Re: Re: How far away do you live?

[Guest guest]

I moved 2 states away, which in the midwest is pretty far. I at first moved

to the other side of town where my college was, and then ended up having to

move to a large city because my husband can't drive.

It did move us away from his parents and sister, who all are wonderful and

supportive, but I'm adjusting to the city live and we're both making

friends.

>

>

> I got lucky...nada uprooted herself from my state and went to go live with

> a drug addict friend of hers 3 states away. Phew! I lucked out major! My

> family is spreading out and moving away too. We only connect on facebook

> sadly. But, it is what it is. You learn to get by differently than you

> expected. I guess that's really it--you readjust your expectations. It gets

> easier to deal with in time.

>

>

>

> >

> > By reading through this board, I've gotten the feeling that many of us

> moved away from the BPD in our life.

> >

> > Question to everyone:

> >

> > How many miles away from your pwBPD do you live?

> >

> > When and why did you decide to move away?

> >

> >

> > I'll start

> >

> > -I live approx 250 miles away from Nada. Sadly, that has also moved me

> 250 miles away from the family that is good to me and that i miss dearly.

> >

> > -I made the choice to move as far away as possible without being

> completely separated from the " good family " when I was a senior in High

> School and choosing a college. I first lived about 5 hours away, then moved

> a tad closer a year later when i transferred to a diff school.

> >

> > -Before I knew anything about BPD, I did know I didn't want her

> controlling me, her anger to embarrass me, and I wanted it to be a time for

> her to stop depending on me so much and get help from others. I wanted to

> live my own life. I just thought it was typical for an 18 year old to feel

> that way when going to college... but looking back on it, my motives were

> WAY different than the " typical " 18 year old.

> >

> > Now your turn, GO!

> >

> > -JL

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I didn't move far. Grew up in a small town and went about 2 hours away to

college. then got a job about 30 miles away. The NC is not related to

distance.

On Tue, Jan 11, 2011 at 2:29 AM, Latasha wrote:

>

>

> I live about 35 miles from my pwBPD at the moment.

>

> I went 2.5 hours away to college, graduated, went to live with my Nada

> after college and I went through literal hell before she kicked me out (this

> occurred several times). As an adult she gave me the message- " You can

> always come home " , she even still says it. So, off and on throughout

> adulthood I have returned home when needed and just reverted back to

> childhood (minding her and making her the center of my world).

> Ewwww...coughing up hairball.

>

> Anyhoo, I stayed with her this last round about 2.5 years, saved up money

> and moved away. I always say stayed with " her " . There is a dad that lives

> with her, but he is terribly emasculinated/almost invisible. It's very sad.

> He's my bio dad...but an almost invisible creature. Ahh well.

>

> I live in the country...near cows, corn fields and I love my house! I

> rarely go see Nada and dad. I have brothers as well, but my older brother

> blocked out childhood (lives on the other side of the country as Nada) and

> my younger brother lives with Nada temporarily. She wants him out too.

>

> I am very interested in seeing many responses to this question! Maybe I'll

> move further! :-D

>

> Latasha

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I didn't move far. Grew up in a small town and went about 2 hours away to

college. then got a job about 30 miles away. The NC is not related to

distance.

On Tue, Jan 11, 2011 at 2:29 AM, Latasha wrote:

>

>

> I live about 35 miles from my pwBPD at the moment.

>

> I went 2.5 hours away to college, graduated, went to live with my Nada

> after college and I went through literal hell before she kicked me out (this

> occurred several times). As an adult she gave me the message- " You can

> always come home " , she even still says it. So, off and on throughout

> adulthood I have returned home when needed and just reverted back to

> childhood (minding her and making her the center of my world).

> Ewwww...coughing up hairball.

>

> Anyhoo, I stayed with her this last round about 2.5 years, saved up money

> and moved away. I always say stayed with " her " . There is a dad that lives

> with her, but he is terribly emasculinated/almost invisible. It's very sad.

> He's my bio dad...but an almost invisible creature. Ahh well.

>

> I live in the country...near cows, corn fields and I love my house! I

> rarely go see Nada and dad. I have brothers as well, but my older brother

> blocked out childhood (lives on the other side of the country as Nada) and

> my younger brother lives with Nada temporarily. She wants him out too.

>

> I am very interested in seeing many responses to this question! Maybe I'll

> move further! :-D

>

> Latasha

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I didn't move far. Grew up in a small town and went about 2 hours away to

college. then got a job about 30 miles away. The NC is not related to

distance.

On Tue, Jan 11, 2011 at 2:29 AM, Latasha wrote:

>

>

> I live about 35 miles from my pwBPD at the moment.

>

> I went 2.5 hours away to college, graduated, went to live with my Nada

> after college and I went through literal hell before she kicked me out (this

> occurred several times). As an adult she gave me the message- " You can

> always come home " , she even still says it. So, off and on throughout

> adulthood I have returned home when needed and just reverted back to

> childhood (minding her and making her the center of my world).

> Ewwww...coughing up hairball.

>

> Anyhoo, I stayed with her this last round about 2.5 years, saved up money

> and moved away. I always say stayed with " her " . There is a dad that lives

> with her, but he is terribly emasculinated/almost invisible. It's very sad.

> He's my bio dad...but an almost invisible creature. Ahh well.

>

> I live in the country...near cows, corn fields and I love my house! I

> rarely go see Nada and dad. I have brothers as well, but my older brother

> blocked out childhood (lives on the other side of the country as Nada) and

> my younger brother lives with Nada temporarily. She wants him out too.

>

> I am very interested in seeing many responses to this question! Maybe I'll

> move further! :-D

>

> Latasha

>

>

>