Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Welcome, remember IE is a journey, start small, be kind to yourself, and the path is not straight. Have you read the books yet? Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Elyse Resch? Also there is a book list at the IE site. Take one step at a time. Keep posting and reading here. You will learn a lot. Sorry this is so short but I have to run out. We'll be in touch again. Sandy Hi all, I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! Thanks for listening, Guimauve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Welcome, remember IE is a journey, start small, be kind to yourself, and the path is not straight. Have you read the books yet? Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Elyse Resch? Also there is a book list at the IE site. Take one step at a time. Keep posting and reading here. You will learn a lot. Sorry this is so short but I have to run out. We'll be in touch again. Sandy Hi all, I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! Thanks for listening, Guimauve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Welcome, remember IE is a journey, start small, be kind to yourself, and the path is not straight. Have you read the books yet? Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Elyse Resch? Also there is a book list at the IE site. Take one step at a time. Keep posting and reading here. You will learn a lot. Sorry this is so short but I have to run out. We'll be in touch again. Sandy Hi all, I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! Thanks for listening, Guimauve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Welcome Guimauve (love that name :-). I often get what I call starting angst before any undertaking I do. What helped me get going with IE was 1) I am rather rebellious by nature so allowed my inner diet rebel to determine my initial direction and 2) I view IE as a huge 'feast' and know that I can gulp it down in a bite or two. Selecting the ONE aspect (principle/suggestion) that most appealed to me seemed logical to me so started with legalization. But going right for the elusive hunger signals OR stopping when satisfied OR shutting up the food police etc. etc. worked for others too. If all else fails how about just closing your eyes and opening the IE book to a random page and begin there? I also find that if a topic here catches my interest, its probably what I am really most interested in at that moment. Looking forward to your next post. Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > Hi all, > > I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. > > I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess > > My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. > > I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... > > Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! > > Thanks for listening, > Guimauve > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Welcome Guimauve (love that name :-). I often get what I call starting angst before any undertaking I do. What helped me get going with IE was 1) I am rather rebellious by nature so allowed my inner diet rebel to determine my initial direction and 2) I view IE as a huge 'feast' and know that I can gulp it down in a bite or two. Selecting the ONE aspect (principle/suggestion) that most appealed to me seemed logical to me so started with legalization. But going right for the elusive hunger signals OR stopping when satisfied OR shutting up the food police etc. etc. worked for others too. If all else fails how about just closing your eyes and opening the IE book to a random page and begin there? I also find that if a topic here catches my interest, its probably what I am really most interested in at that moment. Looking forward to your next post. Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > Hi all, > > I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. > > I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess > > My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. > > I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... > > Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! > > Thanks for listening, > Guimauve > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Welcome Guimauve (love that name :-). I often get what I call starting angst before any undertaking I do. What helped me get going with IE was 1) I am rather rebellious by nature so allowed my inner diet rebel to determine my initial direction and 2) I view IE as a huge 'feast' and know that I can gulp it down in a bite or two. Selecting the ONE aspect (principle/suggestion) that most appealed to me seemed logical to me so started with legalization. But going right for the elusive hunger signals OR stopping when satisfied OR shutting up the food police etc. etc. worked for others too. If all else fails how about just closing your eyes and opening the IE book to a random page and begin there? I also find that if a topic here catches my interest, its probably what I am really most interested in at that moment. Looking forward to your next post. Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > Hi all, > > I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. > > I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess > > My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. > > I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... > > Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! > > Thanks for listening, > Guimauve > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 I'd like to echo the welcome and the idea of starting small. Read any material on this that you can find (there is a list on site and you may see references in emails that add to the list) and something will stand out to you as the place for you to start. People start this process in different ways, and the way I started may well mean nothing for you, it's just that personal an experience. Baby steps willl get you there, as is frequently said. And you've found a great site for support. To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Wednesday, October 12, 2011 6:48 PMSubject: Re: how to begin... Welcome, remember IE is a journey, start small, be kind to yourself, and the path is not straight. Have you read the books yet? Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Elyse Resch? Also there is a book list at the IE site. Take one step at a time. Keep posting and reading here. You will learn a lot. Sorry this is so short but I have to run out. We'll be in touch again. Sandy Hi all,I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad.My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it?I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess :)My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral.I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story...Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet!Thanks for listening,Guimauve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 I'd like to echo the welcome and the idea of starting small. Read any material on this that you can find (there is a list on site and you may see references in emails that add to the list) and something will stand out to you as the place for you to start. People start this process in different ways, and the way I started may well mean nothing for you, it's just that personal an experience. Baby steps willl get you there, as is frequently said. And you've found a great site for support. To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Wednesday, October 12, 2011 6:48 PMSubject: Re: how to begin... Welcome, remember IE is a journey, start small, be kind to yourself, and the path is not straight. Have you read the books yet? Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Elyse Resch? Also there is a book list at the IE site. Take one step at a time. Keep posting and reading here. You will learn a lot. Sorry this is so short but I have to run out. We'll be in touch again. Sandy Hi all,I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad.My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it?I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess :)My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral.I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story...Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet!Thanks for listening,Guimauve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 I'd like to echo the welcome and the idea of starting small. Read any material on this that you can find (there is a list on site and you may see references in emails that add to the list) and something will stand out to you as the place for you to start. People start this process in different ways, and the way I started may well mean nothing for you, it's just that personal an experience. Baby steps willl get you there, as is frequently said. And you've found a great site for support. To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Wednesday, October 12, 2011 6:48 PMSubject: Re: how to begin... Welcome, remember IE is a journey, start small, be kind to yourself, and the path is not straight. Have you read the books yet? Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Elyse Resch? Also there is a book list at the IE site. Take one step at a time. Keep posting and reading here. You will learn a lot. Sorry this is so short but I have to run out. We'll be in touch again. Sandy Hi all,I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad.My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it?I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess :)My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral.I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story...Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet!Thanks for listening,Guimauve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Since I am also new, I am happy to read your question and the answers! I think I need to start small to build on small successes. I think on week one I will take my supplements and journal my feelings about what I eat.. emotions, how hungry when started, how full when finished, etc. I will not do anything other than pay attention. I will not label what I eat as good or bad.. just was I satisfied and did the food do for me what I wanted it to do. Good luck! Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Since I am also new, I am happy to read your question and the answers! I think I need to start small to build on small successes. I think on week one I will take my supplements and journal my feelings about what I eat.. emotions, how hungry when started, how full when finished, etc. I will not do anything other than pay attention. I will not label what I eat as good or bad.. just was I satisfied and did the food do for me what I wanted it to do. Good luck! Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 I'm an information junkie. When I'm interested in something, I need to know everything about it ASAP. IE was no different. I started by buying tons of books on the topic. I bet if I counted, I probably have close to a dozen, if not more. Each has its own bent and own approach, and I liked that. It gave me different ways of looking at things. I didn't even read all of them. I'd just pick and choose whatever seemed interesting to me, then go to the next thing. I still reference them now when I'm looking for ideas or support. I also found a few good websites that I like that I will check out from time to time. After starting, I hit a big stumbling block that took me quite a while to work through. During that time, I didn't have the capacity to be fully committed to IE, so my focus was just to do whatever I could. One week it might just be trying to be cognizant of my hunger levels. The next, it might be legalising a " forbidden food " or working on managing my emotional triggers. I really just changed as I felt I needed to. At the time, it didn't always feel like I was doing this " right, " but interestingly, more of that was sticking with me than I realized. Now, more than a year into this, I'm seeing the cumulative effects of all the little things I did along the way. So, all that to say is that there's no wrong way to start. Depends on where you are, what you've got going on in your life and your personal style. Start big or start small or anywhere in between and realize that there will be a lot of stumbles along the way and that this is all part