Re: i would like to stop attracting BPs into my life--the ego stroke

[Guest guest]

Sorry, I forgot to truncate the previous message, apologies. , you also

wrote:

" You can change your behavior to get them out. Quit being the thing that

attracts them. Don't be so open and trusting, loving and compassionate when

they seem overly attractive and ego stroking about you. The ego stroke is the

first clue. They fool you into trusting them, then they find out everything

about you because you are naturally open and trusting and then they will use

every bit of information you give them to twist the knife and nut you up. If

you can get them to get help - awesome, if you can't RUN AWAY as fast as you can

if your emotional health means anything to you. "

I totally know what you mean about the ego stroke. I think that is what TD Jakes

was writing about in his book about surviving a hostile work environment. To

want their appreciation is to be sucked/hoovered into their pathologies. Also,

I read the poet Rumi regularly, he is this spiritual poet, really wonderful

poems. And he has a poem about Moses and Pharoah talking. Pharaoh lives in the

material world and the world of ego; Moses is inviting him to know the spiritual

and psychologically freedom realities of the world, and Pharaoh turns to Haman,

his advisor, who counsels him to disbelieve Moses. Rumi writes, " let Haman and

Pharaoh talk " to each other. In this case, at the meeting this week, when the

supervisors were publicly lauding the PD person for all her great contributions,

I stayed strong and didn't react, and just thought " let Pharaoh and Haman " talk

to each other. I just stayed out of it.

I need to keep reading the TD Jakes book. It will make me a better person.

I hope that I come out of this stronger. Wouldn't it be nice if I could learn

to not let a PD use my energy? I wonder if that would be possible...

WTH

[Guest guest]

Sorry, I forgot to truncate the previous message, apologies. , you also

wrote:

" You can change your behavior to get them out. Quit being the thing that

attracts them. Don't be so open and trusting, loving and compassionate when

they seem overly attractive and ego stroking about you. The ego stroke is the

first clue. They fool you into trusting them, then they find out everything

about you because you are naturally open and trusting and then they will use

every bit of information you give them to twist the knife and nut you up. If

you can get them to get help - awesome, if you can't RUN AWAY as fast as you can

if your emotional health means anything to you. "

I totally know what you mean about the ego stroke. I think that is what TD Jakes

was writing about in his book about surviving a hostile work environment. To

want their appreciation is to be sucked/hoovered into their pathologies. Also,

I read the poet Rumi regularly, he is this spiritual poet, really wonderful

poems. And he has a poem about Moses and Pharoah talking. Pharaoh lives in the

material world and the world of ego; Moses is inviting him to know the spiritual

and psychologically freedom realities of the world, and Pharaoh turns to Haman,

his advisor, who counsels him to disbelieve Moses. Rumi writes, " let Haman and

Pharaoh talk " to each other. In this case, at the meeting this week, when the

supervisors were publicly lauding the PD person for all her great contributions,

I stayed strong and didn't react, and just thought " let Pharaoh and Haman " talk

to each other. I just stayed out of it.

I need to keep reading the TD Jakes book. It will make me a better person.

I hope that I come out of this stronger. Wouldn't it be nice if I could learn

to not let a PD use my energy? I wonder if that would be possible...

WTH

[Guest guest]

Sorry, I forgot to truncate the previous message, apologies. , you also

wrote:

" You can change your behavior to get them out. Quit being the thing that

attracts them. Don't be so open and trusting, loving and compassionate when

they seem overly attractive and ego stroking about you. The ego stroke is the

first clue. They fool you into trusting them, then they find out everything

about you because you are naturally open and trusting and then they will use

every bit of information you give them to twist the knife and nut you up. If

you can get them to get help - awesome, if you can't RUN AWAY as fast as you can

if your emotional health means anything to you. "

I totally know what you mean about the ego stroke. I think that is what TD Jakes

was writing about in his book about surviving a hostile work environment. To

want their appreciation is to be sucked/hoovered into their pathologies. Also,

I read the poet Rumi regularly, he is this spiritual poet, really wonderful

poems. And he has a poem about Moses and Pharoah talking. Pharaoh lives in the

material world and the world of ego; Moses is inviting him to know the spiritual

and psychologically freedom realities of the world, and Pharaoh turns to Haman,

his advisor, who counsels him to disbelieve Moses. Rumi writes, " let Haman and

Pharaoh talk " to each other. In this case, at the meeting this week, when the

supervisors were publicly lauding the PD person for all her great contributions,

I stayed strong and didn't react, and just thought " let Pharaoh and Haman " talk

to each other. I just stayed out of it.

I need to keep reading the TD Jakes book. It will make me a better person.

I hope that I come out of this stronger. Wouldn't it be nice if I could learn

to not let a PD use my energy? I wonder if that would be possible...

WTH