Find it hard to watch other people parent

[Guest guest]

We have acquaintances with teenage children. Mostly they are people we have met

through work and since we moved we are trying to meet more people. We have

tried socialising with different families on occassions only for me to be

triggered so much by the end of the night I don't ever want to do it again.

I watch how the parents treat their children and even though I am not claiming

to be a perfect parent, I can see the damage done and trigger to it.

The other night we had a family over that is also a client of mine. We were

having a few drinks in moderation. We offered the husband some of our top shelf

Gin with tonic into the night.

It was left on the table when the mother came over and poured her 12 year old

son a full nip of straight gin and said " Try this now you have tasted gin " . I

was horrified. Then not long after that he poured himself a drink with it and

started drinking it. I was so suprised as I never would of thought that of her

to do something like that. Even the father did not blink an eyelid.

I couldn't help myself by this stage and said something to the boy. I told him

it was not for him and leave it alone. I really wanted to blast his parents for

allowing him to do it.

I will never allow them in our home again. I feel sad sometimes to watch

parents set there children up for problems later in life.

Most of the time the parents aren't even aware of the dangers to their children.

It seems so many children are out of control and doing things at such an early

age. I grew up way to quickly and know the problems of this.

It triggered how Nada let me do things with her that was inappropriate just to

get on my good side that she was such a cool mother. All my friends loved her

when I was a teenager because our home was where they could drink and smoke and

party.

I feel I am such a strict parent to my daughter and want to protect her from all

of this. My husband is on the same page as me with parenting so I am lucky for

that. What is hard is that when we socialise we don't seem to be the norm

anymore.

Dysfunctional families are everywhere.

We have even tried going to Church to meet families. That did not feel right

for us either.

Where are the days of the good old family camping trips and game nights?

We have like minded friends but too far away. We are finding it hard to meet

others now with similar values in raising children.

My nights out socialising are spent wanting to bring all the kids home to live

with us.

Kazam x