of the process. Just keep at it, trying different techniques, different books, different resources, whatever. It's all good. Josie > > Hi all, > > I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. > > I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess > > My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. > > I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... > > Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! > > Thanks for listening, > Guimauve > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 I'm an information junkie. When I'm interested in something, I need to know everything about it ASAP. IE was no different. I started by buying tons of books on the topic. I bet if I counted, I probably have close to a dozen, if not more. Each has its own bent and own approach, and I liked that. It gave me different ways of looking at things. I didn't even read all of them. I'd just pick and choose whatever seemed interesting to me, then go to the next thing. I still reference them now when I'm looking for ideas or support. I also found a few good websites that I like that I will check out from time to time. After starting, I hit a big stumbling block that took me quite a while to work through. During that time, I didn't have the capacity to be fully committed to IE, so my focus was just to do whatever I could. One week it might just be trying to be cognizant of my hunger levels. The next, it might be legalising a " forbidden food " or working on managing my emotional triggers. I really just changed as I felt I needed to. At the time, it didn't always feel like I was doing this " right, " but interestingly, more of that was sticking with me than I realized. Now, more than a year into this, I'm seeing the cumulative effects of all the little things I did along the way. So, all that to say is that there's no wrong way to start. Depends on where you are, what you've got going on in your life and your personal style. Start big or start small or anywhere in between and realize that there will be a lot of stumbles along the way and that this is all part of the process. Just keep at it, trying different techniques, different books, different resources, whatever. It's all good. Josie > > Hi all, > > I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. > > I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess > > My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. > > I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... > > Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! > > Thanks for listening, > Guimauve > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 I'm an information junkie. When I'm interested in something, I need to know everything about it ASAP. IE was no different. I started by buying tons of books on the topic. I bet if I counted, I probably have close to a dozen, if not more. Each has its own bent and own approach, and I liked that. It gave me different ways of looking at things. I didn't even read all of them. I'd just pick and choose whatever seemed interesting to me, then go to the next thing. I still reference them now when I'm looking for ideas or support. I also found a few good websites that I like that I will check out from time to time. After starting, I hit a big stumbling block that took me quite a while to work through. During that time, I didn't have the capacity to be fully committed to IE, so my focus was just to do whatever I could. One week it might just be trying to be cognizant of my hunger levels. The next, it might be legalising a " forbidden food " or working on managing my emotional triggers. I really just changed as I felt I needed to. At the time, it didn't always feel like I was doing this " right, " but interestingly, more of that was sticking with me than I realized. Now, more than a year into this, I'm seeing the cumulative effects of all the little things I did along the way. So, all that to say is that there's no wrong way to start. Depends on where you are, what you've got going on in your life and your personal style. Start big or start small or anywhere in between and realize that there will be a lot of stumbles along the way and that this is all part of the process. Just keep at it, trying different techniques, different books, different resources, whatever. It's all good. Josie > > Hi all, > > I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. > > I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess > > My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. > > I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... > > Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! > > Thanks for listening, > Guimauve > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Good question. I think if you like what some folks say, you might want to do a search to look for their earliest posts as it's easy to forget over time. I'm only in two months but feel like a different person - so much has shifted for me. And I'm not talking about re-arranging food plans either; these are fundamental shifts. I don't know how I began - I think it was with noticing. But I flip flopped all over the place, had a couple of psychological/emotional meltdowns of grief and loss re dieting, giving up the life-long wish for the perfect weight, etc. Initially though, I made up some rules, tossed them, found new ones, gave those up when I realized they were rules too and generally stumbled along until I found my own INner equilibrium and sense of direction. It seemed very complicated but I knew I could not go back to the way I'd lived around food and the need to diet so I forged ahead not really believing this would work. I think initially I worked with striving to be observant about what I was eating, why I was eating it, whether I liked it and whether or not I felt I could stop myself. I had tons and tons of diet rebellion and felt I was utterly and irrevocably out of control. I had to tip toe into self trust as I was totally convinced that I could never eat normally or lose weight without someone or something to guide me. I knew that I was broken when it came to eating. (Not true.) Stopping the diet voices came second - and I had to search a bit to discover what I was