill out some very important papers for > her by a certain date. > But, in my dream state, I didn't pay attention to her request...probably > because I tune out most of what she says in real life...and my brother came > to get the signed papers. > > When I told him I hadn't signed them yet, he flashed me a very disapproving > look, very hateful and went to tell my mom. She stopped talking to me in my > dream... > > I woke up sweating and scared. > > Amy > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2011 Report Share Posted January 3, 2011 Strangely I had a bad dream last night, too. Most of it faded away, but the vague feelings associated with it still linger. I don't remember what fada was doing, or what my mom was doing (which is the way it is in real life--selective amnesia, blocking out all the bad things until something triggers the memories) but I know that what fada was doing was really unfair to my mom, and he was being all weird (ie, all of us on eggshells). I got really frustrated in the dream and started yelling at them, about how " if this is what marriage is, and what a husband is, I never want to get married! " Which was exactly what I would think in real life, only I never said it out loud. Maybe I'm finally giving voice to my frustrations in my dreams? Sadly, I've been having a fair number of these dreams, though I forget most of them by the time I wake up. And in those dreams, I'm always finally standing up for myself, and voicing what I always kept quiet, and it always shocks them that I'm standing up for myself. It's still distressing, though. Thank God my husband doesn't have the same qualities my dad has. He and his parents have shown me that real marriages involve give and take, and healthy communication skills, ie, no feeling afraid of sharing your feelings because the other won't blow up or anything. Which is easier said than done, but we're still practicing and getting better Holly > > > Had a bad dream last night which shows I still fear my mom's reactions. > > In my dream, she had asked me to fill out some very important papers for > her by a certain date. > But, in my dream state, I didn't pay attention to her request...probably > because I tune out most of what she says in real life...and my brother came > to get the signed papers. > > When I told him I hadn't signed them yet, he flashed me a very disapproving > look, very hateful and went to tell my mom. She stopped talking to me in my > dream... > > I woke up sweating and scared. > > Amy > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2011 Report Share Posted January 3, 2011 Strangely I had a bad dream last night, too. Most of it faded away, but the vague feelings associated with it still linger. I don't remember what fada was doing, or what my mom was doing (which is the way it is in real life--selective amnesia, blocking out all the bad things until something triggers the memories) but I know that what fada was doing was really unfair to my mom, and he was being all weird (ie, all of us on eggshells). I got really frustrated in the dream and started yelling at them, about how " if this is what marriage is, and what a husband is, I never want to get married! " Which was exactly what I would think in real life, only I never said it out loud. Maybe I'm finally giving voice to my frustrations in my dreams? Sadly, I've been having a fair number of these dreams, though I forget most of them by the time I wake up. And in those dreams, I'm always finally standing up for myself, and voicing what I always kept quiet, and it always shocks them that I'm standing up for myself. It's still distressing, though. Thank God my husband doesn't have the same qualities my dad has. He and his parents have shown me that real marriages involve give and take, and healthy communication skills, ie, no feeling afraid of sharing your feelings because the other won't blow up or anything. Which is easier said than done, but we're still practicing and getting better Holly > > > Had a bad dream last night which shows I still fear my mom's reactions. > > In my dream, she had asked me to fill out some very important papers for > her by a certain date. > But, in my dream state, I didn't pay attention to her request...probably > because I tune out most of what she says in real life...and my brother came > to get the signed papers. > > When I told him I hadn't signed them yet, he flashed me a very disapproving > look, very hateful and went to tell my mom. She stopped talking to me in my > dream... > > I woke up sweating and scared. > > Amy > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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