Re: i would like to stop attracting BPs into my life

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Truly! At a site called " Counseling Resources " they post an article about

safely detaching from a personality-disordered relationship, and while they

don't mention going to the lengths you went to, the article did discuss becoming

very dull, boring, and uninteresting to the pd partner. Becoming non-reactive

and giving them no narcissistic supply can sometimes work, without the need to

gain weight. But hey, if it works, that's what the goal is: to detach and get

away safely.

Here's a link to the section of the article called " Guidelines for Detachment "

http://counsellingresource.com/quizzes/loser/part-2.html

-Annie

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> It is a shame that we have to change our basic nature in order to avoid

conflict and great emotional harm. The tragic thing is the sick ones have no

ability or desire to stop themselves. Moving your buttons works wonders - that

just means no matter what they say, know that it is about them and not you and

don't react. With practice, it can be done no matter who the BPD is to you.

Wish you the best!