Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Go to your mirror and look at your beautiful face and in your sweetest kindest most loving voice, say " I love you. " No matter what the lies inside your head tell you, there is one truth there too...say it, " I love you. " You can have control and you can be loved for being perfectly imperfect. You are good enough. J > > I am tired of trying to be perfect. I am trying to stop it but I feel such guilt. Not good enough worker, not good enough mother, not good enough wife, why can't have control over my weight,etc.. I have trouble giving myself any credit. I am tired of trying to be super woman. Any suggestions on how to get out of this mind set? I have tried cognitive-behavior stuff but not been very successful. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Go to your mirror and look at your beautiful face and in your sweetest kindest most loving voice, say " I love you. " No matter what the lies inside your head tell you, there is one truth there too...say it, " I love you. " You can have control and you can be loved for being perfectly imperfect. You are good enough. J > > I am tired of trying to be perfect. I am trying to stop it but I feel such guilt. Not good enough worker, not good enough mother, not good enough wife, why can't have control over my weight,etc.. I have trouble giving myself any credit. I am tired of trying to be super woman. Any suggestions on how to get out of this mind set? I have tried cognitive-behavior stuff but not been very successful. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 Go to your mirror and look at your beautiful face and in your sweetest kindest most loving voice, say " I love you. " No matter what the lies inside your head tell you, there is one truth there too...say it, " I love you. " You can have control and you can be loved for being perfectly imperfect. You are good enough. J > > I am tired of trying to be perfect. I am trying to stop it but I feel such guilt. Not good enough worker, not good enough mother, not good enough wife, why can't have control over my weight,etc.. I have trouble giving myself any credit. I am tired of trying to be super woman. Any suggestions on how to get out of this mind set? I have tried cognitive-behavior stuff but not been very successful. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 It sounds like you need to start seeing what you've done right instead of what you haven't done. At the end of each day, try making a list of several things, small or large, that you've accomplished or that you've been complemented on. At 08:47 PM 01/10/2011 alcrazylife wrote: >I am tired of trying to be perfect. I am trying to stop it but >I feel such guilt. Not good enough worker, not good enough >mother, not good enough wife, why can't have control over my >weight,etc.. I have trouble giving myself any credit. I am >tired of trying to be super woman. Any suggestions on how to >get out of this mind set? I have tried cognitive-behavior stuff >but not been very successful. -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 It sounds like you need to start seeing what you've done right instead of what you haven't done. At the end of each day, try making a list of several things, small or large, that you've accomplished or that you've been complemented on. At 08:47 PM 01/10/2011 alcrazylife wrote: >I am tired of trying to be perfect. I am trying to stop it but >I feel such guilt. Not good enough worker, not good enough >mother, not good enough wife, why can't have control over my >weight,etc.. I have trouble giving myself any credit. I am >tired of trying to be super woman. Any suggestions on how to >get out of this mind set? I have tried cognitive-behavior stuff >but not been very successful. -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 I second Katrina's idea. My fiance's been pretty depressed lately and stressed. I asked him to start writing down at least 3 things every day that he's grateful for. It's not a huge step and it takes time, but every bit helps. Mia > > > It sounds like you need to start seeing what you've done right > instead of what you haven't done. At the end of each day, try > making a list of several things, small or large, that you've > accomplished or that you've been complemented on. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2011 Report Share Posted January 10, 2011 I second Katrina's idea. My fiance's been pretty depressed lately and stressed. I asked him to start writing down at least 3 things every day that he's grateful for. It's not a huge step and it takes time, but every bit helps. Mia > > > It sounds like you need to start seeing what you've done right > instead of what you haven't done. At the end of each day, try > making a list of several things, small or large, that you've > accomplished or that you've been complemented on. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 alcrazylife - I struggle deeply with this too. I appreciate your candid post. I second everyone's suggestions and am going to try them myself. Thank you for bringing up this topic. ;-) > > > > > > > It sounds like you need to start seeing what you've done right > > instead of what you haven't done. At the end of each day, try > > making a list of several things, small or large, that you've > > accomplished or that you've been complemented on. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 alcrazylife - I struggle deeply with this too. I appreciate your candid post. I second everyone's suggestions and am going to try them myself. Thank you for bringing up this topic. ;-) > > > > > > > It sounds like you need to start seeing what you've done right > > instead of what you haven't done. At the end of each day, try > > making a list of several things, small or large, that you've > > accomplished or that you've been complemented on. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 alcrazylife - I struggle deeply with this too. I appreciate your candid post. I second everyone's suggestions and am going to try them myself. Thank you for bringing up this topic. ;-) > > > > > > > It sounds like you need to start seeing what you've done right > > instead of what you haven't done. At the end of each day, try > > making a list of several things, small or large, that you've > > accomplished or that you've been complemented on. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 Hi , I Really relate to your story. As I was reading your post I wanted to share something that has been a God send in my life. It is called Enneagram. It is the study of personalities. It gives us a better understanding of ourselves and others. It explains our personality under stress and helps us become aware as to know what to do to when we are. It is very involved but if you look it up on the internet there are some great sites that do an on-line test then explain the 9 different personalities very basically. There are many books on the subject too. " The Enneagram made Easy " Wagele The no 1 personality is the perfectionist and describes what you were saying. For the 1,self growth is to take on more traites of the 7 personality. Which is the eternal optimist. Each 9 personalities have their strengths,weaknesses. Once I explored my number and worked on the strengths it was life changing. I really recommend this study to everyone. Of course the Enneagram has different levels of healthy personalities as well. When mental illness is concerned it is another story. It is best for people that are out of denial and trying to come to terms with themselves and what makes them tick. Sometimes it is hard for people to see their number. Admitting you are a perfectionist will help you so much in reading about what will help you heal. I hope this helps. Out of all the books, counseling and self help courses I have done over the years Enneagram has been life changing. I still visit a chat group once a month with others and we discuss and learn about each other. Enneagram suggests that the perfectionist to be more childlike and have some FUN...... I too find I have perfectionist qualities. When I get to serious on life,I make time to go play. My husband is a 7 so this is very easy to do. When I worry and try to control things it drives him nuts. So he keeps me on the straight and narrow. Good luck, Keep posting we are all here for you, Kazam x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 Thanks everyone. I took the Eneagram and I am a 2. > > Hi , > I Really relate to your story. > As I was reading your post I wanted to share something that has been a God send in my life. It is called Enneagram. It is the study of personalities. It gives us a better understanding of ourselves and others. It explains our personality under stress and helps us become aware as to know what to do to when we are. > It is very involved but if you look it up on the internet there are some great sites that do an on-line test then explain the 9 different personalities very basically. There are many books on the subject too. " The Enneagram made Easy " Wagele > The no 1 personality is the perfectionist and describes what you were saying. For the 1,self growth is to take on more traites of the 7 personality. Which is the eternal optimist. > Each 9 personalities have their strengths,weaknesses. Once I explored my number and worked on the strengths it was life changing. > I really recommend this study to everyone. Of course the Enneagram has different levels of healthy personalities as well. When mental illness is concerned it is another story. It is best for people that are out of denial and trying to come to terms with themselves and what makes them tick. > Sometimes it is hard for people to see their number. > Admitting you are a perfectionist will help you so much in reading about what will help you heal. > I hope this helps. Out of all the books, counseling and self help courses I have done over the years Enneagram has been life changing. > I still visit a chat group once a month with others and we discuss and learn about each other. > Enneagram suggests that the perfectionist to be more childlike and have some FUN...... I too find I have perfectionist qualities. When I get to serious on life,I make time to go play. My husband is a 7 so this is very easy to do. When I worry and try to control things it drives him nuts. So he keeps me on the straight and narrow. > Good luck, > Keep posting we are all here for you, > Kazam x > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 Thanks everyone. I took the Eneagram and I am a 2. > > Hi , > I Really relate to your story. > As I was reading your post I wanted to share something that has been a God send in my life. It is called Enneagram. It is the study of personalities. It gives us a better understanding of ourselves and others. It explains our personality under stress and helps us become aware as to know what to do to when we are. > It is very involved but if you look it up on the internet there are some great sites that do an on-line test then explain the 9 different personalities very basically. There are many books on the subject too. " The Enneagram made Easy " Wagele > The no 1 personality is the perfectionist and describes what you were saying. For the 1,self growth is to take on more traites of the 7 personality. Which is the eternal optimist. > Each 9 personalities have their strengths,weaknesses. Once I explored my number and worked on the strengths it was life changing. > I really recommend this study to everyone. Of course the Enneagram has different levels of healthy personalities as well. When mental