how to help grieving husband?

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My husband's father died unexpectedly last night. He was only 60. His father was

an incredibly neglectful dad. He was an alcoholic and drug addict. Most likely

narcissistic. When my husband called to tell him our daughter was born his

father said " cool. Can you call me later cuz the game's on. " Stuff like that.

Once when we were dating his dad had been drinking and sat with us and told us

never to have kids because they ruin your life. I was appalled but dh just took

it in stride. Dh wasn't even allowed to call him dad, he called him by his 1st

name cuz he considered himself too cool to be a dad.

My husband never went NC with his dad or confronted him on anything. His dad

went LC with my dh because it was too inconvenient to make more than 1 phonecall

every 2 years. Dh reached out over and over. His dad cut him to the core over

and over by ignoring the 100s of attempts at a relationship.

I feel like his situation is similar to those of us with nadas. So does anyone

have any advice to help him thru this mourning process? Right now he's mourning

the loss of what might have been.