Re: How my PASS can help your perception

[Guest guest]

Q: HOW DO I APPLY

THE PASS TO MY LIFE?

A: You have to realize that what you have been through in your life is real. No

matter what the specifics are, you are a human who has been put on this earth to

deal with all kinds of obstacles. Your specific challenges are unique and

meaningful in the realm of your existence.

Once you understand this, you can excuse yourself from the responsibility of

actions/reactions that other people/circumstances have caused.

You are a child of the universe, and you deserve to live with ease, unencumbered

by the recurring pain of abuse, a one-time occurrence, an uncaring attitude from

a loved one, a lifetime of neglect and misunderstandings, loneliness,

depression, general pain, etc...

Example: " I was abused by my parents as a child. The abuse continued throughout

my teens and 20's. They were verbally and emotionally cruel to me. I spent my

time alone with nobody to talk to. I was abandoned by my family and even now, I

am married, have children...and still feel alone. To this day, I cannot be near

my parents, as they pretend it never happened. My children believe that their

grandparents are angels. I stay up nights, blaming myself for being too weak to

stand up to them when I was a kid. And now, they are part of my life and I'm

tortured by it. "

OK. That's a lot of wrong in a child's life that stretches into adulthood.

Depression and anger continue to plague you if you get stuck in the helplessness

of this scenario. If you can think of getting a PASS, the story can then go

something like this:

YOUR REALITY The PASS

I was abused by my parents as a child I will give myself a

PASS if I don't feel confident and happy all the time. I was unlucky in the

parent department.

They were verbally and emotionally cruel I give myself a PASS

says that I shouldn't have been treated like that. I was too young to

do anything different to change my surroundings.

I was abandoned by my family If you give yourself

a PASS in this respect, you can realize that, yes, families sometimes

do not live up to our expectations. Over time, we can use our friends as our

spiritual families of

choice. Even if we feel sad about this estrangement, it is better to be

away from abusive people, family or not.

I am married, have children and I still feel alone The PASS allows

you the freedom to feel your pain, even in the present. You don't need to

feel guilty for have these recurring emotions. They are your battle scars.

You survived, so therefore

you can live in the present, and accept that your past was hurtful.

To this day, I cannot be near my parents Time to give

yourself a pass. Of course you feel this way...and that's your inner security

system screaming out to be heard and acknowledged. Your body is reacting to it's

memory of your real past experiences. It's your decision whether to have contact

or not, but your

experiences regulate your gut reactions now.

My children believe that their grandparents are angels I will give myself a

PASS. It's hard to be in the middle of two generations and try to keep

peace when abuse has been in the mix. It is unfair to you that you must even

think about this and the

occurrence may have robbed you of the joy of sharing your children with

your parents. It will be up to you whether there will be a relationship between

the kids and

grandparents. But it wasn't your fault, and all you can do is know that your

PASS let's you let your

children admire your parents as long as it is a safe situation.

I stay up nights, blaming myself for being too weak Use your PASS to

realize that you were conditioned and groomed to respond with fear

and submission. If you were brought up in a healthier environment, you would

have had the tools to deal

with more of what was happening, although, if that were the case, you

wouldn't have this at all.

I am tortured by it You get a PASS for

living with such torment at the hands of your parents. IT WASN'T YOUR

FAULT. Give yourself a break...you could not have prevented this, and it does

not define you.

WHATEVER HAS UNFAIRLY HAPPENED TO YOU IN YOUR LIFETIME,

USE YOUR PASS TO GET OUT OF THE CYCLE OF PAIN

AND SELF-DEFEATING THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS.