LIES, LIES, LIES in my truthful world

[Guest guest]

Because of my exposure to my mother, and by nature, I am a very honest person. I

find it very hard to even make little white lies.

My mother has always lied by omission. She's very skillful at it and you would

never know she's lying if you weren't paying close attention.

I never understand lying.

Many years ago, I traveled to England to visit a good friend for a month. My

mother loves an English-made pottery designer and had asked me to go around and

find it and buy her a piece while I was there because it would be cheaper there.

So, after much searching, I found the artist and bought 4 pieces of this very

colorful and beautiful pottery for her. I was so happy to do this for her. I

spent about $300 on them with my own money. I was in my 20's.

When my parents decided to move to florida 5 years ago, I was helping them pack

and noticed that the pottery was missing. I asked about it, and she said that

she had packed them already. I knew she was lying to me. I could tell.

I pressed her to know the real whereabouts of the pottery. After much prodding

and begging, she told me that she had sold them to get some money for them. My

parents did not need the $50 total that she received from them.

I didn't react at all because it's just more of the same. I was hurt that I

worked hard to find the stuff for them, but more hurt that they took something

that I invested emotionally in and got rid of it, for what...$50. I believe some

things have sentimental value. Obviously, they didn't.

So many examples of lies and deceit.

This was just one that I wanted to share.

Amy

[Guest guest]

I think that they lie when there is no need to. My nada lied about my

grandnada's jewelry chest. When she passed away, I asked about it. She kept

telling me to wait until later. Then it was gone. She refused to say what

happened to it. Finally after much pressing, she admitted that she gave it to my

cousin. Why? I had repeatedly said that I wanted it. my nada decided that it was

fair to give to my cousin who didn't even come to grandnadas funeral or even see

her in the last 5 years. But the point is, they can't tell the truth. i always

know she is lying when she is evasive and runs away literally.

Felicia Ward

Remember that people often have different perceptions of the same reality. You

can both be right, and no one has to be wrong, if each of you is willing to let

the other person have his or her perceptions and if both of you are willing to

compromise. 

Subject: LIES, LIES, LIES in my truthful world

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Thursday, December 16, 2010, 8:31 AM

 

Because of my exposure to my mother, and by nature, I am a very honest person. I

find it very hard to even make little white lies.

My mother has always lied by omission. She's very skillful at it and you would

never know she's lying if you weren't paying close attention.

I never understand lying.

Many years ago, I traveled to England to visit a good friend for a month. My

mother loves an English-made pottery designer and had asked me to go around and

find it and buy her a piece while I was there because it would be cheaper there.

So, after much searching, I found the artist and bought 4 pieces of this very

colorful and beautiful pottery for her. I was so happy to do this for her. I

spent about $300 on them with my own money. I was in my 20's.

When my parents decided to move to florida 5 years ago, I was helping them pack

and noticed that the pottery was missing. I asked about it, and she said that

she had packed them already. I knew she was lying to me. I could tell.

I pressed her to know the real whereabouts of the pottery. After much prodding

and begging, she told me that she had sold them to get some money for them. My

parents did not need the $50 total that she received from them.

I didn't react at all because it's just more of the same. I was hurt that I

worked hard to find the stuff for them, but more hurt that they took something

that I invested emotionally in and got rid of it, for what...$50. I believe some

things have sentimental value. Obviously, they didn't.

So many examples of lies and deceit.

This was just one that I wanted to share.

Amy

[Guest guest]

That was a rather blatantly hostile act for nada to give your cousin an item of

your grandmother's that you'd specifically said that you'd like to have. Your

nada was basically saying " eff you " .

Anything can become " weaponized " in a nada's hands and used to coerce, bribe,

manipulate or punish you, particularly anything that you want or need that they

have control over.

-Annie

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> Subject: LIES, LIES, LIES in my truthful world

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Date: Thursday, December 16, 2010, 8:31 AM

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> Because of my exposure to my mother, and by nature, I am a very honest person.

I find it very hard to even make little white lies.

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> My mother has always lied by omission. She's very skillful at it and you would

never know she's lying if you weren't paying close attention.

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> I never understand lying.

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> Many years ago, I traveled to England to visit a good friend for a month. My

mother loves an English-made pottery designer and had asked me to go around and

find it and buy her a piece while I was there because it would be cheaper there.

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> So, after much searching, I found the artist and bought 4 pieces of this very

colorful and beautiful pottery for her. I was so happy to do this for her. I

spent about $300 on them with my own money. I was in my 20's.

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> When my parents decided to move to florida 5 years ago, I was helping them

pack and noticed that the pottery was missing. I asked about it, and she said

that she had packed them already. I knew she was lying to me. I could tell.

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> I pressed her to know the real whereabouts of the pottery. After much prodding

and begging, she told me that she had sold them to get some money for them. My

parents did not need the $50 total that she received from them.

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> I didn't react at all because it's just more of the same. I was hurt that I

worked hard to find the stuff for them, but more hurt that they took something

that I invested emotionally in and got rid of it, for what...$50. I believe some

things have sentimental value. Obviously, they didn't.

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> So many examples of lies and deceit.

> This was just one that I wanted to share.

> Amy

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[Guest guest]

That was a rather blatantly hostile act for nada to give your cousin an item of

your grandmother's that you'd specifically said that you'd like to have. Your

nada was basically saying " eff you " .

Anything can become " weaponized " in a nada's hands and used to coerce, bribe,

manipulate or punish you, particularly anything that you want or need that they

have control over.

-Annie

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> Subject: LIES, LIES, LIES in my truthful world

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Date: Thursday, December 16, 2010, 8:31 AM

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> Because of my exposure to my mother, and by nature, I am a very honest person.

I find it very hard to even make little white lies.

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> My mother has always lied by omission. She's very skillful at it and you would

never know she's lying if you weren't paying close attention.

>

> I never understand lying.

>

> Many years ago, I traveled to England to visit a good friend for a month. My

mother loves an English-made pottery designer and had asked me to go around and

find it and buy her a piece while I was there because it would be cheaper there.

>

> So, after much searching, I found the artist and bought 4 pieces of this very

colorful and beautiful pottery for her. I was so happy to do this for her. I

spent about $300 on them with my own money. I was in my 20's.

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> When my parents decided to move to florida 5 years ago, I was helping them

pack and noticed that the pottery was missing. I asked about it, and she said

that she had packed them already. I knew she was lying to me. I could tell.

>

> I pressed her to know the real whereabouts of the pottery. After much prodding

and begging, she told me that she had sold them to get some money for them. My

parents did not need the $50 total that she received from them.

>

> I didn't react at all because it's just more of the same. I was hurt that I

worked hard to find the stuff for them, but more hurt that they took something

that I invested emotionally in and got rid of it, for what...$50. I believe some

things have sentimental value. Obviously, they didn't.

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> So many examples of lies and deceit.

> This was just one that I wanted to share.

> Amy

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