Just saw Tangled -- Whoa

[Guest guest]

I had seen the posts here about the " mother " being BPD and just saw the movie

with my kids.

Those of you who posted about that were spot-on. The fake mother was not

overtly evil, she was always " just teasing " when she would insult and patronize

her daughter, she was always saying how evil the world is, how you can't trust

anyone but her. Just like my hermit mother.

The characteristic of the fake mother here that was most like my mother was how

she would tell Rapunzel that she was making her favorite food, hazelnut soup!

My mother would constantly do this, announcing from morning time what goodies

she was making for dinner and then keep talking about it throughout the day. If

we didn't show the proper degree of enthusiasm, she would say, " what's wrong?

you don't like [fill in dish name here]??? "

It made me sad watching that part of the movie, because I really do feel

rapunzeled to an extent. I really wasn't allowed out at all unless I was with my

brother, father or another adult. Ever. When I got to college, I went wild with

freedom, but I felt that same back and forth war of feelings the movie depicted

so well, of " mother's going to be furious with me " and " ah screw her, I'm

free! " I didn't know how to gauge people, I was (and still feel at times)

socially inept, I was just wanting to dance with everything and everyone, I was

so dizzy with freedom.

The sad part as well was that Rapunzel got away. Once I was done with school, I

lived with my parents and it was as though I'd never left until I got married.

At which point my mother treated my husband like the mother in Tangled... " hmmph,

we'll see how this marriage thing goes! you got yourself into it, now enjoy

yourself. "