Re: Re: Strong feelings that come up when I'm alone?

January 11, 2011

Good stuff, thanks; maybe this is where I'm messing up.....when I feel about to

weep, I try to distract myself.......I'm not letting myself feel the

fear/pain/grief......it's too hard. I think I may need to let it all out.

Alastriona

Subject: Re: Strong feelings that come up when I'm alone?

Date: Monday, January 10, 2011, 11:01 PM

Joy, that's normal. When we grow up with so much pain, suffer emotional pain

from partners too, we stuff the pain down being so busy taking care of everyone

else and walking on egg shells. When we're alone, the feelings surface begging

for acceptance.

When I feel that way, I take off for a morning at the beach, I stop by starbucks

and go watch the waves pound the sand and cry until I can't cry another drop. I

fully embrace the pain and treat myself with the same gentleness I would treat a

beautiful friend in pain. when I can do this instead of avoiding the pain, it

passes through me so much quicker and the light truly begins to shine.

for the first time in my life, I'm not filing my empty time with relationships

and too many projects. I'm okay being alone and I even go to bed 30 minutes

early every night just to have some completely alone and quite time to feel what

I'm feeling, accept it and bless it before i go to bed. It's a great healing

ritual.

I'm so glad that you posted this. Sometimes we think we're losing our minds

with all of this emotional drama and trauma. When we find out our reactions are

really quite healthy and normal, it sure makes the day go better.

I wish you the best Joy!

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