Nada changed her phone # and redirected calls to a complete stranger :)

[Guest guest]

I have a new piece of work to share about my nada...

Various folks over the years have encouraged me to be more a master of my

destiny with my mom by calling her, instead of being the one to be called.

Actually, despite years of trying out both approaches, I have not found much

difference (for better or for worse) in living at peace with frustrating

behaviors, regardless of who is initiating the call. In fact, my nada tends to

try to cut me off at the knees MORE when I call her than when she calls me.

One pushy male friend seems to think changing my phone number to an unlisted one

change the relationship once and for all. I much doubt it, what's WORSE, the

inconvenience would be mine, in updating friends from far-places and time zones.

I have all kinds of friends I've made and kept over the years, and local friends

that keep tabs on me. That is healthy for me.

My purpose in sharing is to Let Go and Let God when the weirdness occurs and it

has just this past week.

What is ironic, is that the other day I decided to ring my parents, taking the

high road to check in for the month (that is about how frequently I'll initiate

contact). Well, someone else other than my parents or smart-alec brother's

voice was on the message machine. A middle aged woman who went on to give a

totally different 7-digit number than the one I had dialed! I tried a second

time figuring I had hit automatic redial.... and had actually dialed the last

person who'd called us. Even a fresh, careful redial yielded the same results. I

waited for the message to complete and I began to leave my message, that I was

trying to contact my parents.. and someone picked up that I did not know and she

told me that her area code was New York State! (My parents live in western

Washington.) I asked her she knew a friend who was visiting in the same area of

New York as she did... (she'd tole me she did not know about my parents).

Finally I just had to hang up perplexed.

This is just craziness! I am here sort of struck by the irony of my parents

disconnecting their phone and forwarding (by purpose or incompetence?) their

phone calls to a number in a random area code....

I am long past wondering why my folks changed their unlisted number to anther

unlisted one. It is another one of those non-sensical stories I've collected

over the years and then gradually let go of... I mean really. What they have

done is purposeless and it does not hurt me.

Finally, I see that it is really OK to let go and let God take such stupid,

emotionally twisted people away from me. Not even worth getting angry. In fact,

I am just realizing how nicely I have been set free.

Some things can't be made sense of and the best thing to do is feel compassion

for the children (my brother and I) that had to live with people like this. I

feel the beginnings of compassion for people who my parents who can't even see

that they took themselves to their own private He--. I chose not to go with

them to their self-designed prison.

Again, I am blessed! For if had had disconnected my number, and beat them to

this race to go incommunicado, I would have had all kinds of friends to notify.

My nada and fada have few friends who call them. And few people to notify except

credit card companies.

My own personal best suit is writing emails and snail mail..and my mom has

explicitly told me she " prefers " phone calls. Well, now I can't call her, and

frankly I've no interest in writing someone who does not want my letters. Here

is something weirder in all this. My nada was recently told by her closest

sibling NOT to call him in the future, but only to write or use email (she is

undermining his health by harassing him at all hours, and both my adult

and my inner Vicki were quite pleased with his telling my mom off... in this

way.) Here is the irony of the recent phone number disconnection: the random

area code and prefix my nada (or fada) forwarded their phone calls to is the

same area code as her siblings.... and the prefix is one that is closely related

to one of my favorite aunts. But like I say, the person I talked with is a

complete stranger, I recognize no familiar voice and they did not recognize my

parent't names either.

I find it interesting that I don't care if the mystery of this gets solved or

not. I am just glad to be " off the hook! "

Smiling....

[Guest guest]

Yes!! That is truly bizarre, but... what a lucky break for you even if its a

mistake and temporary: it still means you get a mini-vacation from the 'rents.

But if it was deliberate and permanent, then, yes, you're off the hook: you

don't have to initiate No Contact now! Nada did it for you.

Well, I can truly relate to the sheer, inexplicable oddness of bpd behaviors.

And yes, it is ironic. My guess is that cutting off phone access was deliberate

and permanent because you stopped giving your nada enough " play value " ; nada-cat

will find a more wiggly mouse to torment.

I suggest you gently ease into this new development, let yourself breath a sigh

of relief, let the shock wear off, and then go joyfully into your new and

brighter days.

Hallelujah!

-Annie

.... This is just craziness! I am here sort of struck by the irony of my parents

disconnecting their phone and forwarding (by purpose or incompetence?) their

phone calls to a number in a random area code....

>... I find it interesting that I don't care if the mystery of this gets solved

or not. I am just glad to be " off the hook! "

>

> Smiling....

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yes!! That is truly bizarre, but... what a lucky break for you even if its a

mistake and temporary: it still means you get a mini-vacation from the 'rents.