believing at any given time. I didn't actually have " voices " or even thoughts that I could recognize so I had to become willing to delve into what was behind my fear and what triggered me into defiance so often. Then... and the rest is yours to discover... hard to say where you'll need to start. Maybe with the hardest or maybe with what seems easiest. It will all morph over time and it is safe to just begin. There are no rules - just your own journey of discovery with others here who are walking the path as well. Good luck! Sandarah > > Hi all, > > I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. > > I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess > > My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. > > I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... > > Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! > > Thanks for listening, > Guimauve > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Good question. I think if you like what some folks say, you might want to do a search to look for their earliest posts as it's easy to forget over time. I'm only in two months but feel like a different person - so much has shifted for me. And I'm not talking about re-arranging food plans either; these are fundamental shifts. I don't know how I began - I think it was with noticing. But I flip flopped all over the place, had a couple of psychological/emotional meltdowns of grief and loss re dieting, giving up the life-long wish for the perfect weight, etc. Initially though, I made up some rules, tossed them, found new ones, gave those up when I realized they were rules too and generally stumbled along until I found my own INner equilibrium and sense of direction. It seemed very complicated but I knew I could not go back to the way I'd lived around food and the need to diet so I forged ahead not really believing this would work. I think initially I worked with striving to be observant about what I was eating, why I was eating it, whether I liked it and whether or not I felt I could stop myself. I had tons and tons of diet rebellion and felt I was utterly and irrevocably out of control. I had to tip toe into self trust as I was totally convinced that I could never eat normally or lose weight without someone or something to guide me. I knew that I was broken when it came to eating. (Not true.) Stopping the diet voices came second - and I had to search a bit to discover what I was believing at any given time. I didn't actually have " voices " or even thoughts that I could recognize so I had to become willing to delve into what was behind my fear and what triggered me into defiance so often. Then... and the rest is yours to discover... hard to say where you'll need to start. Maybe with the hardest or maybe with what seems easiest. It will all morph over time and it is safe to just begin. There are no rules - just your own journey of discovery with others here who are walking the path as well. Good luck! Sandarah > > Hi all, > > I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. > > I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess > > My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. > > I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... > > Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! > > Thanks for listening, > Guimauve > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Good question. I think if you like what some folks say, you might want to do a search to look for their earliest posts as it's easy to forget over time. I'm only in two months but feel like a different person - so much has shifted for me. And I'm not talking about re-arranging food plans either; these are fundamental shifts. I don't know how I began - I think it was with noticing. But I flip flopped all over the place, had a couple of psychological/emotional meltdowns of grief and loss re dieting, giving up the life-long wish for the perfect weight, etc. Initially though, I made up some rules, tossed them, found new ones, gave those up when I realized they were rules too and generally stumbled along until I found my own INner equilibrium and sense of direction. It seemed very complicated but I knew I could not go back to the way I'd lived around food and the need to diet so I forged ahead not really believing this would work. I think initially I worked with striving to be observant about what I was eating, why I was eating it, whether I liked it and whether or not I felt I could stop myself. I had tons and tons of diet rebellion and felt I was utterly and irrevocably out of control. I had to tip toe into self trust as I was totally convinced that I could never eat normally or lose weight without someone or something to guide me. I knew that I was broken when it came to eating. (Not true.) Stopping the diet voices came second - and I had to search a bit to discover what I was believing at any given time. I didn't actually have " voices " or even thoughts that I could recognize so I had to become willing to delve into what was behind my fear and what triggered me into defiance so often. Then... and the rest is yours to discover... hard to say where you'll need to start. Maybe with the hardest or maybe with what seems easiest. It will all morph over time and it is safe to just begin. There are no rules - just your own journey of discovery with others here who are walking the path as well. Good luck! Sandarah > > Hi all, > > I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad. > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. > > I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess > > My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral. > > I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story... > > Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet! > > Thanks for listening, > Guimauve > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Guimauve, Sounds like you're in the right place, as we ALL have a problematic relationship with food, which IE is helping us turn around. For me, the simple thing was the best place to start. I simply waited until I was hungry before I next ate. When I recognized hunger, I thought about what I wanted to eat and ate it. I tried to pay attention to " not