Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Thanks for the link grewels, very interesting. I happen to share Randi's line of thinking. I like what she said, " While you can take NPD out of the DSM, you can't as easily take NPD out of the people who have it. " Very very true. Mia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Thanks for the link grewels, very interesting. I happen to share Randi's line of thinking. I like what she said, " While you can take NPD out of the DSM, you can't as easily take NPD out of the people who have it. " Very very true. Mia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 I have no idea what post you were referring to here in your reply,Mia,but I totally agree with you that C-PTSD is not the same as BPD!!! I have C-PTSD too and I don't split people black/white or have compulsive rages etc etc. For me,actually,the C-PTSD symptoms that have tortured me the most are " revictimization " , " lack of sustaining faith " and " feeling utterly alone " . It's not the same thing as BPD,no.People with C-PTSD are painfully aware of their symptoms.And we don't blame everyone else,we blame ourselves > > I would not consider CPTSD the same as BPD at all. I have cPTSD and my > therpist says it is not the same as BPD. CPTSD is different from PTSD in > that the person with CPTSD has undergone repeated long term traumas instead > of one or short term trauma which would cause PTSD. > > After doing a lot of reading on the subject I believe whole heartedly that > they are different. I'm not BPD. I'm not manipulative, not a liar, self > injurious or an abuser in the way my nada was at all. I have never had a > problem owning up to my mistakes, saying sorry & really meaning it, etc. > > I know you are not insinuating that myself or anyone else with CPTSD is > actually suffering from BPD so please don't take it the wrong way, I'm not > angry or anything like that. Obviously therapist & psychologist opinions > will vary. But from my own research I do not fit the criteria for BPD and > my therapist says they are different and I do believe that. She has also > told me I do not fit the criteria for BPD (trust me, with the way my nada > projected all her own hatred onto me, that was something that was/is an > issue for me because I was always " the crazy one " in my nadas eyes.) > > One thing she was trying to explain to me with trauma is this: When one > undergoes repeated traumas, there are several paths they can take, two of > those being CPTSD & BPD. They may be viewed by some as cousins, but no, > they are not the same. > > I hope this makes sense. > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Very curious where you read that. Was it online? Do you mind posting the link? I agree that would be a huge mistake. Riah > > I wish they would add it, Annie. Though from what I've been reading it > doesn't look promising. > > I also read they are taking out narcissism as well as 3 other PDs. I think > taking out narcissism is a mistake =( > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Very curious where you read that. Was it online? Do you mind posting the link? I agree that would be a huge mistake. Riah > > I wish they would add it, Annie. Though from what I've been reading it > doesn't look promising. > > I also read they are taking out narcissism as well as 3 other PDs. I think > taking out narcissism is a mistake =( > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Very curious where you read that. Was it online? Do you mind posting the link? I agree that would be a huge mistake. Riah > > I wish they would add it, Annie. Though from what I've been reading it > doesn't look promising. > > I also read they are taking out narcissism as well as 3 other PDs. I think > taking out narcissism is a mistake =( > > Mia > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared all together. BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I will see you guys in a few days =) Mia > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared all together. BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I will see you guys in a few days =) Mia > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared all together. BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I will see you guys in a few days =) Mia > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Riah, if I can remember I will see if I can find it again for you. Right now pain meds are interfering. I think I had found it just by googling something like changes DSM IV. I read quite a few articles and one did talk about CPTSD and how it most likely wouldn't make it into the new edition. I can try to find it for you sometime next week if that's ok because I'll be in the hospital till thurs or fri. I should really learn to bookmark stuff like that so I can find it more easily again lol Mia > > > Very curious where you read that. Was it online? Do you mind posting the > link? I agree that would be a huge mistake. > > Riah > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Riah, if I can remember I will see if I can find it again for you. Right now pain meds are interfering. I think I had found it just by googling something like changes DSM IV. I read quite a few articles and one did talk about CPTSD and how it most likely wouldn't make it into the new edition. I can try to find it for you sometime next week if that's ok because I'll be in the hospital till thurs or fri. I should really learn to bookmark stuff like that so I can find it more easily again lol Mia > > > Very curious where you read that. Was it online? Do you mind posting the > link? I agree that would be a huge mistake. > > Riah > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Riah, if I can remember I will see if I can find it again for you. Right now pain meds are interfering. I think I had found it just by googling something like changes DSM IV. I read quite a few articles and one did talk about CPTSD and how it most likely wouldn't make it into the new edition. I can try to find it for you sometime next week if that's ok because I'll be in the hospital till thurs or fri. I should really learn to bookmark stuff like that so I can find it more easily again lol Mia > > > Very curious where you read that. Was it online? Do you mind posting the > link? I agree that would be a huge mistake. > > Riah > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Best of luck with your surgery, Mia; I'm sure everything will go smoothly and you'll have a quick recovery. Oh, and say " Hi " to the talking poodles for me, they're probably hanging out with the pink unicorns. -Annie > > I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD > after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as > CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common > misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said > . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we > all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe > that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call > the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared > all together. > > BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & > share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you > , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. > > Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. > > anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain > medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I > guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. > > I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & > posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some > magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on > it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, > I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. > > Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. > > one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors > & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I > will see you guys in a few days =) > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Best of luck with your surgery, Mia; I'm sure everything will go smoothly and you'll have a quick recovery. Oh, and say " Hi " to the talking poodles for me, they're probably hanging out with the pink unicorns. -Annie > > I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD > after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as > CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common > misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said > . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we > all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe > that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call > the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared > all together. > > BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & > share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you > , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. > > Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. > > anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain > medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I > guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. > > I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & > posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some > magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on > it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, > I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. > > Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. > > one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors > & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I > will see you guys in a few days =) > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Best of luck with your surgery, Mia; I'm sure everything will go smoothly and you'll have a quick recovery. Oh, and say " Hi " to the talking poodles for me, they're probably hanging out with the pink unicorns. -Annie > > I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD > after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as > CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common > misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said > . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we > all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe > that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call > the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared > all together. > > BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & > share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you > , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. > > Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. > > anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain > medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I > guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. > > I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & > posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some > magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on > it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, > I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. > > Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. > > one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors > & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I > will see you guys in a few days =) > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 Mia, something that I was told that might make you feel better is that people with BPD don't have self awareness, everything is black and white and they don't see the shades of gray that you do. For you to consider that you might have BPD and analyze yourself and contemplate it, kind of points to you not having it, because you have that insight... > > I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD > after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as > CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common > misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said > . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we > all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe > that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call > the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared > all together. > > BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & > share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you > , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. > > Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. > > anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain > medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I > guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. > > I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & > posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some > magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on > it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, > I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. > > Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. > > one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors > & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I > will see you guys in a few days =) > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 Mia, something that I was told that might make you feel better is that people with BPD don't have self awareness, everything is black and white and they don't see the shades of gray that you do. For you to consider that you might have BPD and analyze yourself and contemplate it, kind of points to you not having it, because you have that insight... > > I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD > after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as > CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common > misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said > . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we > all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe > that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call > the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared > all together. > > BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & > share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you > , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. > > Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. > > anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain > medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I > guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. > > I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & > posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some > magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on > it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, > I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. > > Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. > > one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors > & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I > will see you guys in a few days =) > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 No rush Mia, it's just something I'd like to read. I'll try to find it myself on google in the mean time. I hope you get some rest and feel better. Riah > > > > > > > Very curious where you read that. Was it online? Do you mind posting the > > link? I agree that would be a huge mistake. > > > > Riah > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 No rush Mia, it's just something I'd like to read. I'll try to find it myself on google in the mean time. I hope you get some rest and feel better. Riah > > > > > > > Very curious where you read that. Was it online? Do you mind posting the > > link? I agree that would be a huge mistake. > > > > Riah > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 No rush Mia, it's just something I'd like to read. I'll try to find it myself on google in the mean time. I hope you get some rest and feel better. Riah > > > > > > > Very curious where you read that. Was it online? Do you mind posting the > > link? I agree that would be a huge mistake. > > > > Riah > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 Thank you for the clarification Mia and I will speak to my therapist about it. But my nada does exhibit the other symptoms of BPD as well. It must be horrific living inside her head. > > I would not consider CPTSD the same as BPD at all. I have cPTSD and my > therpist says it is not the same as BPD. CPTSD is different from PTSD in > that the person with CPTSD has undergone repeated long term traumas instead > of one or short term trauma which would cause PTSD. > > After doing a lot of reading on the subject I believe whole heartedly that > they are different. I'm not BPD. I'm not manipulative, not a liar, self > injurious or an abuser in the way my nada was at all. I have never had a > problem owning up to my mistakes, saying sorry & really meaning it, etc. > > I know you are not insinuating that myself or anyone else with CPTSD is > actually suffering from BPD so please don't take it the wrong way, I'm not > angry or anything like that. Obviously therapist & psychologist opinions > will vary. But from my own research I do not fit the criteria for BPD and > my therapist says they are different and I do believe that. She has also > told me I do not fit the criteria for BPD (trust me, with the way my nada > projected all her own hatred onto me, that was something that was/is an > issue for me because I was always " the crazy one " in my nadas eyes.) > > One thing she was trying to explain to me with trauma is this: When one > undergoes repeated traumas, there are several paths they can take, two of > those being CPTSD & BPD. They may be viewed by some as cousins, but no, > they are not the same. > > I hope this makes sense. > > Mia > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 I agree with you too. You're cool, Mia. My nada definitely blames everyone else around her and takes no responsibility for her actions at all (she's a master rationaliser) when it really harms someone's feelings. When presented with limits, she blows her stack and completely bashes the person who's set the limits. The limits are usually set after years of repeated offences against that person. This has included brother-in-laws, sisters-in-law, children, and even long-standing friends/acquaintances. She isn't narcissistic but definitely needs to be *in control*. My apologies if I offended anyone with CPTSD. I was just mis-informed. Which now leads me to believe that I need to talk with my therapist again and unfortunately, that my nada is not properly diagnosed. --Mexie (I like that Mia!) > > > > I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD > > after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as > > CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common > > misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said > > . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we > > all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe > > that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call > > the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared > > all together. > > > > BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & > > share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you > > , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. > > > > Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. > > > > anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain > > medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I > > guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. > > > > I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & > > posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some > > magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on > > it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, > > I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. > > > > Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. > > > > one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors > > & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I > > will see you guys in a few days =) > > > > Mia > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 I agree with you too. You're cool, Mia. My nada definitely blames everyone else around her and takes no responsibility for her actions at all (she's a master rationaliser) when it really harms someone's feelings. When presented with limits, she blows her stack and completely bashes the person who's set the limits. The limits are usually set after years of repeated offences against that person. This has included brother-in-laws, sisters-in-law, children, and even long-standing friends/acquaintances. She isn't narcissistic but definitely needs to be *in control*. My apologies if I offended anyone with CPTSD. I was just mis-informed. Which now leads me to believe that I need to talk with my therapist again and unfortunately, that my nada is not properly diagnosed. --Mexie (I like that Mia!) > > > > I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD > > after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as > > CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common > > misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said > > . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we > > all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe > > that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call > > the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared > > all together. > > > > BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & > > share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you > > , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. > > > > Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. > > > > anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain > > medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I > > guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. > > > > I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & > > posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some > > magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on > > it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, > > I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. > > > > Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. > > > > one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors > > & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I > > will see you guys in a few days =) > > > > Mia > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 I agree with you too. You're cool, Mia. My nada definitely blames everyone else around her and takes no responsibility for her actions at all (she's a master rationaliser) when it really harms someone's feelings. When presented with limits, she blows her stack and completely bashes the person who's set the limits. The limits are usually set after years of repeated offences against that person. This has included brother-in-laws, sisters-in-law, children, and even long-standing friends/acquaintances. She isn't narcissistic but definitely needs to be *in control*. My apologies if I offended anyone with CPTSD. I was just mis-informed. Which now leads me to believe that I need to talk with my therapist again and unfortunately, that my nada is not properly diagnosed. --Mexie (I like that Mia!) > > > > I will say after my experience with that one pdoc who summed me up as BPD > > after talking to me a whole 10 minutes and said it was the same thing as > > CPTSD and all my discussions with my therapists that it seems to be a common > > misconception. It's sad really, because I get totally what you said > > . I don't split people, I see the beautiful shades of grey that we > > all have, even in my nada. Yes, I have good memories of her, and maybe > > that's why it hurts so much because sometimes she could be what they call > > the " good enough " parent. Sometimes... and then it just sort of disappeared > > all together. > > > > BUt yeah, I can see how CPTSD and BPD could be similar in some aspects & > > share some traits but I really just don't believe I have BPD. But like you > > , I blame myself for everythig. That's really gotta stop. > > > > Maybe I'm a BPD in denial? I don't know lol. > > > > anyway this post probably makes very little sense due to having taken pain > > medicine tonight. Still can't sleep though and have to be up in 4 hours. I > > guess I'll have plenty of time to sleep at the hospital lol. > > > > I will warn you guys now, when I do get back home and start reading & > > posting I might start rambling about pink unicorns and rainbows in some > > magical land. I hate taking pain medicine so much and she said I'll be on > > it for at least 2 weeks consistently, not as needed like now. UGH. So yeah, > > I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth lol. > > > > Anyway, I should probably shut up now and try to get some rest. > > > > one more thing, so grateful for this list and all of you wonderful survivors > > & thrivers here. Thanks for helping me feel less alone in my struggles. I > > will see you guys in a few days =) > > > > Mia > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2011 Report Share Posted January 13, 2011 Oh I agree Mex. I think it would be horriffic. I don't lack empathy towards those with BPD. I just wish more of them would seek treatment and be honest & get the help they need! Mia > > > Thank you for the clarification Mia and I will speak to my therapist about > it. But my nada does exhibit the other symptoms of BPD as well. It must be > horrific living inside her head. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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