Re: Married men and the BPD woman...

[Guest guest]

Oh, you're gonna laugh... my fiance is an attorney... with a J.D.... " Juris

Doctorate. "

The difference in Ed.D. and ABD is the Dissertation. I have all classwork

completed and I'm " All But Dissertation " ... when that bad boy is signed and OK'd

by the institution, I'll be Ed.D.

LYnnette

> > >

> > > Lynette, ( When do I get to say, DR Lynette?)

> > >

> > > I think you are asking 3 different questions. If I may,

> > >

> > > 1. Why do married men ,( some of us, not all of us) , choose to

> have

> > > sexual adventures outside the marriage.

> > > 2. Why do female BP s exhibit sexually promiscuous behaviors.

> > > 3. How do they justify their activities.

> > >

> > > So, to question one. Some men have affairs because they are horny

> and

> > > choose not to control their impulses. Hmm, can I say horny here?

> Some

> > > men do so because they are sexually addicted, and have real issues

> > > controlling their compuslions. Some are just hound dogs, some are

> > > emotionally vulnerable, and seek something which they think they ll

> find

> > > in sexual conquest.

> > >

> > > Why do they end up with BP women? Because they are easy and

> available

> > > and have low inhibitions or fences.

> > >

> > > All married men should be required to watch Fatal Attraction on the

> last

> > > night of the honeymoon and see an out there BP woman in an affair!

> > >

> > > 2. Why are BP s so available. Because they have little impulse

> > > control, and are extremely emotionally vulnerable. They will do

> > > anything to feel emotionally connected, and they have that

> pathological

> > > fear of abandonment. Women, it is said, trade sex for affection,

> > > whereas men trade affection for sex. Maybe a broad statement, but

> shows

> > > the general differences in our makeup. Women or girls often find

> > > themselves giving up more of themselves than they really intended to

> > > keep a man or boy around. And from experience and memory, I can

> tell

> > > you a horny 17 yr old boy will say about anything if he thinks the

> > > result will be sex.

> > >

> > > So add the wiring and vulnerability of a womans emotions and desire

> for

> > > love, and the lack of impulse control of the BP, coupled with the

> > > really sick level of emotional need in a BP, and you have the

> makings of

> > > a highly promiscuous person. A horny , opportunistic guy is going

> to

> > > hone in on that and pursue it.

> > >

> > > 3. Why do they justify it? Because, whereas a normal woman, or

> girl,

> > > might feel regret or guilt at having been seduced into a sexual

> > > encounter that ran counter to her own moral code, the BP cannot

> accept

> > > guilt or responsibility, and thus MUST justify it.

> > >

> > > I watched as a teenager my mom involved with men having trouble

> with

> > > their wives, and others, quite a list, actually. She lost a job

> > > because the wife came in to the workplace and told the boss, if you

> want

> > > to try to save this marriage, you start by getting rid of the whore!

> > >

> > > She was, in fact , having an affair with the woman s husband. But

> 30

> > > years later, she would couch that story as to how sorry she felt for

> > > him, and what a bitch his wife was.

> > >

> > > I bit my tongue and did not point out the obvious: you acted the

> same

> > > way toward the woman Dad was having an affair with, and called her

> far

> > > worse.

> > >

> > > This is one of the paradoxical things I found. In fact, it is a

> chapter

> > > in my book. They seem to express what might be , in others, guilt

> or

> > > shame, in the form of extreme condemnation in others of the same

> > > behaviors they exhibit. This may be true in other areas as well,

> but it

> > > is strikingly obvious in the sexual arena.

> > >

> > > Doug

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Nope. Not gonna say it. No, I won t stoop that low. NO.

Aw, hell.

So if you are an EdD, and he is a JD, then together you are a........

ready?

Legal Paradox.

badump

Doug

> >

> > Ehhhhhhh, whats up doc?

> >

> > If you were married to someone with a doctorate, the 2 of you would

be a

> > ....................ready?............drum roll........

> >

> > Paradox.

> >

> > Ok, got that out of my system.

> >

> > I know what an EdD is, what is an ABD?

> >

> > Yea, you re right. That is pretty cogent. Pasted into notes for

that

> > chapter.

> >

> >

> > Time for a good copy editor before long!

> >

> > Congrats on the sheepskin.

> >

> >

> > Doug

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Nope. Not gonna say it. No, I won t stoop that low. NO.

Aw, hell.

So if you are an EdD, and he is a JD, then together you are a........

ready?

Legal Paradox.

badump

Doug

> >

> > Ehhhhhhh, whats up doc?

> >

> > If you were married to someone with a doctorate, the 2 of you would

be a

> > ....................ready?............drum roll........

> >

> > Paradox.

> >

> > Ok, got that out of my system.

> >

> > I know what an EdD is, what is an ABD?

> >

> > Yea, you re right. That is pretty cogent. Pasted into notes for

that

> > chapter.

> >

> >

> > Time for a good copy editor before long!

> >

> > Congrats on the sheepskin.

> >

> >

> > Doug

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Nope. Not gonna say it. No, I won t stoop that low. NO.

Aw, hell.

So if you are an EdD, and he is a JD, then together you are a........

ready?

Legal Paradox.

badump

Doug

> >

> > Ehhhhhhh, whats up doc?

> >

> > If you were married to someone with a doctorate, the 2 of you would

be a

> > ....................ready?............drum roll........

> >

> > Paradox.

> >

> > Ok, got that out of my system.

> >

> > I know what an EdD is, what is an ABD?

> >

> > Yea, you re right. That is pretty cogent. Pasted into notes for

that

> > chapter.

> >

> >

> > Time for a good copy editor before long!

> >

> > Congrats on the sheepskin.

> >

> >

> > Doug

> >

> >

> >