hungry " but that took a lot longer to identify and that's okay. I pretty soon recognized IF I waited until I was hungry to eat, I could tell easily when I'd eaten TOO MUCH. But that wasn't a reason for self-reproach, just a learning experience. Once again, I'd wait until I was hungry before I put anything else in my mouth. From what I've heard, most IEers start with legalizing foods. I think the fact that instead of going straight from a diet to IE, I had had a time of eating everything in sight meant that instead of gaining when I started IE, I soon lost some, not that that has continued in any sort of linear fashion. I've also heard folks say to just start anywhere, with whichever concept most appeals or is least threatening. Whatever works. Jane > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Guimauve, Sounds like you're in the right place, as we ALL have a problematic relationship with food, which IE is helping us turn around. For me, the simple thing was the best place to start. I simply waited until I was hungry before I next ate. When I recognized hunger, I thought about what I wanted to eat and ate it. I tried to pay attention to " not hungry " but that took a lot longer to identify and that's okay. I pretty soon recognized IF I waited until I was hungry to eat, I could tell easily when I'd eaten TOO MUCH. But that wasn't a reason for self-reproach, just a learning experience. Once again, I'd wait until I was hungry before I put anything else in my mouth. From what I've heard, most IEers start with legalizing foods. I think the fact that instead of going straight from a diet to IE, I had had a time of eating everything in sight meant that instead of gaining when I started IE, I soon lost some, not that that has continued in any sort of linear fashion. I've also heard folks say to just start anywhere, with whichever concept most appeals or is least threatening. Whatever works. Jane > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2011 Report Share Posted October 12, 2011 Guimauve, Sounds like you're in the right place, as we ALL have a problematic relationship with food, which IE is helping us turn around. For me, the simple thing was the best place to start. I simply waited until I was hungry before I next ate. When I recognized hunger, I thought about what I wanted to eat and ate it. I tried to pay attention to " not hungry " but that took a lot longer to identify and that's okay. I pretty soon recognized IF I waited until I was hungry to eat, I could tell easily when I'd eaten TOO MUCH. But that wasn't a reason for self-reproach, just a learning experience. Once again, I'd wait until I was hungry before I put anything else in my mouth. From what I've heard, most IEers start with legalizing foods. I think the fact that instead of going straight from a diet to IE, I had had a time of eating everything in sight meant that instead of gaining when I started IE, I soon lost some, not that that has continued in any sort of linear fashion. I've also heard folks say to just start anywhere, with whichever concept most appeals or is least threatening. Whatever works. Jane > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2011 Report Share Posted October 13, 2011 Jane, I really liked your comment about " no self reproach " and just see it as a learning experience. Sometimes not as easy as it sounds for me though. Thanks. Sandy Guimauve, Sounds like you're in the right place, as we ALL have a problematic relationship with food, which IE is helping us turn around. For me, the simple thing was the best place to start. I simply waited until I was hungry before I next ate. When I recognized hunger, I thought about what I wanted to eat and ate it. I tried to pay attention to " not hungry " but that took a lot longer to identify and that's okay. I pretty soon recognized IF I waited until I was hungry to eat, I could tell easily when I'd eaten TOO MUCH. But that wasn't a reason for self-reproach, just a learning experience. Once again, I'd wait until I was hungry before I put anything else in my mouth. From what I've heard, most IEers start with legalizing foods. I think the fact that instead of going straight from a diet to IE, I had had a time of eating everything in sight meant that instead of gaining when I started IE, I soon lost some, not that that has continued in any sort of linear fashion. I've also heard folks say to just start anywhere, with whichever concept most appeals or is least threatening. Whatever works. Jane > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2011 Report Share Posted October 13, 2011 Jane, I really liked your comment about " no self reproach " and just see it as a learning experience. Sometimes not as easy as it sounds for me though. Thanks. Sandy Guimauve, Sounds like you're in the right place, as we ALL have a problematic relationship with food, which IE is helping us turn around. For me, the simple thing was the best place to start. I simply waited until I was hungry before I next ate. When I recognized hunger, I thought about what I wanted to eat and ate it. I tried to pay attention to " not hungry " but that took a lot longer to identify and that's okay. I pretty soon recognized IF I waited until I was hungry to eat, I could tell easily when I'd eaten TOO MUCH. But that wasn't a reason for self-reproach, just a learning experience. Once again, I'd wait until I was hungry before I put anything else in my mouth. From what I've heard, most IEers start with legalizing foods. I think the fact that instead of going straight from a diet to IE, I had had a time of eating everything in sight meant that instead of gaining when I started IE, I soon lost some, not that that has continued in any sort of linear fashion. I've also heard folks say to just start anywhere, with whichever concept most appeals or is least threatening. Whatever works. Jane > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2011 Report Share Posted October 13, 2011 Jane, I really liked your comment about " no self reproach " and just see it as a learning experience. Sometimes not as easy as it sounds for me though. Thanks. Sandy Guimauve, Sounds like you're in the right place, as we ALL have a problematic relationship with food, which