The Voice of Knowledge - Don Ruiz

[Guest guest]

I was reading a book this morning by Don Ruiz called " The Voice of

Knowledge. " In his book he talks about the Prince of Lies inside of our heads.

This is just an incredible concept. Growing up with a BPD nada or fada, you

hear often what is not said...when the BPD neglects you for selfish pursuits -

you tell yourself that you must not be good enough for the love of your parent.

When the BPD attacks not your behavior but who you are - you tell yourself - you

must be a horrible being inside of your soul. When the BPD invalidates your

every feeling - you tell yourself, what I feel is wrong, and therefore, I am

wrong and invalid unworthy of validation.

What happens is that when we grow up, this abusive voice continues to live

inside of our heads. It tells us we're fat, stupid, ugly, unloveable, unworthy

and so we tolerate the bad behavior now not only from nada or fada but also in

others. We actually enable it by continuing to use the defense mechanisms we

developed as children. If our own parents couldn't love, validate and care for

us, we must be unworthy. The problem with the voice inside of our heads is we

become complacent with those words that spin, spin, spin and make assumption

after assumption causing us always to seek validation outside of our selves.

There is no truth in validation outside of ourselves. We seek love outside of

ourselves. There is no true love outside of ourselves. We seek worthiness

outside of ourselves always sacrificing self to please others. The thing is,

there is no worthiness outside of ourselves.

Add to that voice from our youth, continued reinforcement from nada or fada in

our adult lives and we may find ourselves in the company of friends or lovers

who also reinforce what the voice always repeats. When this goes for years

unchecked, we become the very thing we feared nada or fada saw in us. But, it

is not nada or fada making us feel this way any more. It is us. It is our

belief in the lies we have heard inside of our own heads for too many years.

Don Ruiz writes about an answer. That answer is stop believing yourself.

Also, realize that the lies that live inside of your head also live inside the

heads of others...nada, fada, friends or lovers. We also must not believe the

lies that they tell us. If we really feel something they tell us is true, we

can change us for our own betterment IF we agree. If we are told we are stupid

and we fear that might be true, we can learn. If we are lazy and good for

nothing, we can go get ourselves active and find something we are good for that

is healthy for us. We can hear the stories made up from lies we tell ourselves

and we can hear the stories made up from lies those around us tell us but we do

not have to believe them. If you have children, you might hear them tell you

some whopper of a story. You listen to them enjoying the story and the

creativity it took them to come up with the whopper. But, you do not believe

the story and you know it is just a story. You do not react other than to

either appreciate the entertainment for what it is or depending on the story

told, you sit with your child and discuss the facts. It is the same when we

hear these " stories " from other people. We can consider the entertainment just

THAT, entertainment, or we can focus the teller of the story on the facts - we

can calmly state at an appropriate time that we have a different opinion without

giving any credence to their stories. We can also set boundaries and tell

anyone continually telling us hurtful lies that we will not stay and listen.

The challenge for us when we hear the lies as stories from others is that we

have heard the lies we tell ourselves all of our lives and when someone tells a

story that touches on our painful lies and exposes us it is uncomfortable and it

hurts. It hurts because somewhere someone told us a lie that hurt us and we

began to believe the lie because it was told by someone important to us

(trigger). To disengage from this core-level involuntary seeming reaction, we

must realize that the story teller is only telling a story based upon the lies

he or she tells him or herself. If it resonates with the lies inside of our own

head - we have to stop believing the lies. Don't believe ANY Lies. Stop

them...stop assuming just because bad thoughts about you come from inside your

own mind that they are true.

We were all born beautiful, loving and trusting souls. If you were born to nada

or fada, that knowledge that you feel is true in the heart of you was obscured

from you. You were told lies. You were made to believe lies. Its time to stop

listening to them. Ignore them. Make no more assumptions on them. Quit

expecting everyone to tell the truth and act as they should. Know the stories

and lies from the truth. See the entertainment for what it is...like a bad or

terrifying movie - you don't have to be in that movie. All you need to do is

have a firmer loving view of yourself. The voice inside your head doesn't need

to tell you about that. You can observe the lies in action. My own liar inside

my head is telling me right now to shut up, what the heck do you know about

anything, no one wants to read your stupid words - you know nothing. That voice

lies. My value is beyond description of the voice inside my head.

The way I feel is that I always was a kind, loving and compassionate soul. This

has always been in conflict with the lies inside my head. I did not put them

there at first but I kept them there by believing what was not the truth.

Despite what nada and fada did or said or didn't do or didn't say, I remain a

kind, loving and compassionate soul, open to love, open to trust and will work

so very hard forever more to ignore the lies until the voice inside my head

becomes too weak to speak to me any longer. I don't need that kind of brain

chatter. The only thing I need to get me through this journey of

self-realization, healing and validation is love...love from the inside,

validation from the inside, trust from the inside. Nada's voice is just her

story and its based on the infinite well of lies she tells herself. I wish her

love and I wish her truth...but I will no longer listen to her lies!

Many Blessings and Much Healing and Love to all of you!

Jaie