Guest guest Posted March 17, 2006 Report Share Posted March 17, 2006 n, " It it hard to say how I feel, I have been seriously considering going to the Dr. for myself, and seeing if maybe I am suffering from anxiety or depession. I have thought about meds or therapy to help me deal with it, because I can't wrap my mind around this and so, I am struggling with my emotions, crying alot and I seemed stressed out over little things and I am always tired.. " Go, go, GO to the doctor yourself! We all spend so much time and energy focusing on our children's well-being, but it is so critical for you to be the best that you can be for your child. You are their advocate, and will not be doing your best job if you are not feeling well. I thought I was hanging in fine with no meds or therapy or a support group until Evan came home. Then it all hit me--hard. I had to start taking anti-depressants, went to therapy, and also joined the local Parent-2-Parent group. It made all the difference in the world in being able to focus at home and at work--huge! I only went to therapy 3-4x. I took the meds for 3 months and then recently tried coming off of them (but discovered I'm not quite ready for that yet & have started taking them again). I have also gotten a lot of support from Parent-2-Parent. There is nothing wrong about acknowledging that the stress and emotions of having a child with special needs is taking a toll on you. There is nothing wrong about asking for and getting help. What would be wrong is to do nothing and let things get worse, to the point of interfearing with your abilities to help your child. (Mom to Evan, 8 mos) --------------------------------- Yahoo! Mail Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2006 Report Share Posted March 17, 2006 Also, Early Childhood Intervention for those of you that have that available to you offers social workers. This has been the greatest thing for ME! It is someone to talk to that doesn't charge any money and they come to our house so that you don't have to leave your children. The best part about it all is that because the social worker is with early childhood intervention they work exclusively with families that are in similar situations so I guess it would be a specialty, This has definately been my saving grace for the last 7 months! (mom to (10) Dylan (3) (7 mo. CHaRGE) > > n, > > " It it hard to say how I feel, I have been seriously considering going to > the Dr. for myself, and seeing if maybe I am suffering from anxiety or > depession. I have thought about meds or therapy to help me deal with it, > because I can't wrap my mind around this and so, I am struggling with my > emotions, crying alot and I seemed stressed out over little things and I am > always tired.. " > > Go, go, GO to the doctor yourself! We all spend so much time and energy > focusing on our children's well-being, but it is so critical for you to be > the best that you can be for your child. You are their advocate, and will > not be doing your best job if you are not feeling well. > > I thought I was hanging in fine with no meds or therapy or a support group > until Evan came home. Then it all hit me--hard. I had to start taking > anti-depressants, went to therapy, and also joined the local Parent-2-Parent > group. It made all the difference in the world in being able to focus at > home and at work--huge! I only went to therapy 3-4x. I took the meds for 3 > months and then recently tried coming off of them (but discovered I'm not > quite ready for that yet & have started taking them again). I have also > gotten a lot of support from Parent-2-Parent. > > There is nothing wrong about acknowledging that the stress and emotions of > having a child with special needs is taking a toll on you. There is nothing > wrong about asking for and getting help. What would be wrong is to do > nothing and let things get worse, to the point of interfearing with your > abilities to help your child. > > (Mom to Evan, 8 mos) > > > > > --------------------------------- > Yahoo! Mail > Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2006 Report Share Posted March 17, 2006 Also, Early Childhood Intervention for those of you that have that available to you offers social workers. This has been the greatest thing for ME! It is someone to talk to that doesn't charge any money and they come to our house so that you don't have to leave your children. The best part about it all is that because the social worker is with early childhood intervention they work exclusively with families that are in similar situations so I guess it would be a specialty, This has definately been my saving grace for the last 7 months! (mom to (10) Dylan (3) (7 mo. CHaRGE) > > n, > > " It it hard to say how I feel, I have been seriously considering going to > the Dr. for myself, and seeing if maybe I am suffering from anxiety or > depession. I have thought about meds or therapy to help me deal with it, > because I can't wrap my mind around this and so, I am struggling with my > emotions, crying alot and I seemed stressed out over little things and I am > always tired.. " > > Go, go, GO to the doctor yourself! We all spend so much time and energy > focusing on our children's well-being, but it is so critical for you to be > the best that you can be