IE is helping us turn around. For me, the simple thing was the best place to start. I simply waited until I was hungry before I next ate. When I recognized hunger, I thought about what I wanted to eat and ate it. I tried to pay attention to " not hungry " but that took a lot longer to identify and that's okay. I pretty soon recognized IF I waited until I was hungry to eat, I could tell easily when I'd eaten TOO MUCH. But that wasn't a reason for self-reproach, just a learning experience. Once again, I'd wait until I was hungry before I put anything else in my mouth. From what I've heard, most IEers start with legalizing foods. I think the fact that instead of going straight from a diet to IE, I had had a time of eating everything in sight meant that instead of gaining when I started IE, I soon lost some, not that that has continued in any sort of linear fashion. I've also heard folks say to just start anywhere, with whichever concept most appeals or is least threatening. Whatever works. Jane > > My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2011 Report Share Posted October 13, 2011 Welcome, Guimauve! I usually will lurk on a site for a while before I post, too. Sometimes, it's easier to understand the dynamics of how things work before you jump right in. As for getting started, you already have! You've begun to think about your relationship with food and the obstacles you've built around self care. That's how it all begins -- assessing, observing, realizing. There's no need to go any faster than your natural pace. It sounds like you are a perfectionist, which plagues many of us here on this site. But guess what? None of are holy or perfect. We're all stumbling along, learning, adjusting, falling down, getting up, etc. You don't have to worry about doing anything right, because every step you take, whether you perceive it as going forward or backward, is progress. When you hit a stumbling block, you learn something about yourself. When you "mess up," you learn something about yourself. When you think you've given up, you learn something about yourself. All of these little lessons build and build, even without you knowing it. As for practical advice, I would peruse the book list here and get started on some reading. Not every book may resonate with you. If not, it's OK to think about the material and then move on to the next one. It's all about doing what's right for you, as determined by you. We all have different ways of putting some of the IE principles in practice. I jumped right in and then encountered problems after a few weeks, which I am working through. Some people take it one step at a time. Sandarah, for instance, worked on legalizing one formerly forbidden food that was especially meaningful for her. Sandy, I think, worked on identifying hunger and fullness signals first. For rules-based people like me, it can be disorienting to be told just to do "what's right for you." I want a full-proof list! But this way, you actually learn what's right for you and get to know the most important person in your life. Good luck and keep posting. Mimi Subject: how to begin...To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Wednesday, October 12, 2011, 5:41 PM Hi all,I've finally plucked up the courage to say hello after a few weeks of reading on here It's been strange just watching, but I've learnt heaps and it's encouraged me to think more widely (and more honestly!) about my eating. That was a little unexpected but I'm glad.My question is: How did you first move from reading and learning about IE to actually DOING it?I know intellectually that IE is right for me, but I can't seem to take that next step. I've spent some time puzzling it over, and realised that I find it difficult/impossible to say 'yes' to things that I want to do for myself - that is, for my self improvement or soul nourishment. There's a little 'cassette' behind that: 'What will the people in your current way of life think of you? Can you really be as good/holy/perfect as the people you will meet in your new way of life? Nope, you'll be found out'. It amazes me that I never knew this about myself before - it seems so obvious! My first IE lesson I guess :)My other stumbling block is that me and food are really NOT friends. I'm not sure how to begin legalising when my relationship with food is so far from neutral.I'd be really interested to hear other people's experiences of the transition from learning to doing if you are willing to share. I'd guess that most of you had a few hiccups or false starts - though if it went smoothly, yay for you! and I would still like to hear. There is a bit of learning in every story...Any advice or comments on my situation would also be welcome. I am sooo at a point of wanting to change, even if I am not quite ready to go just yet!Thanks for listening,Guimauve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2011 Report Share Posted October 13, 2011 Wow, thank you all so much for being so generous. It was nice (liberating?) to hear that you all began your IE in different ways. I guess I've been getting hung up on thinking that there was one 'right' way to go about things. I liked the idea of just picking out a random page of the book and will give it a try when I get a bit more confident with IE - and if my book ever arrives! In the meantime I've been reading all I can online about IE and mindful eating - thank you for the reminder about the resources here as they've been very helpful. What I hear from you most is that it's easiest to begin with a small change that calls to you. I'd love my first goal to be 'this week I'm going to be present while I eat' but while that calls, it's far too big and scary! Instead I'm going focus on recognising fullness at mealtimes and honouring that. I wasn't brought up to think that I had to clear my plate, but I was expected to do my best to do so - so I normally end up eating a few more mouthfuls than is comfortable/than I really want. I think that is a realistic first step for me. Thanks again everyone - and how wonderful it is to have this little space to learn about ourselves... Guimauve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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