Re: Has the BPD in your life ever made you feel physically ill?

[Guest guest]

Always. I have fibromyalgia, which I attribute to a lifetime of suppressing

feelings. I flare up when dealing with my mother and her affairs. Visits to the

nursing home even now sometimes trigger migraines.

I used to get sick to my stomach after eating with her, almost as if the food

didn't digest but just lay there.

It happens to my daughter too.

Em

Sent from my blueberry.

> I had some physical reactions to my nada as a child. I went through this

strange tourette's like twitching thing with blinking my eyes. I also picked my

fingers until they bled and pulled my hair out one strand at a time. It all

happened at different ages and different stages. Usually as an adult, she just

freaking gave me a headache.

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> Has the BPD in your life ever made you feel

physically ill?

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> Just wondering. I had that experience last night after fiance had to deal

> with his likely BPD ex wife. I've also felt nauseous in the past after

> dealing with my nada.

>

> Just wondering if I'm alone or if others have had this unpleasant

> experience.

>

> Mia

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[Guest guest]

Oh boy Holly. That's really awful! It's so interesting to me (as well as

sad!) that so many people have felt physical problems due to the stress of

" family " life.

I can relate to the balance thing & walking like a drunk. I have a balance

disorder too. When they did all the inner ear testing to figure it out, he

asked me if I had ever had any head trauma... sadly, yep. sure did. Thanks

again nada.

Can't figure out why it would take many years for it to start though.

Another one of those mysterious health issues that make me feel like a

hypochondriac too. But again, there's proof for it so what the heck?!

I need to take time while I'm recovering from surgery to really just try &

allow myself to be taken care of, to de-stress & be kind to myself. I have

to take some library books back today, I think I will look for some on

stress & stuff =) I also plan to do the SWOE workbook while i'm healing!

For so long I didn't know there was a workbook too lol.

Anyway, now I'm just rambling. Sorry!

Mia

On Mon, Jan 3, 2011 at 1:55 PM, Holly Byers wrote:

> Yes, absolutely!

> Stress from dealing with toxic BPD people has an impact on the immune

> system, just as stress from schoolwork gives students the " finals flu. "

>

> I had bad periods and debilitating migraines where, if I tried to move

> around, my sense of balance would be horribly upset and I'd walk like a

> drunkard. And if I was post-migraine, I'd be sensitive to fada's moods, and

> if he raised his voice, the room would spin briefly. I also had strange

> stress reactions around my body. My knees would hurt sometimes for months

> on

> end. I had some sort of heart/digestive issue once, due to stress, and had

> to go to the ER only to find out it was nothing. (On the way there, the

> pain

> decreased until I thought of Dad again, and it started hurting again.)

>

> And I got the cold and it settled into my lungs, causing bad coughing. It

> took a whole year, several courses of antibiotics, and a referral to an

> allergist and testing for asthma, and several courses of steroids, before

> my

> lungs were able to heal. Cigarette smoke still sets me off really bad, but

> otherwise I don't have asthma. It sure caused me to lose some days at work

> and a trip to ER for albuterol. Strangely, the albuterol did nothing, it

> just became like a pacifier for me (as my allergist figured out and told

> me.

> She was perceptive and said I was stressed and asked if family life was

> okay. It was awkward 'cause my mom was in the room, and she's like, oh,

> normal school stress....) So, mostly it was the trip to ER and sitting

> there in a calm room that helped me the most. Away from fada.

>

> They still believe I was a hypochondriac and that I was just exaggerating

> and making up stuff. Fada's always complained at how expensive I am.

>

> Sorry, I'm deaf, fada.... >.<

>

> Anyways, yes, you're not alone, unfortunately!

>

> Holly

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