for your child. You are their advocate, and will > not be doing your best job if you are not feeling well. > > I thought I was hanging in fine with no meds or therapy or a support group > until Evan came home. Then it all hit me--hard. I had to start taking > anti-depressants, went to therapy, and also joined the local Parent-2-Parent > group. It made all the difference in the world in being able to focus at > home and at work--huge! I only went to therapy 3-4x. I took the meds for 3 > months and then recently tried coming off of them (but discovered I'm not > quite ready for that yet & have started taking them again). I have also > gotten a lot of support from Parent-2-Parent. > > There is nothing wrong about acknowledging that the stress and emotions of > having a child with special needs is taking a toll on you. There is nothing > wrong about asking for and getting help. What would be wrong is to do > nothing and let things get worse, to the point of interfearing with your > abilities to help your child. > > (Mom to Evan, 8 mos) > > > > > --------------------------------- > Yahoo! Mail > Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2006 Report Share Posted March 17, 2006 n- Ditto what said. Don't walk - run to help. I also thought I wasn't really depressed when Aubrie was little. I'd been taking antidepressants before because we have a history of it in my family. But this time, gosh, there was real stuff to be upset about. I wasn't overwhelmingly and unjustifiably sad. It all had reason. And I did have moments of joy. When I finally recognized it and got meds, what a huge help! Later, I began counseling. Also -- huge help. Through Early Intervention, you can get social work services for your family. We had trouble finding someone in our area so I never worked that out. And I know how hard it is to think about adding something else to your already over-filled schedule. But you have to do whatever it takes to keep yourself going - for your sake and your family's. Michele W mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ Re: Therapy/Meds for MOMS n, " It it hard to say how I feel, I have been seriously considering going to the Dr. for myself, and seeing if maybe I am suffering from anxiety or depession. I have thought about meds or therapy to help me deal with it, because I can't wrap my mind around this and so, I am struggling with my emotions, crying alot and I seemed stressed out over little things and I am always tired.. " Go, go, GO to the doctor yourself! We all spend so much time and energy focusing on our children's well-being, but it is so critical for you to be the best that you can be for your child. You are their advocate, and will not be doing your best job if you are not feeling well. I thought I was hanging in fine with no meds or therapy or a support group until Evan came home. Then it all hit me--hard. I had to start taking anti-depressants, went to therapy, and also joined the local Parent-2-Parent group. It made all the difference in the world in being able to focus at home and at work--huge! I only went to therapy 3-4x. I took the meds for 3 months and then recently tried coming off of them (but discovered I'm not quite ready for that yet & have started taking them again). I have also gotten a lot of support from Parent-2-Parent. There is nothing wrong about acknowledging that the stress and emotions of having a child with special needs is taking a toll on you. There is nothing wrong about asking for and getting help. What would be wrong is to do nothing and let things get worse, to the point of interfearing with your abilities to help your child. (Mom to Evan, 8 mos) --------------------------------- Yahoo! Mail Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2006 Report Share Posted March 17, 2006 n- Ditto what said. Don't walk - run to help. I also thought I wasn't really depressed when Aubrie was little. I'd been taking antidepressants before because we have a history of it in my family. But this time, gosh, there was real stuff to be upset about. I wasn't overwhelmingly and unjustifiably sad. It all had reason. And I did have moments of joy. When I finally recognized it and got meds, what a huge help! Later, I began counseling. Also -- huge help. Through Early Intervention, you can get social work services for your family. We had trouble finding someone in our area so I never worked that out. And I know how hard it is to think about adding something else to your already over-filled schedule. But you have to do whatever it takes to keep yourself going - for your sake and your family's. Michele W mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ Re: Therapy/Meds for MOMS n, " It it hard to say how I feel, I have been seriously considering going to the Dr. for myself, and seeing if maybe I am suffering from anxiety or depession. I have thought about meds or therapy to help me deal with it, because I can't wrap my mind around this and so, I am struggling with my emotions, crying alot and I seemed stressed out over little things and I am always tired.. " Go, go, GO to the doctor yourself! We all spend so much time and energy focusing on our children's well-being, but it is so critical for you to be the best that you can be for your child. You are their advocate, and