Re: Re: Weekly assessment.... listening to the body...

[Guest guest]

That was really good and I think I will try it too.  I like " back the fat off " . I like that you have a sense of humor too.  You really need it to get this process. Sandy

 

When I read this response I had to step back a minute and figure out what was going on for me re, " I choose to listen to my body " ... It's clear now, that what drives my eating so much of the time is the diet rebel with whom I have not intervened much at all. I have a long story about believing that I'm out of control and cannot be managed. I never identified with the diet police but always with the rebellious me. Didn't know there were two sides to the coin.

In one response from Katcha some time back she said that she just tells the diet police to, " back the fat off " ... That struck me as so funny that I've used my own version ever since. And it's been so effecive in silencing the diet police.

But I haven't done the similar intervention with the diet rebel who now has a lot of free rein. So... that's the next step. I'll find some silly thing to say to that forward motion of the diet rebel, rather than cajoling, therapizing, analyzing - I just need a thought-stopping mechanism.

I'd originally thought this (IE) process was about somehow magically deciding to " come conscious " to life - which is true but that isn't something you simply decide to d and voila! you are (conscious). In order to come conscious, one must snap out of the unconscious processes that drive behaviors.

Clearly that takes a bit of a jolt to " break the spell " . The spell of " I have to have it " , " if I don't eat it I'll never get to again " , " This is mine and I want it " - all of that blah, blah, blah born of too much restriction, too many rules, too much control, too much invalidation, etc. Somebody needs to write the equivalent of Women who run the Wolves about this process of learning to listen to the intuitive around eating. The woman who ran with her spaghetti, or something. Anyway...

Whew. Thanks for helping me snap out of the resistance and confusion about " challenging the diet rebel " .

Sandarah

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> > So... today I spent most of the day eating and trying to pretend that I wasn't noticing I was eating without hunger. Then I read the post about what was learned this week and determined to stop and notice.

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> > This week was ruled by pressures at work. I was breathlessly busy everyday with calls, e-mails, people coming into my office with something to talk about, HR needing this and that, interviews, on and on and on. I did push back one time and went to the health club to work out - and to feel better. And it was great. But that was Thursday. The rest was devoured by pressures.

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> > And - maybe by my perfectionism and workaholism. I've always said that work was easier than any other relationships. I get work - I don't get other interactions as easily. Work has job descriptions, parameters, goals, objectives and if nothing else, a mission statement. I know the rules and where I fit in things. I remember when I first learned about job descriptions and when I had my first performance evaluation. I thought, " this is great - at last I'm getting feedback and know what to change in order to do better! " Bet not many people felt that way.

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> > Today I've been mostly de-stressing. Wanting to comfort myself and to not work, I guess. I guess when I'm eating I'm not working and thus I have permission to be with myself.

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> > Boy - I don't think I learned anything this week regarding intuitive eating.

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> > Sandarah

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[Guest guest]

Your response made me laugh. Yes, we need a Women who Run with the Wolves type book for women who run with spaghetti. LOL. BTW, that is such a comfort book for me. I love having hot milk before bed -- it really lulls me to sleep and is so comforting. One of my favorite treats is snuggling into bed with the Wolves book and steamed milk. Yep, I'm boring and love it.

Mimi

Subject: Re: Weekly assessment.... listening to the body...To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Sunday, November 20, 2011, 11:47 AM

When I read this response I had to step back a minute and figure out what was going on for me re, "I choose to listen to my body"... It's clear now, that what drives my eating so much of the time is the diet rebel with whom I have not intervened much at all. I have a long story about believing that I'm out of control and cannot be managed. I never identified with the diet police but always with the rebellious me. Didn't know there were two sides to the coin.In one response from Katcha some time back she said that she just tells the diet police to, "back the fat off"... That struck me as so funny that I've used my own version ever since. And it's been so effecive in silencing the diet police. But I haven't done the similar intervention with the diet rebel who now has a lot of free rein. So... that's the next step. I'll find some silly thing to say to that forward motion of the diet rebel, rather than cajoling, therapizing, analyzing -

I just need a thought-stopping mechanism. I'd originally thought this (IE) process was about somehow magically deciding to "come conscious" to life - which is true but that isn't something you simply decide to d and voila! you are (conscious). In order to come conscious, one must snap out of the unconscious processes that drive behaviors. Clearly that takes a bit of a jolt to "break the spell". The spell of "I have to have it", "if I don't eat it I'll never get to again", "This is mine and I want it" - all of that blah, blah, blah born of too much restriction, too many rules, too much control, too much invalidation, etc. Somebody needs to write the equivalent of Women who run the Wolves about this process of learning to listen to the intuitive around eating. The woman who ran with her spaghetti, or something. Anyway... Whew. Thanks for helping me snap out of the resistance and confusion about "challenging the diet rebel".

Sandarah