Re: The way to say it!

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Thank you, Kay

Your " marriage annulment " made me laugh!!!

I've never read " The Lovely Bones " either because it's about a murder

victim,isn't it? Or a dead person's narrative.Anyway not something I felt much

like reading.At times I will avoid a book like this and then when I do get

around to reading it,I enjoy it and then I wonder why I didn't read it sooner...

" As KO's we all have to learn we can't control what others think of

us " --AMEN,sister!!!! I am still working on that.A thorny issue for me! There was

a time in my life when I really didn't give a GD but recently I've become more

sensitive or insecure.I'm not sure why.

If I knew that I had helped someone else I could definitely bear being

doubted by others.

Yes--we are all here to help heal ourselves and I thank you so much

for your kind encouragement!

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> Being with Ellen was the first time in my life that I had a friend who really

got me.

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> I don't find this strange at all, in fact some of the most romantic books and

movies use this premise that adults should love as innocently as children, and

that the love between children is the purest of all, and what romantic lovers

should aspire to. Having been married for thirty years I know that love deepens

and changes and my love for my husband becomes less concerned with the physical

and more with the purer aspect of true friendship, though when I see him, I

still see " my boyfriend " of thirty-five years ago but it is a much deeper,purer

feeling. I also remember " marrying my neighbor " Christy at the age of

five and remember kissing. I think I was the groom, anyway we were at the top of

the porch and I picked her up to carry her over the threshold and we both fell

from the top of the porch down a flight of concrete steps rolling over and over,

after that the marriage was annulled. By all means write your story, if you

really feel you want it to come out on paper. Publishers are always looking for

a different twist for books and since yours is genuine it may be a beautiful

story. Quite frankly I have no desire to read the lovely bones but is touted as

a beautiful story, just because I can't receive that book in the proper spirit

doesn't mean it shouldn't have been written. Even if you didn't get it published

it might help you heal. s KAO's we all have to learn we can't control what

others think of us. It's your story and if you want to put it on paper do not

worry about what others think. And who knows how many KO's you might help on the

road to healing? And to quote Doug sort of (my apologies if I don't get it

exactly right) " aren't we all on here to help us heal ourselves? "

> Good luck with your writing.

> Kay

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