But if it was deliberate and permanent, then, yes, you're off the hook: you

don't have to initiate No Contact now! Nada did it for you.

Well, I can truly relate to the sheer, inexplicable oddness of bpd behaviors.

And yes, it is ironic. My guess is that cutting off phone access was deliberate

and permanent because you stopped giving your nada enough " play value " ; nada-cat

will find a more wiggly mouse to torment.

I suggest you gently ease into this new development, let yourself breath a sigh

of relief, let the shock wear off, and then go joyfully into your new and

brighter days.

Hallelujah!

-Annie

.... This is just craziness! I am here sort of struck by the irony of my parents

disconnecting their phone and forwarding (by purpose or incompetence?) their

phone calls to a number in a random area code....

>... I find it interesting that I don't care if the mystery of this gets solved

or not. I am just glad to be " off the hook! "

>

> Smiling....

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yes ma'am, I'd say thank you universe for this wonderful gift.

On Mon, Jan 10, 2011 at 9:19 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> Yes!! That is truly bizarre, but... what a lucky break for you even if its

> a mistake and temporary: it still means you get a mini-vacation from the

> 'rents.

>

> But if it was deliberate and permanent, then, yes, you're off the hook: you

> don't have to initiate No Contact now! Nada did it for you.

>

> Well, I can truly relate to the sheer, inexplicable oddness of bpd

> behaviors. And yes, it is ironic. My guess is that cutting off phone access

> was deliberate and permanent because you stopped giving your nada enough

> " play value " ; nada-cat will find a more wiggly mouse to torment.

>

> I suggest you gently ease into this new development, let yourself breath a

> sigh of relief, let the shock wear off, and then go joyfully into your new

> and brighter days.

>

> Hallelujah!

> -Annie

>

>

>

>

> ... This is just craziness! I am here sort of struck by the irony of my

> parents disconnecting their phone and forwarding (by purpose or

> incompetence?) their phone calls to a number in a random area code....

>

> >... I find it interesting that I don't care if the mystery of this gets

> solved or not. I am just glad to be " off the hook! "

> >

> > Smiling....

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yes ma'am, I'd say thank you universe for this wonderful gift.

On Mon, Jan 10, 2011 at 9:19 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> Yes!! That is truly bizarre, but... what a lucky break for you even if its

> a mistake and temporary: it still means you get a mini-vacation from the

> 'rents.

>

> But if it was deliberate and permanent, then, yes, you're off the hook: you

> don't have to initiate No Contact now! Nada did it for you.

>

> Well, I can truly relate to the sheer, inexplicable oddness of bpd

> behaviors. And yes, it is ironic. My guess is that cutting off phone access

> was deliberate and permanent because you stopped giving your nada enough

> " play value " ; nada-cat will find a more wiggly mouse to torment.

>

> I suggest you gently ease into this new development, let yourself breath a

> sigh of relief, let the shock wear off, and then go joyfully into your new

> and brighter days.

>

> Hallelujah!

> -Annie

>

>

>

>

> ... This is just craziness! I am here sort of struck by the irony of my

> parents disconnecting their phone and forwarding (by purpose or

> incompetence?) their phone calls to a number in a random area code....

>

> >... I find it interesting that I don't care if the mystery of this gets

> solved or not. I am just glad to be " off the hook! "

> >

> > Smiling....

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yes ma'am, I'd say thank you universe for this wonderful gift.

On Mon, Jan 10, 2011 at 9:19 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> Yes!! That is truly bizarre, but... what a lucky break for you even if its

> a mistake and temporary: it still means you get a mini-vacation from the

> 'rents.

>

> But if it was deliberate and permanent, then, yes, you're off the hook: you

> don't have to initiate No Contact now! Nada did it for you.

>

> Well, I can truly relate to the sheer, inexplicable oddness of bpd

> behaviors. And yes, it is ironic. My guess is that cutting off phone access

> was deliberate and permanent because you stopped giving your nada enough

> " play value " ; nada-cat will find a more wiggly mouse to torment.

>

> I suggest you gently ease into this new development, let yourself breath a

> sigh of relief, let the shock wear off, and then go joyfully into your new

> and brighter days.

>

> Hallelujah!

> -Annie

>

>

>

>

> ... This is just craziness! I am here sort of struck by the irony of my

> parents disconnecting their phone and forwarding (by purpose or

> incompetence?) their phone calls to a number in a random area code....

>

> >... I find it interesting that I don't care if the mystery of this gets

> solved or not. I am just glad to be " off the hook! "

> >

> > Smiling....

> >

> >

> >

>

>

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