Nada Wants to Teach Me to Be More Like Her - she says she doesn't have long

January 3, 2011

Nada just called me and told me everything I had done wrong to 'her' in my life

(all distorted and her bizarre fantasy world landscape of what actually occurred

and I know it did not). She went on to say I was 'very jealous of her' just

like my 'Aunt Fran' and that Aunt Fran now has 'no friends' because of her

behaviors and I won't either. She has to 'teach me to be just like her' and

'doesn't have long to live so this has to happen soon'. She went on to say that

I dropped a 'an angel of a woman who was your friend - can't remember her name

but YOU liked her and then dropped her for no reason'. No, nada I did NOT drop

her for no reason - she betrayed me and she was no friend. You can't talk to

nada about anything from your side of things so why waste my breathe but how do

I deal with her ranting and 'teaching' me to 'be just like her' when I

absolutely do NOT want to be anything like her. I am 60 years old - not 10 and

I don't want to be 'trained by her'. She will be 90 on April 5 (she says she

isn't going to live to see it and with her health issues I absolutely believe

it). Her doctor told me as much, but since nada won't listen to a thing she

suggests nor does nada want anything from her except her painkillers which this

doctor is more than willing to keep prescribing even though nada doesn't get

checkups by her anymore - forget that they are physically addictive and nada

SCREAMS if she empties her bottle that is supposed to last a month in less than

2 weeks and the pharmacist won't refill it until the month is up, but anyway.

I can't keep saying to nada " I'm expecting an important phone call so I can't

talk now " as nada is demented but not stupid and would see through that. I

can't give her an ultimatum as she isn't verbally abusing me and calling me

names - she is demeaning me and trying to control me in a sense but she has no

control so that wouldn't help either. Do I just let her rant and rant and hang

up laughing at her behind her back? This seems the only solution but it is

difficult to take. Some of these blatant lies nada conjures up from her

distorted past and accusations of what I did (even though I didn't do them)

make me nuts deep inside. I know I shouldn't let it bother me but I hate it.

She also said " you can't help yourself for being so 'emotional' - 'you're just

like my FATHER - YOUR grandfather!' First of all I never met the alcoholic

father who incested you I felt like saying, but and I have never been drunk once

in my life, but anyway doesn't matter. How do I deal with nada's accusations

and her 'teaching me to be just like her'? N.C. is not an option as I am Power

of Attorney for her if something happens; an only child and at this late date

there is no sense doing that as even her doctor felt she didn't have too long to

live when I spoke with her last. I work out of my house so not being home when

she calls is not an option either. I can do that part of the time but not all

the time. Any suggestions any of you might have would be greatly appreciated.

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