Guest guest Posted January 3, 2011 Report Share Posted January 3, 2011 Thanks for that list! kt > > I happened to stumble on this, and it really hit home--especially now, as I take stock of the present and start evaluating my goals for the year coming up. Hope it serves someone else as much as it did me. These are all so relevant to KOs! > > Some of these things I do well, some I haven't started. I'm looking at this with both celebration (for those things I do well now) and hope (for those things I want to improve on). Most of all, I'm just grateful for progress . . . however small. > > Blessings to everyone! > > p.s. I took this from the Codependents Anonymous website, from " promises of recovery " > > -I am aware of my feelings and identify them, often in the moment. > -I embrace my feelings as being valid and important. I am truthful with myself. > -I keep the focus on my own well-being. I know the difference between caring and caretaking. > -I trust my ability to make effective decisions. > -I accept myself as I am. I emphasize progress over perfection. > -I feel appropriately worthy of the recognition, praise, or gifts I receive > -I meet my own needs and wants when possible. I reach out for help when it's necessary and appropriate. > -I have confidence in myself. I no longer seek others' approval of my thoughts, feelings, and behavior. > -I recognize myself as being a lovable and valuable person. > -I am rooted in my own values, even if others don't agree or become angry. > -I can separate my feelings from the feelings of others. > -I am committed to my safety and recovery work. I leave situations that feel unsafe or are inconsistent with my goals. > -I respect my own opinions and feelings and express them appropriately. > -I consider my own interests first when asked to participate in another's plans. > -My sexuality is grounded in genuine intimacy and connection. I know the difference between lust and love. > -I realize that, with rare exceptions, other adults are capable of managing their own lives. My job is to let them. > -I accept and value the differing thoughts, feelings, and opinions of others. > -I feel comfortable when I see others take care of themselves. > -I am a compassionate and empathic listener, giving advice only if directly asked. > -I carefully and honestly contemplate my motivations when preparing to give a gift. > -I feel loved and accepted for myself, just the way I am. > -I develop relationships with others based on equality, intimacy, and balance. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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