Re: Desperately Wanting Comfort Food

[Guest guest]

It's an hour later, and I didn't eat for solace but went for a walk instead,

which actually felt somewhat healing. Now I am getting physically hungry, so I

can get something to eat that will nourish my body, as well as being something I

am hungry for.

In IntuitiveEating_Support , " sarab80753 " wrote:

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

It's an hour later, and I didn't eat for solace but went for a walk instead,

which actually felt somewhat healing. Now I am getting physically hungry, so I

can get something to eat that will nourish my body, as well as being something I

am hungry for.

In IntuitiveEating_Support , " sarab80753 " wrote:

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

Sara,

My struggles are different, but the losses are also real and huge and my future

is uncertain and frightening. I've found it actually helps - when I'm alone,

which for me is rare and usually in my car - to completely let go and bawl as

loudly as necessary, to really let that grief out.

Food, when I've used it, hasn't done anything but give me a tummy ache as well

as heartache. If you must overeat, please don't beat up on yourself. However,

I think your impulse to share your pain with the group was wonderful self-care

and I applaud you.

Sounds like the time of the idyllic family is lost forever for you, but you are

still alive and now is the time to find a new direction for your life. Don't

believe your ex's abusive statements; God doesn't make junk! You have a lot to

offer the world and there is so much joy left to experience in your life.

I have always found that focusing on helping others lifts my spirits, and

volunteer work has been a good avenue for that for me. But the other piece is

tuning in to your own body and the cues it's giving you.

If release of tension is what you desperately need right now, what about

slapping some paint on a canvas, exercising hard, doing some sort of hard

physical work like chopping wood or scrubbing whatever is dirty around the

house?

If what you're yearning for is to be held, do you have a pet or a friend you

could turn to?

If being alone right now is the worst thing, who could you visit or call or

write to? A friendly ear can make all the difference. But even when I haven't

felt capable of sharing my own pains, focusing on others I knew were hurting in

some way reminded me that I was not the only one suffering.

Sometimes life is very painful, but with support, and tuning in to our bodies'

signals to us about what we really need, we can get through to better times.

I am honored you shared with us. Good for you for reaching out!

Jane

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

Sara,

My struggles are different, but the losses are also real and huge and my future

is uncertain and frightening. I've found it actually helps - when I'm alone,

which for me is rare and usually in my car - to completely let go and bawl as

loudly as necessary, to really let that grief out.

Food, when I've used it, hasn't done anything but give me a tummy ache as well

as heartache. If you must overeat, please don't beat up on yourself. However,

I think your impulse to share your pain with the group was wonderful self-care

and I applaud you.

Sounds like the time of the idyllic family is lost forever for you, but you are

still alive and now is the time to find a new direction for your life. Don't

believe your ex's abusive statements; God doesn't make junk! You have a lot to

offer the world and there is so much joy left to experience in your life.

I have always found that focusing on helping others lifts my spirits, and

volunteer work has been a good avenue for that for me. But the other piece is

tuning in to your own body and the cues it's giving you.

If release of tension is what you desperately need right now, what about

slapping some paint on a canvas, exercising hard, doing some sort of hard

physical work like chopping wood or scrubbing whatever is dirty around the

house?

If what you're yearning for is to be held, do you have a pet or a friend you

could turn to?

If being alone right now is the worst thing, who could you visit or call or

write to? A friendly ear can make all the difference. But even when I haven't

felt capable of sharing my own pains, focusing on others I knew were hurting in

some way reminded me that I was not the only one suffering.

Sometimes life is very painful, but with support, and tuning in to our bodies'

signals to us about what we really need, we can get through to better times.

I am honored you shared with us. Good for you for reaching out!

Jane

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

Sara,

My struggles are different, but the losses are also real and huge and my future

is uncertain and frightening. I've found it actually helps - when I'm alone,

which for me is rare and usually in my car - to completely let go and bawl as

loudly as necessary, to really let that grief out.

Food, when I've used it, hasn't done anything but give me a tummy ache as well

as heartache. If you must overeat, please don't beat up on yourself. However,

I think your impulse to share your pain with the group was wonderful self-care

and I applaud you.

Sounds like the time of the idyllic family is lost forever for you, but you are

still alive and now is the time to find a new direction for your life. Don't

believe your ex's abusive statements; God doesn't make junk! You have a lot to

offer the world and there is so much joy left to experience in your life.

I have always found that focusing on helping others lifts my spirits, and

volunteer work has been a good avenue for that for me. But the other piece is

tuning in to your own body and the cues it's giving you.

If release of tension is what you desperately need right now, what about

slapping some paint on a canvas, exercising hard, doing some sort of hard

physical work like chopping wood or scrubbing whatever is dirty around the

house?

If what you're yearning for is to be held, do you have a pet or a friend you

could turn to?

If being alone right now is the worst thing, who could you visit or call or

write to? A friendly ear can make all the difference. But even when I haven't

felt capable of sharing my own pains, focusing on others I knew were hurting in

some way reminded me that I was not the only one suffering.

Sometimes life is very painful, but with support, and tuning in to our bodies'

signals to us about what we really need, we can get through to better times.

I am honored you shared with us. Good for you for reaching out!

Jane

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

I sorrow for you and can so understand your need for comforting. Whether food

will do this for you or not is a valid question. It sounds like you are so alone

in this but surely your kids will stick by you too. I think your ex is extremely

MEAN, hateful and hurtful in his words and actions. that sure doesn't make him a

'great guy' in my mind! What he said to you is his OPINION and not the last and

final word on the subject of YOU. I am glad you are able to apply some of the

concepts you are learning with IE to help you at this time.