will not be doing your best job if you are not feeling well. I thought I was hanging in fine with no meds or therapy or a support group until Evan came home. Then it all hit me--hard. I had to start taking anti-depressants, went to therapy, and also joined the local Parent-2-Parent group. It made all the difference in the world in being able to focus at home and at work--huge! I only went to therapy 3-4x. I took the meds for 3 months and then recently tried coming off of them (but discovered I'm not quite ready for that yet & have started taking them again). I have also gotten a lot of support from Parent-2-Parent. There is nothing wrong about acknowledging that the stress and emotions of having a child with special needs is taking a toll on you. There is nothing wrong about asking for and getting help. What would be wrong is to do nothing and let things get worse, to the point of interfearing with your abilities to help your child. (Mom to Evan, 8 mos) --------------------------------- Yahoo! Mail Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2006 Report Share Posted March 18, 2006 Thanks to everyone on the advice about getting help, I am going to call my doctor Monday, maybe as a woman and a mother, she can relate.You all have given me the courage to look inside myself and realize that I am only human and we moms need help too. About the therapy, I don't think we have early interventions that is close enough for me to use, but I will check out what there is available to us. This obviously has been a problem for me for some time and I think some things need to be said, and acknowledged--- things that should be talked about only during a therapist type setting, Do you know what I mean? n-mom to 3yrs. CHARGE ,Zach 10yrs. Jordan 7 yrs, Candace 2yrs and wife toLester for 11 yrs. --------------------------------- Yahoo! Mail Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2006 Report Share Posted March 18, 2006 Gosh I think the system works horribly. I think at any time a person has a child with severe disabilities or medical involvement's they should be given counseling immediately. I also believe in life long therapy. No, I don't have time to always do that for myself but I do go back when life gets in the way. Sadly when Patty was a baby I said no to it. I thought because I had such a large caring family we would overcome many things. We did over come many things but I WAS WRONG in not going to therapy then. I also believe in early intervention. I do not mean age 2 or 3. I mean the moment you get your baby home. That is one of the best things we did for Patty. We also had the opportunity to put her in a SPED preschool in our town or bus her to a special school which would service her for her specific disabilities. Though it killed me to put my 10 month old baby on a bus for 45 minutes each way I am glad we made that choose. It was the right one. Patty wouldn't be as far as she is without such early intervention. Plus she had a bus driver who loved her. It was " Grandma Dot " who taught Patty how to talk. She taught her Old Mac had a farm . Bonnie, Mom to Kris 23, Patty CHARGE 21 and wife to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2006 Report Share Posted March 18, 2006 Gosh I think the system works horribly. I think at any time a person has a child with severe disabilities or medical involvement's they should be given counseling immediately. I also believe in life long therapy. No, I don't have time to always do that for myself but I do go back when life gets in the way. Sadly when Patty was a baby I said no to it. I thought because I had such a large caring family we would overcome many things. We did over come many things but I WAS WRONG in not going to therapy then. I also believe in early intervention. I do not mean age 2 or 3. I mean the moment you get your baby home. That is one of the best things we did for Patty. We also had the opportunity to put her in a SPED preschool in our town or bus her to a special school which would service her for her specific disabilities. Though it killed me to put my 10 month old baby on a bus for 45 minutes each way I am glad we made that choose. It was the right one. Patty wouldn't be as far as she is without such early intervention. Plus she had a bus driver who loved her. It was " Grandma Dot " who taught Patty how to talk. She taught her Old Mac had a farm . Bonnie, Mom to Kris 23, Patty CHARGE 21 and wife to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 n- Yes, sometimes, the sharing needs to be in a safe environment-- not with a friend or family member. Sometimes it really has to be a non-partial, non-judgemental 3rd party who can gently guide us to those critical " lightbulb " moments. I hope you find a good person to guide you. Living in a rural area, I have to travel 35 min or so to the person I like and am comfortable with. Michele W mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ " I think some things need to be said, and acknowledged--- things that should be talked about only during a therapist type setting, Do you know what I mean? " n-mom to 3yrs. CHARGE ,Zach 10yrs. Jordan 7 yrs, Candace 2yrs and wife toLester for 11 yrs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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