Re: Re: BPD and middle child?

December 8, 2010

My nada was also the oldest of 5. And the only girl, And its interesting

that I don't know much more than that.

On Tue, Dec 7, 2010 at 6:40 PM, crazy150345 wrote:

>

> My nada was the oldest of 5, and always resented the fact that she had to

> look after them in any way while growing up. Her usual gripe about hating

> her mother is that her parents would go out and leave her to babysit the

> younger kids in the evenings when she was a teenager. She really hated the

> fact that her parents had a decent social life. Honestly, that was the worst

> she could come up with! So rediculous.

>

> >

> > Sorry, that sent before I was finished.

> >

> > I was going to add that what IS common with BPD is for " splitting " to

> happen; it sounds like your mother considers her older sister " good, " and

> her younger sister " bad. "

> >

> > Oldest siblings often feel somewhat responsible for their younger

> siblings, so that may be part of the reason your older aunt has " mothered "

> your mother.

> >

> > I think it is also not unusual for a parent with BPD to split the oldest

> child good and the youngest child bad, or for BPD coping skills to be passed

> down through the generations. So I wonder what your grandparents were

> like--whether this splitting of your mother and aunts is something your mom

> came up with on her own, or whether she observed it first from her parents.

> >

> > kt

>

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