BEST wishes for you and ehugs too - Katcha

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

I sorrow for you and can so understand your need for comforting. Whether food

will do this for you or not is a valid question. It sounds like you are so alone

in this but surely your kids will stick by you too. I think your ex is extremely

MEAN, hateful and hurtful in his words and actions. that sure doesn't make him a

'great guy' in my mind! What he said to you is his OPINION and not the last and

final word on the subject of YOU. I am glad you are able to apply some of the

concepts you are learning with IE to help you at this time.

BEST wishes for you and ehugs too - Katcha

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

I sorrow for you and can so understand your need for comforting. Whether food

will do this for you or not is a valid question. It sounds like you are so alone

in this but surely your kids will stick by you too. I think your ex is extremely

MEAN, hateful and hurtful in his words and actions. that sure doesn't make him a

'great guy' in my mind! What he said to you is his OPINION and not the last and

final word on the subject of YOU. I am glad you are able to apply some of the

concepts you are learning with IE to help you at this time.

BEST wishes for you and ehugs too - Katcha

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

Sara,

Isn't it amazing how radically our perspective can change in an hour? Our

feelings can overwhelm us with hopelessness, but if we keep on keeping on

somehow, we get through.

Congrats on taking care of yourself by taking a walk in God's beautiful

creation, soaking up that sunshine, and taking in the healing of perspective.

Jane

> >

> > I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is

showering golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from

sliding down my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of

peace and joy, my husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids

through all the years they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with

someone else. Today my kids have gone up this same river to visit him on his

boat. I have been told that no one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't

want me if I was the last woman on earth. He is there where we have spent our

lives together, but without me and with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate

wife. It is killing me. I couldn't hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As

a former compulsive overeater, I have been fighting the urge to use food to shut

down the pain. I just needed to say this. Thanks for listening.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Sara,

Isn't it amazing how radically our perspective can change in an hour? Our

feelings can overwhelm us with hopelessness, but if we keep on keeping on

somehow, we get through.

Congrats on taking care of yourself by taking a walk in God's beautiful

creation, soaking up that sunshine, and taking in the healing of perspective.

Jane

> >

> > I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is

showering golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from

sliding down my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of

peace and joy, my husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids

through all the years they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with

someone else. Today my kids have gone up this same river to visit him on his

boat. I have been told that no one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't

want me if I was the last woman on earth. He is there where we have spent our

lives together, but without me and with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate

wife. It is killing me. I couldn't hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As

a former compulsive overeater, I have been fighting the urge to use food to shut

down the pain. I just needed to say this. Thanks for listening.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I appreciate the replies to this post. In fact, it gives me strength to know

that there are others out there who hear and offer support. Your words and

suggestions mean a lot to me, especially since I tend to be a loner. Thank you.

I survived the intensity of the emotional pain without eating to it.

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

I appreciate the replies to this post. In fact, it gives me strength to know

that there are others out there who hear and offer support. Your words and

suggestions mean a lot to me, especially since I tend to be a loner. Thank you.

I survived the intensity of the emotional pain without eating to it.

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

I appreciate the replies to this post. In fact, it gives me strength to know

that there are others out there who hear and offer support. Your words and

suggestions mean a lot to me, especially since I tend to be a loner. Thank you.

I survived the intensity of the emotional pain without eating to it.

>

> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering

golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down

my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my

husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years

they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids

have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no

one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman

on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and

with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't

hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I

have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to

say this. Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you, .

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> >> I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is

showering golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from

sliding down my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of

peace and joy, my husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids

through all the years they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with

someone else. Today my kids have gone up this same river to visit him on his

boat. I have been told that no one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't

want me if I was the last woman on earth. He is there where we have spent our

lives together, but without me and with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate

wife. It is killing me. I couldn't hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As

a former compulsive overeater, I have been fighting the urge to use food to shut

down the pain. I just needed to say this. Thanks for listening.

> >>

> >

> >

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[Guest guest]

Sara, you are going through so much. Of course you want comfort food. Totally understandable. Your ex-husband is wrong. He is not the only man who could ever want you. You have a different life now and that can be sad and scary, but there will be many new opportunities for new experiences and new people to come into your life. You don't know what's behind his new relationship, "soulmate" or not. Concentrate on getting your life back together. You are worth it. Cook good meals for yourself and savor them slowly. Give yourself the love and attention that your ex could not. Hugs.

Mimi

Subject: Desperately Wanting Comfort FoodTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Saturday, November 5, 2011, 4:38 PM

I'm sitting on my deck swing on a sunny, fall afternoon. The sun is showering golden sparkles across the river. I'm fighting to keep tears from sliding down my cheeks. On this beautiful river, which has been my place of peace and joy, my husband and I spent many sunny boating days with our kids through all the years they grew up. Then, he decided he'd be happier with someone else. Today my kids have gone up this same river to visit him on his boat. I have been told that no one but him could ever want me and he wouldn't want me if I was the last woman on earth. He is there where we have spent our lives together, but without me and with our kids and his wonderful new soulmate wife. It is killing me. I couldn't hurt more if I'd been hit by a Mac truck. As a former compulsive overeater, I have been fighting the urge to use food to shut down the pain. I just needed to say this. Thanks for listening.