illness is concerned it is another story. It is best for people that are out of denial and trying to come to terms with themselves and what makes them tick. > Sometimes it is hard for people to see their number. > Admitting you are a perfectionist will help you so much in reading about what will help you heal. > I hope this helps. Out of all the books, counseling and self help courses I have done over the years Enneagram has been life changing. > I still visit a chat group once a month with others and we discuss and learn about each other. > Enneagram suggests that the perfectionist to be more childlike and have some FUN...... I too find I have perfectionist qualities. When I get to serious on life,I make time to go play. My husband is a 7 so this is very easy to do. When I worry and try to control things it drives him nuts. So he keeps me on the straight and narrow. > Good luck, > Keep posting we are all here for you, > Kazam x > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 Thanks everyone. I took the Eneagram and I am a 2. > > Hi , > I Really relate to your story. > As I was reading your post I wanted to share something that has been a God send in my life. It is called Enneagram. It is the study of personalities. It gives us a better understanding of ourselves and others. It explains our personality under stress and helps us become aware as to know what to do to when we are. > It is very involved but if you look it up on the internet there are some great sites that do an on-line test then explain the 9 different personalities very basically. There are many books on the subject too. " The Enneagram made Easy " Wagele > The no 1 personality is the perfectionist and describes what you were saying. For the 1,self growth is to take on more traites of the 7 personality. Which is the eternal optimist. > Each 9 personalities have their strengths,weaknesses. Once I explored my number and worked on the strengths it was life changing. > I really recommend this study to everyone. Of course the Enneagram has different levels of healthy personalities as well. When mental illness is concerned it is another story. It is best for people that are out of denial and trying to come to terms with themselves and what makes them tick. > Sometimes it is hard for people to see their number. > Admitting you are a perfectionist will help you so much in reading about what will help you heal. > I hope this helps. Out of all the books, counseling and self help courses I have done over the years Enneagram has been life changing. > I still visit a chat group once a month with others and we discuss and learn about each other. > Enneagram suggests that the perfectionist to be more childlike and have some FUN...... I too find I have perfectionist qualities. When I get to serious on life,I make time to go play. My husband is a 7 so this is very easy to do. When I worry and try to control things it drives him nuts. So he keeps me on the straight and narrow. > Good luck, > Keep posting we are all here for you, > Kazam x > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 Hi Alcrazylife, Just read your post here and yes it relates very much to the 2 traites. Hope it helps you. The 2 is the giver and is always putting others needs before theirs. The 2 becomes stressed when giving too much and not caring for themselves and becomes burnt out. For the 2 the growth is towards the 4 personality and looking after themselves thinking they are special and treating themselves as such. I have studied Enneagram for 17 years now and I still learn from it. Once we have self awareness it is the key to healing. So happy you gave it a go. Kazam x > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 Hi Alcrazylife, Just read your post here and yes it relates very much to the 2 traites. Hope it helps you. The 2 is the giver and is always putting others needs before theirs. The 2 becomes stressed when giving too much and not caring for themselves and becomes burnt out. For the 2 the growth is towards the 4 personality and looking after themselves thinking they are special and treating themselves as such. I have studied Enneagram for 17 years now and I still learn from it. Once we have self awareness it is the key to healing. So happy you gave it a go. Kazam x > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2011 Report Share Posted January 11, 2011 Hi Alcrazylife, Just read your post here and yes it relates very much to the 2 traites. Hope it helps you. The 2 is the giver and is always putting others needs before theirs. The 2 becomes stressed when giving too much and not caring for themselves and becomes burnt out. For the 2 the growth is towards the 4 personality and looking after themselves thinking they are special and treating themselves as such. I have studied Enneagram for 17 years now and I still learn from it. Once we have self awareness it is the key to healing. So happy you gave it a go. Kazam x > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2011 Report Share Posted January 12, 2011 It has already helped me understand a little bit of why work stresses me out so much too. > > > Hi Alcrazylife, > > Just read your post here and yes it relates very much to the 2 traites. Hope it helps you. The 2 is the giver and is always putting others needs before theirs. The 2 becomes stressed when giving too much and not caring for themselves and becomes burnt out. For the 2 the growth is towards the 4 personality and looking after themselves thinking they are special and treating themselves as such. > I have studied Enneagram for 17 years now and I still learn from it. > Once we have self awareness it is the key to healing. So happy you gave it a go. > Kazam x > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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